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We are LUCKY.. we had no complications.. I was just like you and o never threw up and o worried constantly that I was stretching out my little pouch.. I didn’t and you won’t.. we got this and we will kick butt!

My surgeon asked me with such sincerity to follow the liver shrinking protocol diet so I’d have the best outcome given my huge hiatal hernia.. I dug in knowing changing my behavior was a huge part of my success... I knew my surgery was only a tool and that it would still require a lot of work on my part... I’m in it to win it and cheating would mean cheating myself.. I’ve said it before .. if there was a food quota o hit my pizza and chocolate quota like 20 years ago , so... I’m all set . If anyone k ew the old me you would think it was a miracle that I could change my behavior .

Feb 4th gastric bypass.. now have no more sleep apnea... no high blood pressure and no more freeking acid reflux !!... I do now have better self esteem and a new lease on life!

I spent years with horrendous acid reflux... smoking causes acid reflux, Barrett’s esophagus and ulcers... it’s two fold for WLS patients... please dont!!

I had a whole hour and I think she wanted to go for coffee cuz we really hit it off.. kidding..the questions must be standard though , she asked if I had ever been abused ( yes) and about my finances.. she said transfer of addiction is common.. asked if I ever wanted to harm myself... the only time I fibbed was whether I ever felt I had a food addiction.. i said no because I got the impression I was suppose to deny it... isn’t it obvious a lot of us have a food additions ... she was nice and hey, anytime anyone wants to talk to me about me ( it’s usually the other way around) I’m game!

I only have one parakeet ( little Jerry Garcia) he’s green and smart and my little buddy... we all have a lot more in common than not, welcome!

Sista!!!

This was my biggest concern as well. I had gastric bypass feb 4th and within days I felt I could consume more liquids than most and I PANICKED... when I went to regular food I had more restriction . Chicken and salmon for sure were hard and I had to chew like crazy and I still get the foamies from some meat... I still feel I can handle higher volumes but, I’ve lost 66 lbs and feel just because I COULD have more it doesn’t mean I should.. it beats getting sick all the time. Please don’t be like me and worry the surgery didn’t take.. you will do fine, promise!

I have 6 .. probably because my surgeon ( Dr. Laura Doyon, an Angel !) had to repair my hiatal hernia. No more acid reflux either... I’m obsessed with pineapple and navel oranges .. I don’t have fruit every day, a few times a week but I Jones for those darn oranges!

By July I will be 20lbs from goal weight and I live not too far from many beaches. I haven’t set foot on one in 25 years unless it was at dusk looking for sea glass covered from head to toe..the dreaded hunt for swimwear is daunting.. i might be smaller than I have been in years but everything is jiggly and or veiny and I KNOW no matter what beach cover up it will look sa- wrong....I shouldn’t obsess but I am.. why oh why did I not do my surgery In my 30s when there was hope to do it all up..went out to dinner with hubby this weekend and it took 2 hours of throwing things on the floor to find anything descent and I ended up covering it all up again... I just have to stop with my unrealistic expectations but it’s hard. I want to like what I see.. I’m sad 😢

I know .. I don’t want to sit on the side lines either.. I have to Love my self flaws and all.. I was always all or nothing kind of gal and I need a new mindset.. thanks love!

I like to think my change is a metamorphosis!!.. good article’

The mind has to catch up to the body I suppose . Had RNY surgery February 4th and did the liver shrinking diet 2 weeks before , all in all I’ve lost 66 lbs. and have been feeling great. Just a few minor issues but over all I regret NOTHING. Last night thoooough.. had just a little pity party for myself with the jiggly bits and wrinkly parts getting ready to go out with hubby . I have to realize I have 40lbs to go but I’m WAY past half way and I am not 16 anymore, or 29, or 40.. and I’m going to have some extra skin.. weight training soon and hey , I said before .. if ya can’t tone it , tan it.. Jergen’s self tanner and bronzer in one that is.. only down fall, that craps messy as hell.. anyhoo, you are all my sunshine and I wish you all happiness. Health and great success on you’re journeys!

I didn’t have it.. I was petrified I would !! Not everyone does and if you do , complain ..ask for help....get up and walk

Confidence is a sexy thing... remember that!! I wish I had listened to that advice years ago... love yourself flaws and all and someone else will too.. I promise

I regret not having it before varicose veins and wrinkles.. like 20 years ago when there was some hope of a bathing suit without a frilly skirt , sarong, or cover up !!! But hey, I look a LOT better and feel great ... even if I don’t ever turn a head or two ever again... sigh

So... A little back information is required for this story. I’m a hairdresser (36 yrs) but first I’m a wife and mom , a great friend and up until just a few months ago a caregiver for my dad (he passed just recently) I have always been a giving person ( total pushover) NEVER put myself first and have had tremendous stress trying to get my child with autism the help he needs .. all this I ATE over, and ate and ate.. it was ma thang. I was always running around taking care of all and losing track of me along the way.. this past February 4th I had gastric by pass and I am changing so much I can’t believe it.. my self esteem is great and I am becoming the woman I have dreamed about becoming for DECADES.. this to the displeasure of a few folks who I have been there for even at the sacrifice of my own health and well being..well, their pushing back, disgruntled and perplexed as to why I will no longer cater to them and I’ve had some heated debates and tears from those who were used to having me at their beck and call.. the amazing thing is I have no guilt in putting myself first but the peanut gallery has a LOT to say about it... just this week I have been asked " Who is this new woman” it will require such changes to these friendships that it might mean walking away and choosing my self for a change.. I’m really excited and I can’t believe the freedom that comes with releasing that guilt that made me be so self destructive.. I’m not the woman I was months ago... and I’m darn glad!!!

You won’t know till you try .. I have gone many times.. it’s debatable if the 12 steps can work on an addiction that’s impossible to stay completely clear of since we need to eat to live..many are successful... drinking , drugs . Sex and gambling can be walked away from... food temptations are hard to break because we can’t put our addiction down and walk away.. that doesn’t mean it’s impossible... if you believe strongly that a power greater than yourself can help , it’s for you .

Put it in the framework that you are doing this to be s better parent, for more energy and a longer life for her . I wouldn’t dwell on the guts and gore of the situation , just reiterate the positive things that will come with s healthier you..kids are smart , I’m sure she will worry.. encourage her to tell you all she’s feeling so she’s not scared and trying to be strong., it will be great, you’re giving her the gift of a healthier you!

And it is Good Thing, I could have written your post but I did it even longer, 44 years with late hubby, still appeasing up until my RNY 9 months ago and like you, some want to me to return to the old Status Quo, well it will never happen, I am now Strong, resilient and under new management-ME and Only ME. Oh I still can be nice to other people but it will be on a More Adult Basis. The family Doormat has permanently retired! Under new management!!! Love it!!’ My new mantra! Thank you

My neck is so wrinkly and lined and I look in the mirror and sigh..then, I put on my size 12’s ... easily, walk up the stairs without feeling like I am dying... dance around with my dog and feel my ribs and sayYAAAAY !!!... then I see my wrinkly neck... repeat

Preach... it SO hurts the wallet

You are right to feel slightly neglected.. call them and tell them that!! Your journey still needs support!

YAAS.. sign me up!! Looks a lot different

Definitely a big difference.