I'm so glad I found this thread. I am getting ready for my surgery on 4/9. I've had so many people say "You aren't big enough to have that surgery" "You should just diet and excersize" "maybe you are eating more than you think" All these things come close to putting me into a fit of rage. I've been beyond serious. I've cut so much out of my diet and was in the gym 4-5 times a week, with very little movement on my scale. I am 37 years old. I have 4 kids, all boys all in sports...I want to be active with them. I don't want to wake up in pain and live in pain every day for the rest of my life. I dont want to chance my sleep apnea getting worse than it already is. I want my life back. These people have no clue what I've gone through already and what I am willing to continue to go through to be healthy again.