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Darktowerdream replied to James Marusek's topic in Website Assistance & Suggestions
Thank you. I saw a response to what I now realize is spam on a post of mine. The original comment was removed. The Russian trolls and spammers are out in droves Now, especially when it comes to politics. -
Eating out after Gastric bypass surgery
Darktowerdream replied to Darktowerdream's topic in Gastric Bypass Surgery Forums
Weird first post...what are you selling via PM? Was this comment removed? I don’t see it or who they were responding to. I guess my posting this was a mistake. i rarely eat out, if ever - I can’t afford to. I’ve tried to go for my mother if she asks me. They don’t eat at expensive places and I don’t go just to get a lot of food to bring back home. I was never a bring home leftovers type of person. Each person has their own way of doing things and their own dietary restrictions. I just happened to end up at a buffet but it would have only been around $6.99 for a kids portion. Yeah I was upset about the price and the fact that my company didn’t care to ask about a kids portion but everyone seems to have the mindset buffet means eat more than you paid for or it’s not worth it because you can’t bring it home. the next time I went out was thanksgiving, I go where the other people with me want to. And that was a disaster for me. I went into sensory overload from the crowds and lack of options on the menu, I should have just talked about the medical card to get kids portions or a smaller portion of a regular meal for a lower price, not all places let adults get kids portions. But some do. I guess it doesn’t matter, I think I should not have posted this. I have my own personal issues with this subject of going out to eat while others just do it regularly. I will stop posting my own topic, and maybe will see how to remove this. -
Touchy subject.... stinky poo and gas :(
Darktowerdream replied to Pattianne's topic in Gastric Bypass Surgery Forums
Try chewable digestive enzymes and probiotics. I also think harder to digest foods and food sensitivities trigger it worse. -
NEW here... surgery in 4 days... and doing a hysterectomy at the same time... anyone else??
Darktowerdream replied to realtorme's topic in Gastric Bypass Surgery Forums
I think it’s a relief to have them done together, my gallbladder needed to come out and that’s when I started wondering if gastric bypass surgery was a possibility, I’d fought my weight so many years but didn’t think back then that bariatric surgery was even an option. I fought my weight alone until I couldn’t anymore. My hysterectomy was separate in 2010. My doctor did open surgery but I actually found that recovery easier and the scar less visible. Mine was for many rapid growing fibroids all over, left my ovaries but had to take my cervix due to fibroids. My uterus was retroflexed towards my spine and had a pedunculated fibroid hanging off it also near my spine. just be aware hysterectomy can lead to issues down the road. Could be because my surgery was more extensive. It kind of changed my body shape too ... I never knew until eight years later. But likely I was more vulnerable to these issues because my muscle weakness from chronic illness. I’m glad you were able to have both taken care of. I wasn’t sure if I’d wake up with my gallbladder removed or not. Thankfully he did, tuned out to be chronic inflammation. I hope you have a smooth recovery. -
I’m glad yours went well. And most of all that you had good company. I don’t mind being around others even if I can’t eat. I usually make lunches for my mom. Im just Terrible in social settings, and I can’t control sensory overload or when it happens. I’d have been ok had we gone to a quieter place with a slower pace. Sometimes you just want family but it’s hard when you really have no one.
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I have to admit mine went terribly. I don’t have family, it’s just my mom and I. There is her boyfriend and friends. We went with him and one friend to Cracker Barrel for thanksgiving and I thought I would do my best to handle it. I had suggested another place but they wanted Cracker Barrel and options are limited. Even with a kids meal. I’m supposed to be almost at regular foods but have limitations from chronic illness. Between the stricture, problems with my esophagus not related to surgery, and dysphasia. it didn’t help that he changed which Cracker Barrel we went to, and went to one I’d been to a past thanksgiving with my mother and two of her friends (a married couple) and it was a disaster. The place was packed and loud. The day prior we had gone to bingo. I made the mistake of walking there. And it set off my pain and fatigue. I didn’t sleep that night. The next day I was exhausted and my nerves rather raw. We got seated and it was in the middle of a packed dining room. I’m on the Autism spectrum and have sensory processing disorder. It was hard to think with all the loud voices and a screaming child and noise all around me let alone plan what to eat. the moment we sat down the waitress came and said very loudly are you all here for the thanksgiving feast. And my mother’s boyfriend says very loudly what do you think you can eat? I’m very sensitive about people asking what I can eat. The question sent my raw nerves into overdrive and I felt sick and I had to walk out. Instant migraine. he didn’t get it. He needs to lose weight he has a lot of bad health issues. He keeps asking what I eat or can eat. My circumstances aren’t the norm. And I have never been comfortable being out on the spot or people analyzing what I eat or don’t eat. Even if he is interested in bariatric surgery what I do won’t be the same as what he does. Plus he’s not in the right head space. If he were really interested he would take a look at his bad habits and how he eats. And he would make an appointment with a bariatric surgeon and nutritionist. i try to advise here but circumstances are different for me, I just wanted to have a nice relaxing thanksgiving. I ended up waiting outside to get away from the noise. While they enjoyed their dinner. Not understanding how all my senses were attacked and I was ill ...
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What percent of your stomach do they take out?
Darktowerdream replied to Ninja-slash-nerd's topic in Gastric Bypass Surgery Forums
Even doing research it’s hard to find exactly the size of the stomach but my nutritionist class I had to attend explained everything in detail about how the stomach is roughly the size of an egg. You gradually build up how much you put in your new pouch at a time. Starting with 1 oz in the first days to 2 ounces And eventually 3-4 ounces. Everything depends on your personal tolerance. like others have said it’s not just about stomach size aka the pouch that’s separated from the remnant stomach. It’s the rerouting of the intestines. I ended up having my gallbladder out at the same time because of chronic inflammation. Be aware it’s extremely common for rapid weight loss to effect the gallbladder and eventually needing it out. i saw your question and it made me think of my own. All my research I can’t quite figure out what that remnant portion of stomach does. I thought the digestive juices go through it and into the diverted small intestine. when I asked my surgeon about wether someone could have ulcers in the remnant portion he acted like nothing goes through it, I couldn’t get a clear answer. I’m having pain and spasms in that area and can’t quite get answers. Except they can only check inside that portion of stomach surgically. but not trying to scare you I’ve a load of issues from lifelong chronic illness. But gastric bypass was the best option for me having GERd and metabolic disorders and the metabolism of a sloth ... I questioned and worried a lot about the size of my pouch. I kind of wish they had taken the remnant portion of stomach away. I won’t ever want a reversal even if possible ... -
16 years after roux-en-y
Darktowerdream replied to Jo Lord. 16 yrs post-op's topic in Gastric Bypass Surgery Forums
I’m going on 7 months post op RNY but also have chronic illness. Surgery exposed existing conditions and now I’m seeking explanation of it and trying to cope since it’s neurological and even with a diagnosis there is no fix. The first is the mechanism that keeps liquids especially from going into the lungs when you swallow (epiglottis?) drinking water and even thinner protein shakes feels like getting waterboarded. I ended up with aspiration pneumonia after surgery which revealed the pre-existing symptoms/ condition. I was told to thicken the water but it’s contrary to my small pouch and im sensitive to the ingredients in the thick it up product. It’s also horrible stuff. But more dense foods also cause trouble, apparently my esophaguses is extremely sensitive. I have stricture and the second dilation caused a mucosal tear at the ge junction. Too liquid not good, too dense not good. I’m trying to find what I can tolerate. I try to drink a little tea or 5 calorie ocean spray juice but it’s painful. I don’t even think the thickener would help. i have similar issue if I have to be active where I need to bend at the waist and I’ve eaten I get sick. So now I try not to eat or drink while doing laundry ... I have a small sliding hernia but they say it’s not a problem ... but you’d think it would be if a person is symptomatic. fluffychix is right in that you should discuss a possible hernia with your doctor. it’s awesome that you maintained your success for so long. I hope that I can get there too, despite all my medical conditions. -
Briachioplasty & full thigh lift
Darktowerdream replied to Ruth1ess's topic in Plastic & Reconstructive Surgery
I had quite a few surgeries including breast reduction many years ago, and hysterectomy in 2010 and other surgeries on my feet and Achilles’ tendon and such, but for some reason had a hardest time with the first days after my RNY. The compression garments are probably the hardest to get used to, at the same time you will find yourself depending on the security feeling they give. Once you are home that’s when things will start to get a little easier. For now maybe find new scenery in the hotel to rest. Recovery is difficult when walking is hampered, I’ve had enough of those ... take it slow and easy. And remember to elevate your legs often. im slowly thinking about the idea of plastics. And when I can I find others here who have had it. I haven’t been able to get out as much and I’m thinking about when I want to try again. I get rashes on my belly, under bust and thighs from being allergic to my own sweat. It’s so hot here so often. It would be nice to be comfortable in my own skin sometimes without sagging excess skin. Your recovery will take time but I hope once you are home it’s smooth sailing for you. -
Autistic bariatric patients and psychological clearance
Darktowerdream replied to cajunredpanda's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
cajunredpanda that is awesome news! Congratulations.:) it’s the first steps to a long journey and we all hit some bumps in the road but I knew you would finally get approval, you’ve worked so hard to earn it. And now as you head to the steps toward surgery you have a place to share and people who care. Thank you for sharing the good news! -
Eating out after Gastric bypass surgery
Darktowerdream replied to Darktowerdream's topic in Gastric Bypass Surgery Forums
Well ok. I just wanted to share in my perspective with autism spectrum, very limited calories and diet and that I think it’s good to face “temptation” and say no. As well as figure workarounds for my restrictions due to chronic illness. my metabolism is slower than a sloth. And sometimes an actual nibble of something won’t hurt. If it’s a nibble or two. BUT Nibbles can add up. If you are not mindful. and I worked on that. Mostly I wanted to mention the medical card. I have no family. It’s just my mother and I and her friends. I had gastric bypass surgery. I eat as little carbs as possible out of necessity and very little to no sugar. I understand it’s your opinion about buffet. My pouch is very small. Aside from the salmon sashimi and two small shrimp the rest was nibbles. And the desert I nibbled with chopsticks was the least sweet there and less sugar than fruit. im sorry your comment makes me feel I need to justify my post. Close after surgery I wanted to treat a good friend of my mother’s to Father’s Day dinner. I went and just had a drink and a few nibbles of sweet potato. I am trying to go with my mom and her friends once in a while. They love eating out. Last time I had a couple shrimp. Just 4 ounces. You can get appetizers during happy hour. Which we missed I just took a few of my mother’s she eats less too. But for now I know to have protein first and make sure to have extra protein with less calories if I might eat out. But I’d never really tested it and it’s hard for me since I rarely go. I figured a buffet was a big test and I knew the place might have what I wanted. And I resisted all my old favorites from many years ago. I’d never been a buffer person ever but figured there’s way more options to get simple protein than ordering a meal. And it was where my company wanted to go. it wasnt an expensive buffet and would have been less had my company listened to me and asked for the children’s portion price with my medical card. But I am not very good with people and had a hard time adapting to the situation more than I was the food nor was I tempted that I couldn’t resist. Soup to me is empty calories and not enough protein. I thought about it looked at it and told myself no. buffet doesn’t mean eat it all. They had nice healthy protein options too. I only nibbled the fresh cooked fish since it didn’t sit too well. And I can still only manage soft foods. (My personal medical issues) Maybe nibbling from plates and eating carbs or ordering “healthier option meals” works for you after sleeve. That’s great. I’m sorry your response came of condescending and assuming I overate or wanted to. I just thought my mom would like me to join in. They planned to go and I decided to try to go along. Just because my company ate a lot did not mean I had to and for years I’ve been working on not eating something just because someone I’m with eats it ... It’s not always about just food. -
ALWAYS A FAILURE
Darktowerdream replied to Sweetsoul's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I forgot to say sometimes it’s not the actual salt that’s a problem. But hidden ingredients like maltodextrin, hidden fillers in meats, etc, can’t think of them now. I’m hoping I don’t sound preachy as I am far from perfect. -
Briachioplasty & full thigh lift
Darktowerdream replied to Ruth1ess's topic in Plastic & Reconstructive Surgery
Thank you so much for sharing this. I was in a dark place after my gastric bypass surgery. My body went into sensory overload and I was bed bound because of its impact on my chronic illness. I want thigh tuck so bad at some point and maybe some other things. I’d definitely have to go to Mexico probably would do BariatricPal Mx hospital. I do worry about those first days after even though I have high pain tolerance it takes its toll body and mind. I am sorry your first days were hellish and hope that each day of recovery gets better (and it will) I’m glad you shared an open honest story since that’s what I look for. And the result is already looking great. -
RNY scheduled for Dec 4. Day 4 of liquid diet...
Darktowerdream replied to fashionista2000's topic in Gastric Bypass Surgery Forums
Best thing to do is have protein shakes that are a blend of whey and casein to help fill you up, at least until the clear liquids phase a few days prior to surgery when you want to get get your digestive system cleaned out then because that helps eliminate (pun intended) post op constipation. But for now a filling protein shake three times a day and drink lots of water. The ocean spray 5 calories juice is handy too. They have a variety of flavors though I like cran-grape or grapefruit. When you get to clear some people drink isopure clear (it comes in glass bottles) and a rich bone broth is helpful though honestly my body can’t seem to tolerate broth. And couldn’t tolerate the Isopure But everyone is different. I didn’t think much about hunger. You can make your own jello and add extra flavor. I think the one thing i wish I had for the clear phase, and post op was BariatricPal pink grapefruit protein shots. they make good juice flavor protein. i personally liked PEScience select protein powder (A well formulated blend of whey protein isolate and casein. ) mixed with ripple milk. Wished I’d found that earlier on too. best of luck to you. -
Eating out after Gastric bypass surgery
Darktowerdream replied to Darktowerdream's topic in Gastric Bypass Surgery Forums
I’m sorry I’m tired so I forgot to add that the card is available on the BariatricPal store, I got it free with a purchase at some point. I think some surgeons and nutritionists offer the medical card as well (I’ve seen it mentioned here) not all restaurants honor it but it doesn’t hurt to ask. It specifies that you’ve had bariatric surgery and can only eat very small portions and requests the ability to either order a smaller portion at a regular price, an appetizer or a children’s menu item. Though the buffet was the same Food options as anyone else just a children’s portion price. Not all children’s menus are just junk food. And it helps to learn to navigate restaurants for healthier options and smaller portions. I rarely eat out so don’t have much experience post op. But the card just helps show that you will eat less and hopefully be able to pay less. -
ALWAYS A FAILURE
Darktowerdream replied to Sweetsoul's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
@Sweetsoul oh how I understand how hard it is. I am 7” shorter than you. I can’t excercise due to chronic illness but I understand avoiding the gym. In all reality exercise does not help with weight loss. Building muscle (which I cannot do) helps burn fat, but I meant to say is I’ve been here before and I fought so hard the first time and it’s hard, I was losing my ability to taste food and I wasn’t getting hungry or full signals but I felt that needs to just want something good, something rich with flavor, strong taste. Never was a snacker either, love salt need salt fo orthostatic intolerance. I tried vegetarian back then too when I couldn’t tolerate meats. I had been doing extreme low carb and calorie counting to lose weight And I finally did but it was extreme under 10 net carbs and very low calorie. but wanted to add more vegetables and vegetarian foods. I was feeling sick. And guess what my weight crept up. Somehow I managed the best I could but always on the brink of gaining until I eventually ended up having drastic weight gain. Maybe because my gallbladder went bad and I wasn’t processing fats but I was eating more greens, kale salads, vegetarian foods and 800 calories yet gaining, no snacking, I felt like a total failure. And I eventually was able to seek out gastric bypass surgery. And have had to recreate my way of eating. I’m finding salt and fats an issue now and vegetables even though I relied heavily on them before I can’t eat much salt and will need to treat my orthostatic intolerance some other way. But you are right in your approach to understanding the problem. I feel you I do. It’s my fear long term so I’m working so hard on what my long term habits need to be especially as things change. Don’t be afraid to reach out to your surgeon and the nutritionist you worked with too and re-evaluate where you are now. I know it’s easier said than done I’m afraid of my surgeon visits after some issues from my own surgery. That they don’t understand my medical issues outside of surgery. But you won’t know unless you take the step. try to find other things to compensate for what salt offers. It’s hard. I hope my response isn’t too forward. To obnoxious. You came pretty far and maintained well and maybe at some point you can take a step further don’t worry. I’m slow in moving forward with food, I have food issues. You are fairly tall too and some people are naturally curvy. I just know you didn’t fail especially because you are giving it good honest evaluation and thought. -
Yes it’s almost always additives and hidden filler ingredients in even foods like chicken that can cause tolerance issues. But also our new sensitive gut needs to be treated like a baby when it comes to trying new things.
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I think give it time, I couldn’t tolerate chicken, tuna, sardines during the soft phase no matter how slow or how wet i made it but honestly my body was having a tough time with meat And fats prior due to my gallbladder and food allergies. I did tolerate beef better but grass fed organic beef, and vegetarian organic chicken (green wise Publix store brand) I would just buy and eat less or when chicken went bogo. It depends on the quality meat. But for now I’m working on high protein veggie burgers that have pea protein and vegetables. never cook things dry, keep meat portions smaller too. also can I suggest getting a good digestive enzyme like garden of life chewable, something with a range of enzymes that will help you with the hard to digest foods. I buy from vitamin shoppe or vitacost. I dislike our local gnc it’s a franchise ... but if you have a good shop you can ask about digestive enzymes. also as I said, give things time and try them in small doses even with sleeve. (I had bypass) digestive enzymes can help with preventive for developing GERd.
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@Kimberly3 my pain also started in my back and traveled to my chest under my rib cage. Dealing with chronic pain I actually tended to downplay it. I have high tolerance but at some point I was like enough is enough please do something because pain is exhausting. to the OP. Persist in getting answers and a solution that works for you. Mine was having my gallbladder removed during my gastric bypass surgery. My doctor almost didn’t want to because of the risk but thankfully he did. it is extremely common for rapid weight loss especially after bariatric surgery to cause gallbladder problems that need surgery to remove it (cholecystectomy)
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@FluffyChix, @Sheribear68 @GreenTealael just a thank you for making me feel ok to write this post that I put off out of sheer exhaustion due to post exertional malaise from myalgic Encephalomyelitis chronic illness that effects my entire body life and self. And autism spectrum that makes me fear speaking openly in a forum. My words are not brief enough so I apologize in advance. And if I can’t stay on topic or veer in various directions too. This has been a long time coming a longer fight than my surgery alone. I was reminded of my mom saying how when I was little I said something like what do I do when I get big and my clothes don’t fit as if I’d suddenly be grown up. i had a very unexpected weight loss win that came upon me sudden and overwhelming. I’ve very little energy not due to surgery. that’s a long story but I’ve been trying to make my bedroom a real bedroom I’ve never settled in since moving and my bathroom finally is almost done being fixed and bought a nice MCM dresser for very cheap on Houzz but my ocd I needed drawer bins to organize myself. I had my clothes in plastic bins in the closet. (Another phobia) After surgery I started to wear compression Capri shorts or pants both because they fit a size range, for orthostatic intolerance aka pots benefits and to hold in jiggle. I also wore oversized men’s t-shirts. I was always a denim and tshirt person. I don’t usually have a lot of clothing. I had a bin in my closet for a long time with brand new shorts that didn’t fit Levis I think size 6 and size small men’s tops. I had another bin with size medium compression bottoms that I got after surgery. And then the bigger siZes that were much too tight by the time I had surgery, I got exhausted getting too big for my usual denim shorts so fast. I buy when I find them cheap less than $10 no more than $15. I’m on a tight budget. I found a pair of size 6 jeans in target and thought these will never fit me. But they were awesome for $10 beautiful matte black with buttons and short enough for me, I thought they wouldn’t fit. I thought My size smalls will never fit me. Even if they run bigger than usual. Which they do. I admit which is fine. I wore a large size xl on the size range and switched to the smaller size large and large men’s. In the past I wore tight size 16 jeans and plus size tops. I’ve been there before. a week or so ago I said I will try on the jeans and was shocked they fit and then all the clothes fit and my old bras no longer fit but I had back ups of undies and sports bras put away and now I’m glad I did. and I had to finally organize my clothes in my dresser kon mari style and I’ve never had this much clothes. Never. Might not seem like much but to me it is, That even the denim shorts fit so it’s overwhelming. I need to get them in a Smaller size for hot weather again. But needed pants for when it’s chilly. And I started looking at swimwear. I haven’t even done that ever in my life. Though I want Bermuda length bottoms and rash guard due to wrinkly saggy skin. All of a sudden my clothes are smaller than I thought they could ever be again. my body image I don’t feel small still. Just oddly bony in all the wrong places. And too big in others. And wishing for skin removal. And wondering if anyone has discussed this with their surgeon. I suddenly have the desire to be able to wear shorts that I probably didn’t since I was eight years old the last time I might have been considered thin and maybe a Tom boy. I want to be that kid and not how old am I? I know I can’t get it back but when you fight your body for so long you want simple things. Other people let it roll off their backs. Look away but we see ourselves every day. i think I feel if I post this it will jinx it that my weight started to go down a little faster than I expected. I’m still a ways away from goal at my height. But I’m ok with that. I’m exhausted and overwhelmed at the same time, my eating needs to be careful and calculating and I slip up in small ways. Find myself tempted by old habits developed because I was losing my ability to taste the food I was eating and having to back step from adding salt or butter or ketchup or carbs. And realizing some things can’t change and I have to keep adapting. I still don’t know why I can’t taste food properly one would think it would help I thought surgery changed it but it s going back to the way it was so I need to adapt again. You still want foods to taste good the bites you do eat. We struggle with our perception of food and nutrition. And not always fitting the norms while trying to succeed. I admit I added evening coffee because it helps things move along and sometimes sleep a little better but some days it’s not as effective at calming my heart rate or stress due to ADHD, orthostatic intolerance. I can’t be as active as most people either. gotta keep the gut moving. But I had some problems there too I’m still working on. My gastroenterologist is the only one in the area and tests showed colitis of some kind but not my colonoscopy. Plus he did the balloon dilation this time and tore my esophagus. And I’m not due to see my surgeon for a few months, I’m needing to see a new neurologist, spine doctor, cardiologist so I’m the opposite of most in needing more doctors. Weight loss isn’t a easy answer or a cure but don’t let it hold you back from trying, I am also dealing with crazy emotions and can’t process my weight loss. And can’t explain how I feel because this is a permanent change in a life where I can’t control anything else. I’m now in menopause due to recent surgery and need to manage new chronic conditions along with existing ones. and ones yet to be diagnosed. Ie. A neurological cause of dysphasia muscle weakness. my thoughts have been scattered and exhausting and I’m in a difficult head space because of where my life couldn’t go. And won’t. it was either give up and lose because of my chronic illness or keep gaining weight. And lose even more of myself. The surgery just exposed weaknesses that I didn’t expect but need to adapt to. The weight was killing me faster hurting me more. My mom has someone in her life and he needs to consider bariatric surgery he is 6’ over 330lbs has diabetes, high blood pressure is on a lot of meds, thinks he is eating healthy enough, thinks protein balances carbs and sugars, needs knee replacement. says he knows what’s right. But he judges me and my weight loss journey, comments how I look and how he thinks I should feel about it rather than focus on working on himself. And I’m finding that hard. Because he is capable but he wants the doctors and pills to do the work. And maybe because I never trusted the doctors or pills I see things differently. But it’s hard to be around people who watch how you eat or don’t eat and think it too strange for them to understand. ive spent my life on the outside and people can’t understand my chronic illness, or what my weight was doing to me overall, and that I will never be well but couldn’t continue on the path of gaining weight and the burden it put on my body. i wish someone could edit this so it could make sense. I write things and then panic about what I said. I hold back words most of my life and now I am trying not to in hopes it can reach the few people who feel as weird as I do. Struggle with health, body issues, life itself. And just want to have a body they feel good in for themselves and skin they can be comfortable in for themselves. Not just image but how we feel in clothes how we feel in our life whatever type of life it is. And not let the people around us define it or alter it yet not have to disconnect from them either. I don’t have much in my life and I’m hanging on as hard as I can to what is left. And my weight was part of this to try and have something I never could. I see my age I feel older and I’m trying each moment to stay on my feet upwardly mobile and not bed bound. Which honestly I am much of the time. Not by choice. And no one in the Weight loss journey talks about this side of things. The people that can’t be as active but struggle with food issues too. And that diet and exercise, especially exercise can’t fix. I haven’t had a normal life my body has been old before anyone else. I live around 90 year olds more active than me. ive been writing this over an hour and I’ve exhausted myself and Im putting it out in a public forum and that scares me. Especially since it’s scattered and long. Like all my other posts. I try to check in and answer what I can and took a while to come around to post my update. I’m shocked at six months and I’ve gone from 5’ 0” over 208 lbs BMI of 40, to around 130 lbs. I weigh myself dressed so I don’t feel shocked at changes. I weigh myself daily. Log my food the best I can. Do this for you and no one else, do this because you are ready even when you feel you aren’t. Do this for your health but also your wellbeing. Do this knowing that you need to still put in the work. Do this knowing each persons experience is different but yours is yours and as important as anyone else’s. im most resistant to changes but sometimes we have to adapt or die. Ignore the numbers or what other people desire, and do this for ourselves. I need a brain edit. I’ve said too much but only touched the surface. I know this is a public forum and I probably didn’t stay in a linear train of thought. My hormones are all whacked and I see life staring at me taunting me. We just want to fit. Even when we think we never will. I know my experience isn’t much and I’m terrible with words. If this needs to be removed that’s ok. I just felt I needed to say them.
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Overwhelming wins and losses
Darktowerdream replied to Darktowerdream's topic in Gastric Bypass Surgery Forums
I crashed hard and can barely move except my finger on my tablet .... Doing the best I can but sometimes slide back when I try to be here to help my mom with things like laundry lunch and errands. But then can barely move or function for days afterward but it’s been my life forever. -
ALWAYS A FAILURE
Darktowerdream replied to Sweetsoul's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
You haven’t failed, maybe fallen into old habits but never failed. Evaluate where you are and start fresh. Maybe seek out advice of your surgeon and a nutritionist. You did good just remember it’s a lifelong journey of change. It’s ok to fall down, get back up and remember you didn’t fail. I have to remind myself every minute to let go of what I fear are failures. With more things in my life than I ever discuss. post what surgery you had and where you started and how you progressed and others can reach out to help advise you. -
I’m sorry I forgot about this thread, BariatricPal Mx hospital in Mexico has flat rate surgery and offers a credit plan. https://www.unitedmedicalcredit.com/start-an-application/?pid=001E000001A4l7u&sel=true
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Can't stand the taste of crushed meds
Darktowerdream replied to ColoradoCanuck's topic in Post-op Diets and Questions
Push push push for doctors to find a liquid alternative to meds. I couldn’t tolerate crushing them. I was told months before pills and small ones at that. Still can’t do any but small and take vitamins in liquid or gummies. when I had to I crushed and dissolved in hot water and just put up with the taste ... -
@AJ Tylo you are right about carbs after bypass especially. never heard of crackers or protein bars week two. Get protein, enough but not too much. I just started trying soft protein bars. I dumped the first time. Second time didn’t. Be careful what bars. You need protein first, some fiber and little to no sugar or carbs. I recommend oh yea one bars, no cow bars, BariatricPal bars, quest bars maybe. But not this early. you can get protein crisps but also not this early. I’ve fatigue and weakness from lifelong chronic illness but you need vitamins and protein and nutrition and avoid things that causes the dizziness and weakness. Hard for me to judge since those are some symptoms of chronic illness but I back off foods that cause trouble after trying them slowly and twice. If they cause dumping or stall I back off. dont rush to solid foods or even soft. Slow and steady and back track if you get sick. And if you have issues talk to your surgeon or his assistant or nurse.