cyndiloowho

I thought of this thread during an intimate moment tonight.

This is a very timely thread for me. I have serious 'effed-up' body issues, as well. For me, the only thing that is really helping is therapy. (as in "psycho") But, along with the weight issues are a host of other things, to it will be a loooong process.

I asked my surgeon this very question and he asked that I wait til I got home from the hospital. I think I ended up waiting a few days post-op, so the day after I got home from the hospital, maybe? Who knows, that morphine PCA was pretty strong, I may have said or done just about ANYTHING on it. :thumbup:

Did it hurt? Very much so. Very much worth it. If I ever do it again I will very quickly ask for a morphine PCA. I had my last baby in Water in my backyard with only a chicken finger as pain control, so I am no baby when it comes to pain, but GEEZE!! :thumbup:

What else would Anal-Eze be used for? lol..... :thumbup: Anal sex is good. (Geeze, Freudian Slip much? I accidentally typed 'anal sex is food'....eesh!) <---it makes a person make that face, though!

How could it be approved by the FDA? This belt is neither a food nor a drug. :eek: Also, it is basically a cheapie version of a TENS machine. Sending electrical impulses to your fat will not work out your muscles. A TENS machine (used in physical therapy) plugs into the wall and is quite powerful. I doubt that this contraption has that much power. (does it run on batteries?) I would call a foul on this one and look for something else.

I love to hear other moms talk about how they miss nursing. I do, too! :cool2: It was that thing I could only do for her.....then him.....then a 'her' again. :smile: AND.....it was so nice to finally sit down, kick back, relax and just "be". Just be mom and baby. And I love,love,LOVED that 'milk drunk' look they would get just before they passed out from satisfaction. makes me want to have another........:w00t: (with two toddlers at my feet.....) :tt2: ETA: I think I need to permanently leave this thread before I ovulate! :frown:

I AM very defensive of breastfeeding because I think it DOES need to be defended. There are women who decide not to breastfeed because they think people are going to be offended, they will be accosted by people who think they should "do it in the bathroom", etc. Really, it just seems like it 2008 we should be "so over it".

I think you are missing the point, gadget. Imagine that you were one of those kids being raped my mom's boyfriend/dealing with FAS. You see a news report of a bunch of anti-choicers at a rally and,(If you have the cognitive ability to reason like this after all the brain damage from the drugs in utero) you think, "I wish someone cared that much about my life." Read the book Freakanomics (suggests a corollary you may be uncomfortable with). While you are at it, read The Moral Imagination. Speaks to the early history of abortion and how the church was FOR it. It was shocking, so say the least. I will just come out and say it, "I am MORE CONCERNED about babies/children who are already born than the ones who are not." If their mothers cannot/will not take care of them then I think they are better off not entering the world than living this sort of fate. ETA: In a perfect world every single child who was conceived would be wanted/cared for/loved. We don't live in that world, though.

Oh, and just to add re: breastfeeding in the bathroom.... If anyone would have EVER suggested that I sit on some disgusting public toilet to nurse my baby I would have suggested that THEY go eat in a dirty, smelly bathroom. YUCK.

I breastfed three kids in public and anywhere they were hungry. None of them would ever tolerate any covering. Have you ever SEEN a woman breastfeed? It is a baby up against the edge of a mom's shirt. No boob showing. The side of my stomach showed, that was it. If boobs can be consistenly used to sell everything under the sun then why aren't people getting all up in arms about THAT instead of nursing?!?!?! I mean, lactation is what they are actually for, not the selling of automotive parts, beer, etc. And another thing about the coverings: they seem to broadcast, "HEY, I'M NURSING OVER HERE,......DON'T LOOOK!!!" to me it makes it MORE obvious, not less. But, then again, maybe I just breastfeed differently. Like I said,"baby cheek up against my shirt, not taking my top off". maybe others do it by disrobing? I can't believe, in this day and age, we have not learned to overcome this. Babies are in the hospital in China from tainted formula, other babies "needed formula" when Katrina happened. Hey, maybe if we all encouraged breastfeeding more these wouldn't be such health issues!! Maybe if we encouraged nursing, you know, using boobs for baby-nourishment instead of "man-catchers" we wouldn't be having these problems. (I had problems nursing all three so I get that it isn't easy for everyone, but if we could get past the whole ,"gee, should women nurse in public?" question it would help! Public Breastfeeding IS LEGAL!!)

Wow. Seriously, just wow. I have heard all of the arguments before from the do-gooder crowd for 'why every unwanted pregnancy should be brought to term'. What the anti-choice crowd always seems to ignore, though is that many unwanted children live absolutely wretched lives. I worked in child welfare and saw so many of these unwanted kids. When you are born with FAS/drug addicted and THEN you get to go home with your neglectful mother/father who are so busy doing drugs that they don't heed your cries, then you get to grow up to get raped repeatedly by your mother's new boyfriends.........yeah, I think they would have preferred not being born at all. I'm talking about such horrible, misearable lives that I couldn't even comprehend it prior to working there. I was pro-choice before I started doing child welfare investigations. I became much more so after that. I agree with the pp's about not wanting children/taking steps to prevent pregnancy. I have three kids who I LOVE, but they were lucky enough to be born to parents who loved them and treat them that way. It used to break my heart that my kids got loved while the kids I saw at work got.....well, the shaft, basically. I totally respect people who don't want to have kids. It is not for everyone and that is okay. I have close friends who don't want kids and can only take mine in small doses. (they are wonderful, but there are, ATM, two toddlers. :rolleyes2: ) Anyhoo, would the anti-choice crowd please tell me this: why do you focus so much attention on the "unborn" and yet completely ignore the ones who are already here and no one wants to adopt them because they are "so damaged"???? Focus your attention on the ones who already exist in this world and help them, maybe?

My first two children were both conceived with the use of Clomid. I don't know what my BMI was at the time, but I weighed about 240 then and I am 5'4". (Incidentally, our third child was conceived spontaneously when second child was only 9 months old!) While I have never heard of any BMI rule for Clomid, I can understand why some doctors create their own guidlelines. They have to work within THEIR comfort level for how much risk they are putting their patients in. Pushing a morbidly obese woman to get pregnant is risky. I hope that everything goes well for you with the surgery/PCOS. There is a chance that you may lose enough weight with the band that your fertility could kick in on it's own! (that does happen!)