KatW

Also meant to say> I would not like it people that I have a professional relationship made comments about my appearance either positive or negative. Different strokes for different folks! Kat W

Perhaps in the workplace, men feel uncomfortable commenting on a woman's appearance. It could be perceived as an inappropriate comment in a work environment. Do you feel like the men NEED to compliment you? What is in it for you if they do/don't? Congrats on your weight loss- we all need cheerleaders in our corner, but why is it so important that male coworkers comment on it? Perhaps it would be more meaningful coming from friends and family?

I can really relate to what you are saying. When you are not in shape, exercise doesn't feel that great! I think our bodies are a little sneaky and they complain alot when you first start working out. On top of that our brain tries to tell us that we are too tired, don't want to etc! You are not a failure! Exercise is just like any new thing. When it is not a habit and you have not yet experienced its rewards- creating a new habit is hard! The key is just to keep getting back on the horse. Failure would be to say I am never going to exercise, so get off my back- and you are not doing that! I work as a personal trainer with alot of people in your boat- Heck, I became a trainer because I built your boat! My experience is that if you start to be regularly active at a low intensity at first- you will be more likely to succeed. The regular HABIT is more important than worrying about how hard you are working. That can come later. Still, I think that the first 3 weeks are the hardest. You will feel more tired, not more energetic. After that.... I think it gets easier. Keep pluggin. You can do it! Think of everything you have already accomplished. KatW

THe swim can be cold! I just did one last weekend and the temp in the Water was 61 F. EEK! The common wisdom is wetsuit if the temp is under 68- at least that is what I have been told. I think I had an advantage over some of the other swimmers with my extra bodyfat. I would have loved to have had a wetsuit, but it is almost impossible to find one that fits me correctly at my weight. As a man, you should be able to find one. They give you a HUGE ergonomic advantage in the water- just make sure that you get a tri wetsuit. The scuba or surf kind is constructed differently and would be a real pain to swim in. I wish you the best! Tri is so much fun! My husband is an extreme endurance cyclist snob (joke) and he likes to say that triathlon is for athletes who want to suck in 3 sports! He cheers me every race and loves to be my support! I would love to talk with yo more about tri- KatW

Thanks for the feedback! KatW