Josette

Dr. Phil welcomes Sharon Osbourne onstage, where she immediately kicks off her shoes and gets comfortable. “You’re just as busy as ever," Dr. Phil observes. "You’ve got your show in the UK, and you’ve got the X Factor [with Simon Cowell]." "We’re in our third season now," Sharon says proudly. "I can’t believe it. I’ve actually lasted that long without getting fired!" "So, how is Ozzy?" Dr. Phil asks. "He’s wonderful. He’s busy making a new record and getting ready to tour next April," Sharon shares. "Three years this Christmas, [he's] clean and sober." Dr. Phil comments on the tumultuous journey that Sharon chronicles in her new book Extreme. "You’ve climbed a lot of hills. You’ve done a lot of things that most people wouldn’t stand up to," he says. "I’ve been in a lot of holes too," Sharon admits. "Big, deep holes trying to get out." When Dr. Phil asks Sharon about her numerous cosmetic surgery procedures, she rolls her eyes in mock exasperation, then concedes. “I’ve had my boobies done twice. I’ve had a face-lift, neck done. I haven’t had anything done to my eyes or lips," she confesses. "Arms cut and lipo'd. Legs lifted and lipo'd, tummy tuck. Bum lifted and a little implant put in." “Doesn’t that hurt?” Dr. Phil asks. "It hurts, but then again, there’s no gain without pain," Sharon says. "Nothing comes without a price." "So, you’re, like, 50 percent new,” Dr. Phil teases. “So, is there anything you did that you wouldn’t do, if you had it to do all over again?" "The boobs. It’s such a pain," she says. "And you never get it right. One’s always different." Dr. Phil reveals that Sharon is considering removing the gastric band that she had installed in 1999 to lose weight. "Why are you afraid to take this band off? You have anxiety about that," he says. "I do, because I know myself. I know that the first thing I’ll do is eat, eat and eat," Sharon replies. "You’ve been wrestling with this since you were 14. You say you float from size 8 to 22. You said, ‘I go to bed every night thinking about what I’m going to eat tomorrow,'" Dr. Phil points out. "Oh, sure. I go to bed and I have these menus floating in my mind,” Sharon admits. “I’m pathetic.” "What you’ve said is that you think about food all the time, and that when this [band] comes off, you’ll now be able to eat all of those foods without all of the side effects. You’ll gain the weight, but without all the acid reflux, and that sort of thing," Dr. Phil notes. "You’re going to manage it now with, I think you said, therapy. Lots of therapy. But you don’t need lots of therapy. I can tell you how to do this, where it doesn’t have to be an issue in your life ever again.” "How can I ever go past those drive-thrus without looking and smelling and thinking, 'Oh, here I am. I’ll have a large fries and a shake’?” Sharon wonders. "You Celebrate with food. You comfort yourself with food. You entertain yourself with food. You companion yourself with food,” Dr. Phil points out. “Food is tied to every emotion.” Sharon agrees. "I’ll even pick the spot where we go on holiday because of the food," she says. Thumbing through his copy of Extreme, Dr. Phil says, "There was a point in this book that really stuck out to me. You said that you were actually attending a family session for rehab, and you said, 'They just told us like it was. Their father was a drunk and their mother wasn’t there for them. It was unbearable. I didn’t cry. They would only have been tears for me.’ But that was one of the most painful moments in your life to hear that. Why?" "I suppose I had a big thing in life that I wasn’t connected with my mom. I felt my mom didn’t love me. She wasn’t mean to me. She didn’t hit me. She didn’t do anything to me. That was the thing," Sharon reveals. "I just would hear other people in these group sessions talk about their moms and dads and I couldn’t breathe. I had to run out of the place.” "But the truth is, you’ve lived your life for your children. I know two of your three children,” Dr. Phil says. “They are connected to you in an amazingly close way. So, that had to be surprising to hear [the counselors] say that, and then you think, ‘Are they feeling what I felt with my mother?'” "I always tried to not make the mistakes that I felt my mom made with me,” Sharon says through tears. "It seems like you’ve always kind of thrived on crisis. There’s always been crisis in your life, whether it was the kids or it was Ozzy," Dr. Phil observes. Sharon says, “I was born into crisis. The family where I came from, there was always drama, always a crisis, always a whirlwind going on. You’d get carried up in it." Dr. Phil mentions some life-threatening incidents that Sharon has endured. "You’ve had the battle with cancer, and you never blinked. You just kept moving right on through it. Then Ozzy’s accident on the ATV. He’s in a coma and you don’t know if he’s going to wake up," he says. "Then the kids and the drama that they have brought into your life. Is the silence going to be deafening now with the kids gone? It’s just kind of you and Ozzy at this point, and that makes me worry that you will start using food in a way that will blow you back up. And I’m not just worried about how you look in the mirror. What I’m worried about at this point is your health. If you gain all that weight with your history of cancer, you don’t want all of that weight on you." "My body was failing me before I had the band on. I couldn’t move. In the morning to get out of bed, to put my feet down on the ground, it would be two, three minutes before my feet would stop hurting," Sharon says. "That’s no way to live." In Extreme, Sharon details her often volatile and violent relationship with Ozzy. "What did you hit him in the back of the head with the day that he broke your two front teeth out?" Dr. Phil asks. "A bottle of gin or vodka. I know it was some white stuff in there,” Sharon recalls. "It struck the back of his head.” "That could have killed him," Dr. Phil points out. "I know,” Sharon says. "That’s why when people go, ‘Oh, you were abused,' oh please! I gave as good as I got. I know how to stick up for myself.” "You told me two years ago, and you have it in the book too, that you guys have moved 27 times in 25 years." "Oh, don’t be shocked,” Sharon tells the audience. "You say you’re getting ready to move again." Laughing, Sharon says, "Do I have a problem?" "No, people do that in everyday life; they just call it camping,” Dr. Phil jokes.You said something that I thought was really interesting about empty nesting. You said, ‘The kids were such a big part of my life and now they’re gone and they say they need me, but that’s just bulls**t,'" Dr. Phil says. "I need them,” Sharon says. “I think I need them more than they need me." "That’s not necessarily a bad thing," Dr. Phil says. "I think it’s sad,” she says. “It sounds very sad to be at 54 and say, 'You know, I call my kids 10 times a day each: ‘Where are you going? Who have you been with? What’s going on?’ I think it’s sad. I should learn to back off.” "You didn’t tell me you were calling them 10 times a day," Dr. Phil teases. Dr. Phil warns Sharon that when the gastric band comes off, she needs to put something in its place instead of food. “You’re going to wind up with the same results if you don’t change your entire lifestyle about this,” he warns. “You’ve got to make a decision that this is something you want to do for yourself, not for somebody else, and it’s got to be a lifestyle. You’ve got to change your thinking. You’ve got to change your feelings. You’ve got to change your environment. You’ve got to change your impulses.” When Dr. Phil tells Sharon that she needs to exercise as well, she says, “Oh, shopping! Running to the store.” “If there is a way that I can set up for you to go through this, where you don’t have to diet, and you don’t have to be hungry, and you don’t have to suffer, and you don’t have to eat carrots and broccoli all the time, would you do it?" "Yeah," she replies. He and Sharon shake hands.

AMEN!!!!! Good luck on your date. I'll be waiting to hear how it went. I dated online for a couple years. Met some nice guys. Met some that were only one date wonders. But it all was a learning lesson. I posted full size pics on my profile because I didn't want someone responding to my add that didn't like heavy women. I also put on there that I was Large (the biggest size) and I still met my husband and we've been married 2 years this coming Monday. I hope you have a GREAT time. I put on my profile "I'm a fun loving woman and even if we're not attracted I'm sure we'd remain friends" and I have remained friends with some of the men that there was no attraction with.

You guys are awesome. I'm just not motivated right now. Sorry

we're falling off the MAP! AHHH!!! I couldn't find the thread for a minute. So I'm trying to motivate myself to start an exercise routine. I've been dealing with depression and it's hard. It's dark when I leave for work and dark when I leave work. Plus I feel like I'm missing my mom a lot more this year. Last year I think I was just in shock and now I feel really lost without her. I'm still bouncing around the 30 pound mark and I don't know if I should get another adjustment or not. I get a LOT of stuff stuck and I think I am ignoring when I'm full or just plain eating too fast. am I alone?

Alex... Don't be too hard on yourself. Hearing the word Cancer can turn your life upside down and even after the prognosis, etc. it still leaves lingering effects because it shocks and scares you to your very core. Hang in there. You'll get back on the wagon. You've done a great job so far. Just give yourself a little bit of mental/emotional recovery time.

Josette is my actual first name. Most people call me Josie though. Hello everyone! My mom got Josette from the 70's soap opera Dark Shadows.

Hilarious!!!!! I have everyone at work doing it.

Dr. Boutt in Port Huron at the Lapband Center of Michigan

I have PCOS and have a lot of symptoms of it. weight gain in the midsection instead of the buns and hips. darkening of the skin around the neck and underarms. hair growing on my double chin. I hate it! Plus periods that were nonexistant. Since surgery in august I have lost 30 pounds and got my period on my own for the first time in my life. I see the darkening on the skin fading also. I'm very happy.

you know it girlfriend!!!!

I was 393 when I got the band. You're not too heavy. The choice is purely yours but if you don't want gastric bypass then don't do it! GOod luck hon!

I know I'm a little late but here's my big hug for my sister!!! Love ya! *************HHHHHHHHHHHHHUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGG************

how the heck did you do that???

I love the color BLUE! All the orniments were gifts from family and friends. We had a christmas wedding so we asked for orniments for gifts. Got a bunch of em!

What I've learned so far: That I need to work with my band and pay attention to what it likes and doesn't like. example: it doesn't like bread... so stop trying to eat it! That it's my friend and it's doing it's job. Even though you now eat small amounts you still need to pay attention to what that small ammount is. That I'm grateful that I did this every day. That it's a slow process and I'll get there!:clap2:

I saw that on oprah... I went from a B or C cup to a D cup. I was AMAZED!...and Hubby was happy...HEHE

Right now I"m reading For One More Day by Mitch Albom. He's my favorite Author. I've loved "Tuesdays with Morrie" and "the five people you meet in heaven" by him. Really inspirational and leaves you with things to think about.

What is that supposed to mean? I dated for a few years on a few online dating sites before I met my husband. We met on Yahoo personals. I wasn't honest about my weight when I first started dating on them but then decided "What the heck... why do I want someone that doesn't like me for ME!" so I posted pictures full body and got several replies. I wasn't short on dates. I met my husband in July of 2004 and we were inseperable. He moved in with me in September. We became engaged in November and were married in December. This December 18th will be our 2 year wedding anniversary. My friends weren't kidding when they told me marriage is work. It is work but it's so worth it. I get very emotional still when I think about how he's always there for me and always will be unconditionally. I'm very thankful for online personals! Hang in there! I went through duds before I found my man. Justs ignore the idiot that left you that msg. He'll end up with some emotionless eye candy that takes him for every cent he owns and he'll deserve it all!

Did anybody see that news story with Katie Couric last night? They were doing a three part segment about teen's and obesity in america and yesterday was part 2 and they showed two teens that got lapband and how well it worked for them but they didn't go into enough specifics in my opinion. They did state though that it's reversible but at the end Katie is like "that seems pretty drastic! but I guess it works for them"

I totally agree Mandy. I haven't seen the lion commercial. I just don't feel people understand that it's not even close to as drastic as gastric bypass.

What is Reiki?

marijuana they say makes cancer patients very comfortable. Melissa Etheridge swore by it. I know she's now in remission. I wish my mom had done that but she was VERY against illegal drugs. I know the cancer center of america in Chicago is very into holistic treatment.

Brandy...when do you wanna get together? I'm totally up for it. I burst out laughing at the hold hair in the stall comment. hahaha. I need to start working out. I threw up so much over the weekend that on Monday morning I was very depressed about it. I thought about the past week or so and realize that I'm trying to get away with eating things that I just can't eat anymore. sometimes I can..but most of the time I can't. Bread just is a no go for me now. So Monday morning I decided to conciously think about the choices I'm making and so I've been really careful about what I eat and how I eat it and I haven't thrown up since Sunday night. almost THREE days with no PBing! it's such sweet relief. I think I'm starting to figure this out!

since my third fill I've been throwing up atleast once or twice every day. Things I can eat today I can't eat tomorrow. It's annoying as hell. I can't eat early in the day but late at night I can, which bugs me because I find myself pigging out at night because I know I won't beable to eat again until the next late afternoon. UGH!!! I threw up twice at thanksgiving dinner. My family was like "there she goes again" at dessert when I got up just to go pee. How embarrassing! Guess I'm just frustrated. I'll get over it. You're all doing so great. I admire you!

I'm still going between the 25 and 30 mark...its been weeks!