No question--life after surgery is very different than life before surgery. I was as prepared as anyone could be (I first went through the surgery prep process around 2000, then again starting in October), but like most things in life, reality is different than theory. On top of that, while we have similar experiences, we're all different. Depending on how your surgery was done, you can possibly have it reversed, but you're probably not going to be any happier after that than you are now. Therapy can help...if you let it.