Charlar

Hey guys, Can I ask what you told your co-workers as to why you were on a special diet or why/what surgery you were having? You see where I work there are a couple of “bitchy” girls who like to analyse your lunch at the table and pass remarks on everything. For example I have my 17 stone self sitting at the lunch table with a salad and they’ll be like ‘is that all your eating?!’ Or if I get up and buy some chocolate from the vending machine they are like ‘good woman!!!’ It rattles me so much, they just love having me there at the fat girl! To be honest I am dreading having to dodge their constant enquiries. I don’t owe them ANY excuses but I just know what I will be up against -_- ANY advice would be super appreciated :) thank you!

I have not had the surgery yet but I think that's totally possible, if you add working out into your day and eating well (track calories?) then you should smash it! 🙂 Do not let them discourage you! Although do remember it's not the weight on the scales that ultimately matters but how you feel in your self and clothes, some peoples journeys are quicker than others. I wish you all the best 🙂

Hey all, I just want to know had anyone had WLS who was battling with binge eating disorder before hand? I feel quite sad, I’m just off the phone with my surgery psychologist (who was lovely) but she wants me to hold off booking the surgery for a couple of months until I get my BED under control. I understand where she’s coming from but it’s just another hurdle to jump :( thank you!

Thank you so much to you all for coming back to me

Aha I know but it’s the comments they make along with it that can get to me, they aren’t asking out of interest or to say it looks good or ask for the recipe it’s more out of ridicule I feel :( Thank you for the advice, I feel like smiling and changing the subject will be my only option but I feel like they won’t make it easy for me - it’s a silly thing to worry over but it’s amazing how it can impact your mood in work, thank you :-)

Hey :) Wondering if there is anyone from the U.K. or Ireland here? I am from Northern Ireland and would be great to chat - thank you!

Ah nice to meet you! How have you been getting on? I’m in the consultation stages of a MGP xx

Ah it is great to hear from you :-) how have you been getting on? I feel like I have a million questions to ask! So happy to find someone from U.K! I’m currently pre op but have had all my consultations except the phycologist one :-) I will message you x

Hi everyone :) I was wondering if I could ask for some help please? A quick introduction to my weight history. SO from a young age I was always overweight. Primary school I was the chubby girl, in high school I was the fat girl and in university the weight piled on even more until I got to around 16 and a half stone where the weight maintained itself. Then in the year of 2016/17 I went on an extreme diet and exercise regime where I lost ALOT of weight by myself, in the beginning it was great I felt in control and very motivated but then by the end of 2017 I had lost too much weight, I was severely depressed, lacking in nutrients, I had no friends and my weight plummeted to 6 and a half stone :(. Then in February of 2018 something just snapped in me I was tired of being constantly anxious and avoiding food so I just started eating EVERYTHING I had banned and BOOM by the end of 2018 I was back up to 17 stone again!! I understand that my body needed the food but my anorexia phase went straight into binge eating and I have been struggling ever since :( all that hard work for nothing but I was so miserable I just wish I hadn't taken it so far! Now I want to have WLS (I am going to therapy) and have been in contact with a surgeon here in the UK who is lovely, I want to take my time, heal my mind and body but I am just so down with my relationship with myself and food at the moment :( Can anyone offer any advice please? The surgeon believes the mini gastric bypass would be the best route but I would need to select the package with the 12 phycologist sessions. How has everyone's experience been after surgery? I just am afraid of going back the way I was, I never want to be like that again but I am feeling horrible at the moment :( Thank you! :) Char

Ah you are so hitting the mark about food changing the emotions! I go on a binge and don't think about what I am doing until after when I look back and realise it's been because of me feeling anxious, lonely and self-conscious. Awh I am so sorry for your loss, I am sure that was hard to hear but you have already achieved so much pushing through with the decision! It will all be so worth it! I am like you in the sense that I am 25 and I dread to think what would my health be like in my 30s! 😞 and I would rather do it sooner than later. I am already finding so much comfort on this forum, it is great to talk to people who aren't going crazy at you for even considering the surgery! Thank you so much, I am sure I will take you up on the offer 🙂

You look amazing!! Massive congratulations, especially to be so motivated years on, thank you for all of the advice 🙂 I have an appointment with the psychologist on Tuesday and then after talking to her I am hoping to work a plan towards surgery and book it! Thank you 🙂

Hi James, Yes the MGB is a new version that I think takes less time for the surgeon to do, but it seems to be getting good reviews 🙂 Yes I totally agree, the psychological element will be essential for me to work, I am almost afraid if I am going into it too soon but I think I will always make an excuse if I don't. I am just wondering how is your relationship now with food 6 years after having the bypass? Thank you for all of the advice, I will definitely be keeping that in mind! I know for the year after my body will be healing so I need to nourish it in all ways I can. 🙂

Hey Froufrou, Thank you for the advice 🙂 your so right I don't think any of us would be in this position if it wasn't an addiction and it's just such a shame that we carry ours on our waistline! Like you I know I will always have this battle and that's why I referred myself for therapy, my relationship with food has never been positive! Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to me, it is really appreciated 🙂 I am happy you have found success with the bypass

Hey Jon 🙂 Thank you so much for coming back to me. It is so nice to be able to relate back to someone even if it is over a hard situation! I am totally the same, I just don't have it in me anymore to force myself to diet and then be triggered by a situation again and let it all pile back on. Ah that is good to hear that you have minimal pain, to be honest I haven't even been worrying about the pain side as I have been a bit caught up with the mental side 😞 I think I am more anxious of having my comfort blanket of food pulled away from me? But I am crying out for change so that needs to happen! Also I am so happy to hear that you pushed on through and had the surgery, I 100% think you made the right decision based on what you've told me and I am so excited to see how you progress in your journey! 🙂 Thank you for all your advice, it's comforting to have people who know how you feel, have a lovely day! 🙂