Carrot64

Just like we release the lbs. we can get and release the resentment we carry that made us eat.. forgive him even if he didn’t deserve it. My hubby is that John Wayne brooding , silent type and I still don’t know him enough to my liking ... I take what he offers. He had a traumatic childhood and he’s 67 and he ain’t changing any time soon ... of course I feel sad I can’t break the wall completely down.. I take what I can get . As much as he can give. I’m so sorry he kept all that from you.. perhaps he felt if he uttered it or made it real and to keep it secret meant it wasn’t happening ??. I am so glad of your scale success, just bask in it because you deserve it!

I think spreading hope to the Newbies and the poor surgery siblings who have complications to over come, share your stories of emotional growth with your surgery. I had a pity party that lasted a while due to insecurity whether I was doing everything right and unrealistic expectations of how I should look 4 months along. I got over myself with the support of all of you and for that I thank you .. the message I want to pass on is if you knew me and knew how ingrained my bad habits were you’d see how far I have come even through the self doubt and the need for perfection that was so unrealistic... I may not look exactly as I hoped looking in the mirror but I feel so energized, have a pep in my step, AREN'T swearing my ass off!!! The hubby is really smiley too these days .. wink 😉The positives outweigh the negatives . Tonight I’m a puddle of love for you all and send you positive vibes .. please keep supporting each other and thanks so much for the input and caring!!!

For me the chicken cannot be dry.. I make a sugar free barbecue sauce or chicken salad, anything to keep it moist .

I really didn’t know if I would dump or not and was very afraid to test the waters then a Think Thin protein bar with too much fiber made me sick for hours ... I know now I’ll have to try things at home as those have suggested. If bread and pasta and cake make me feel as bad as the dumb bar then forget it.. I’d rather not have it than feel that crappy again.. just my luck the bad foods won’t make me dump.. we will see

I was offered a free one at Dunk’s before work and my response was "Eueew, no thanks “... how rude of me , I know but I had 1: imagined the dumping 2: imagined the sicky sweetness I used to love and now have an aversion to... where was she last year ... was there even a national donut day last year?

New Englandah heyah myself.. but, I’m also Sicilian, my last meal was angel hair pasta with a cream, tomato, basil sauce and topped off with, what else but a cannoli... that is before my 2 WEEK liver shrinking diet😬

I am only 4 months out from RNY and have not tried forbidden foods so I was dumbfounded when a Think Thin protein bar made me dump and deathly ill for 5 hours at least... grapes go right through me so they are a definite NO NO.. after the Think Thin fiasco affraid to push the envelope. My love and nemesis has always been bread and pasta ( crackers , rice as well) and I am affraid just a taste will revert me to some old habits I don’t wish to revisit.. so I’ve convinced myself those trigger foods will most likely make me sick( even if I’m just talking myself into it) because I won’t go back .

Everything you say makes sense but using my own body and my own experience as it’s own proof considering the total amount of times I’ve lost a 40 lb. average ( at least 7xs in 30 years and the last time not very long ago) this , for me and my own body anyway... is different ,I lost weight in my neck, arms and legs compared to my mid section at at different rate as in the past ... the mirror and my clothes and pictures are proof enough for me that this is and feels and looks different.. and it still doesn’t change the fact that I would do it over again 10xs over to get my health back .

No, it’s a valid hypothesis... I’ve lost weight the diet and exercise alone way way to many times and never had a weight distribution as I’ve had with surgery.. I share your curiosity.

Is it just me or are people being rather aloof to me at work? Is it just me or are people being a tad snippy and not greeting me so wholeheartedly as In the past.. like when my rolly Polly . Jolly ole self came through the door and intimidated no one because I was no one’s competition just the girl at work you’re glad your not as big as?!! It’s weird that I’m being treated differently and it makes me sad because it’s NOT my imagination, my now 67 lb weight loss is ruffling feathers and it’s pissing me off that people I love ,who I’ve supported and encouraged are jealous... I didn’t see this coming . It’s a lonesome feeling 😢

It’s weird, I’ve lost weight many times before without surgery and lost WAY more proportionately on regular diet where as with my RNY my face , neck and arms thinned our really fast... now its filtered to my legs( really am all set if I don’t t lose any more there thank ya) my mid section... losing inches aboooout as slow as Continental drift... fooey

You seem to get it and I thank you for your encouragement and I’m so so sorry about your Mom.. hang in there and remember it’s not a sprint but. Marathon and tomorrow, heck even 5 minutes from now , can be a time to dig in to your journey with new enthusiasm to be the person you want to be even amongst your heartache !

Well, I don’t have a boss.. my work situation is unique. Everyone else that works where I work are average weight women and I was always the big girl who relied a lot on personality... I was small a few times in my life just not around this particular group.. I have always tried to build them up and everyone I care about for That matter.. I’m not expecting anyone to gush.. I just don’t like the weird vibe that the new me seems to drum up..

Surgery on February 4th ; RNY... all in all I was doing great, feeling great..down 68lbs as of this morning .. it’s amazing and baffling how easily you can get caught in bad head space . A health crisis for my kiddo and today being the anniversary of D-day( my 96 yr old veteran daddy past on March 28) I wanted a bagel, I wanted to graze.. I wanted my go to comfort thang!... sooo, it’s a white knuckle kind of day , lots of struggle... no hair loss yet.. been affraid to color it as it might start the process ?

It’s never too late..get back to work and you can and will get to goal! We got your back.. do r look back and don’t compare , your journey is a marathon, not a sprint!

This one is important to me because of my joint pain and muscle soreness I’ve had my whole career as a hairstylist on my feet carrying all that weight... I can get in and out of my epsom salt bath without worrying id fall and never mind be out of commission or die leaving my autistic son without a mom... I also envisioned some EMT without the ability to unsee the blubbery lump they’d have to rescue!!!... I walk faster, groan less upon standing... wear a freeking size 10 now and I’m gonna live my life to the fullest... I’m a better mom because I can focus on them and not my ailments 💜

You look dynamite!

I’ve always been an open book and that certainly was the case with my surgery.. there have been a few naysayers and some great supporters. In the end I have never been one to be successful or enjoy keeping things secret.. it’s hard to keep up just like a lie and it kind of feels like lying.. I also feel that telling those around me now gave me the extra incentive to prove em all wrong . That accountability will help me I believe whole heartedly.. So, do I wish everyone thought I did it without surgery, sure, but I feel I can be an example of how surgery can work and I’m proud of my choice.. with this said , I TOTALLY understand anyone who chooses to keep it to themselves. In some way i wish I was more of a private person .. it is what it is!!!

I’m inspired by you ... with 1 in 58 people on the spectrum its time we all learn about ASD and it’s beauty and stop looking at it as a darn diagnosis and instead as a unique quality like blue eyes or curly hair. I listen to lectures by Eustacia Cutler ( Temple Grandin’s mom) and it helped me with embracing autism as a gift but she also helped me realize I’m trying to protect him I was holding him back... good luck to you and you are , as I sad , an inspiration,

Swimming... easier on the joints ! And I also suffer from chronic pain which fluctuates daily... on good days I walk and bad days I forgive myself and get my rest...as I lost a bunch of weight though , my energy increased and I had more good days than bad...

You look outstanding !!! Congrats 💜

I’m really sorry for all you’ve been through... I will pray it’s onwards and upwards from here on in..best of luck you’ve had a rough time of it for sure 🙏

I’m witcha... 5 lbs and I’m the same weight as the hubby and I can’t believe I was 70 lbs more than him for quite a while..

My boy is graduating on the 15th.. what a small world! When I think of how far he’s come I’m overwhelmed and of course pretty scared for his future but at least he’ll have his mom longer and healthier

We are so similar 💜