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My wife had the sleeve done almost 2 years ago. She lost weight and everything was good. Then on August 4th she went to a going away party and got super drunk, then all at once she went crazy! Ever since then she has had a huge/unhealthy boost in energy. This event seems to have jump started something that has gotten out of control over the last nine months. Excessive drinking, partying, shopping, cellphone messaging with friends (100's a day), leaving the house as much as possible even for no reason, constant avoidance of anything that requires her to sit still, and avoidance of family members and friends that aren't "exciting" or don't support her acting wild. Even texting with friends for hours in bed when she should be sleeping. She also has lost some interest at her job because in bores her now and lack of caring about our marriage. It really got bad this week and she wanted a divorce so she could party without having to fight with me about it the next day. This week was rock bottom and she broke down and admitted that there was something driving her that she couldn't control. I found a few articles on line that said after extreme weight loss from a surgery, women in their 30's and 40's can experience a resurgence in hormone production. The three most straight forward ways I saw this described was that it was like having roid rage, going through puberty, and being in heat all at the same time. Her ovulation has been extreme since this started, which might be evidence of this. I also read that this could last 1-3 years before the brain realizes to shut it down to normal levels. When I told her this , she cried and said "that's exactly how I feel all the time and I can't control it". She gets jittery sitting on the couch watching TV, she feels like she's being pumped full of adrenaline all day every day non-stop, she lashes out at people who want to help, she says she has major anxiety about sitting down for 3 minute just to write out checks to pay the bills that aren't automatic withdraws, some medical and other small bills have piled up for months now. The last couple of days have been great since we've come to this realization and are going to find a way to fix it. Today sitting on the couch waiting for her friend to come pick her up she looked like a caged wild tiger ready to eat someone, BUT today she realized it was happening. She couldn't stop it, but she recognized it and said something, I was proud of her! Any other women out there experience this? Were you able to fix or suppress it with medicine?

My wife gets drunk super fast and can drink as much as her "friends " can pour down her throat . She's now an alcoholic because of the surgery and after losing 160 pounds she's starting to gain weight because of the drinking .

Small Update: My wife is going to the doctor to have her hormone levels checked but says she may not take the medicine to fix it if that's an option. She says she doesn't want to stop having fun even if it hurts me. She said today that sometimes the drive is so great that she feels possessed by a demon! You would think that having that feeling would make her want to seek help? Nothing makes sense with her anymore. My Grandpa has Alzehimer's and Dementia, and talking to her about it is like trying to convince him that he has a problem. She calls me a liar and tells me I'm crazy, and that i'm the only one who has a problem with her drinking. Her whole family hates her drinking and her drinking buddy. She basically told me to get over it and deal with it because she doesn't care what I say. She lives in denial everyday.

My wife definitely has addiction transfer. https://scienceline.org/2015/01/alcoholism-after-gastric-bypass-is-it-in-your-mind-or-gut/

I thought bipolar was an "up & down" thing? She been "up" for 9 months. She said they test her thyroid check every 6 months.