FeliciaLevy75

Question: If this gets more serious... how long do you keep this story going? A friend of mine asked me if I was going to tell people or hide it and I said I was going to tell people. It's not about focusing on my weight, but it's a part of me from now on. It's not a communicable disease, it's a healther you. This is you and you deserve respect and support. Don't hide it; embrace it, carry it as a badge of honor, be proud of it. ps - off topic - barbie: love the ticker and the goal celebration. =) I made mine this morning, and then saw yours. Fabulous!

One thing no one has said yet, unless I completely misread something, is that maybe N prefers bigger women (what is the term? BBW?). I see conjecture over jealousy, lack of ambition, etc. Maybe it's not that deep... maybe it's just her preference? Does it make it right that she "freaked out and ended the relationship?" Should it make someone feel better? Not in my opinion. She still should have been adult enough to handle it in a mature manner. I am not trying to be difficult, just try and consider what we don't know. I just worry when we (and I mean "we" as a broad demographic - WLS patients, successful dieters, etc.) automatically say that someone is jealous or insecure about themselves because "we" are doing what we set out to do. It's a dangerous and ultimately unhealthy outlook to have to set such stringent boundary lines between "us" and "them." It makes dating and relationships even more difficult; we will always be on the defensive. I know you don't know me from Adam, and I know that I am new here. I am not trying to offend, Leena, please know that. It sounds to me that you are very open. You deserve the same and I am truly sorry it didn't work out.

I have been looking into this for years and reading these forums for over a month. My weight hasn't changed in 5-6 years, no matter what I do, so I talked to a friend who's been through it, consulted the doctors, did my pre-op testing, and I am now scheduled. I will be banded on Thursday, May 15. I am almost 33 years old and doing this largely (ha ha?) on my own. My friends and boss are VERY supportive, but everyone in my immediate family - short of my fabulous little brother - is not. They are all overweight, unmotivated, and prone to justification. It's unhealthy, to say the least, and not something to which I need be a party. I am also starting a blog, which I will share here when it's ready to be shared. I have seen the friendliness here, the support, and really feel I have chosen the best community with whom to share this adventure.

A fellow thirty-something popping in to say Hi. I am almost 33 years old (less than a month away) and my banding is scheduled for May 15, 6 days away! Exciting stuff, for sure!

... and counting the days!

My banding is next Thursday, and cash pay for my surgery in Las Vegas is $16,100. The breakdown is $8,100 for the surgeon, $1,000 for the anaesthesiologist, and $7,000 for the hospital.