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I don't know if TriCare will pay for the nutritionist. Do you mean after or before surgery? I know for me the nutritionist and psych visits are included in the referral I have to the surgeon. It is what he requires before he schedules the surgery date. How they do it here in Beaufort is that after the surgery I have a free 6 month membership to the LifeFit program at the hospital here. I can use it if I want to but I already have a gym at my house and I can always see the nutritionist at the naval hospital here. I will utilize the nutrititionist at the LifeFit program because...Hey it's free! Well at least for 6 months after surgery. LOL

WOW I think I would jump off the bed and tackle that doctor! I hope you reach your goal soon so you can be banded. Good luck to you!

Wish I could go. Maybe next year. Will you be throwing this every year?

This morning the office was slow so I had time to reflect on all the things I have happening in my life right now. MAN I'm still amazed that I'm going to have this surgery. Well it's not official yet but I am on my way. Yesterday I met with the nutritionist and she gave me some good pointers and I know I will be asking her a lot of questions come post-op. My husband well he's my husband. He's supportive and I know that he just wants to make sure I'm not looking at this with the goal of having a quick fix. I don't want a quick fix I want to work at getting the weight off with just a little extra help. Today I made my appointments for the psych eval. I have to attend one on my own and the second with my hubby. I know this will help him get a better understanding as to why I'm doing this and what to expect as time goes on. Why am I doing this you may ask? Well other than the obvious I'm just tired. Tired of feeling uncomfortable in social situations because I'm the biggest one there. Tired of feeling like everyone is staring at me when I eat in public because since I'm big I've got to stuff my face. Tired of wearing the same clothes over and over again because I can't bring myself to buy new ones because I'm just going to get bigger and won't be able to wear that size again. I've told my hubby this he just gives me hugs and kisses and says it will be alright. He's trying to be understanding but sometimes you know the only people who truly understand are the one's that are going through the same thing. I know I'm probably overly dramatic but this was on my mind today. Will this get better...OF COURSE! It will just take time and a little effort on my part and all those awkward feelings will go away. I can't wait to go into Pac Sun and buy a sundress to wear and not feel like I'm wearing a mumu. Actually that may be a goal for me. When I hit my goal weight/size I'm going to buy a crap load of sundresses and wear them all summer. I'm going to have so many my husband is going to wonder if I have any jeans in my closet.

This morning the office was slow so I had time to reflect on all the things I have happening in my life right now. MAN :tt2: I'm still amazed that I'm going to have this surgery. Well it's not official yet but I am on my way. Yesterday I met with the nutritionist and she gave me some good pointers and I know I will be asking her a lot of questions come post-op. My husband well he's my husband. He's supportive and I know that he just wants to make sure I'm not looking at this with the goal of having a quick fix. I don't want a quick fix I want to work at getting the weight off with just a little extra help. Today I made my appointments for the psych eval. I have to attend one on my own and the second with my hubby. I know this will help him get a better understanding as to why I'm doing this and what to expect as time goes on. Why am I doing this you may ask? Well other than the obvious I'm just tired. Tired of feeling uncomfortable in social situations because I'm the biggest one there. Tired of feeling like everyone is staring at me when I eat in public because since I'm big I've got to stuff my face. Tired of wearing the same clothes over and over again because I can't bring myself to buy new ones because I'm just going to get bigger and won't be able to wear that size again. I've told my hubby this he just gives me hugs and kisses and says it will be alright. He's trying to be understanding but sometimes you know the only people who truly understand are the one's that are going through the same thing. I know I'm probably overly dramatic but this was on my mind today. Will this get better...OF COURSE! It will just take time and a little effort on my part and all those awkward feelings will go away. I can't wait to go into Pac Sun and buy a sundress to wear and not feel like I'm wearing a mumu. Actually that may be a goal for me. When I hit my goal weight/size I'm going to buy a crap load of sundresses and wear them all summer. I'm going to have so many my husband is going to wonder if I have any jeans in my closet. :thumbup:

What is Optifast? Is it a powder protein?

I also find the boards here are easier to read. I love looking at those before and after pics. I can see how the lap band has changed them and how happier they look. I can't wait until I can be one of those people.

Try www.torrid.com they sometimes have a nice selection of sports bras. Or if you have a Lane Bryant store near you they have some.

Today I just had my fitness eval and everything went great. He just spoke to me about how exercise is great for me and how I should exercise as much as possible. Since I'm already doing that I should have no trouble. I'm excited that I'm one step closer to receiving my surgery date! Tomorrow I have my nutritionist appointment and the bariatric coordinator told me that she will help me with a diet to get my weight down some before I actually have surgery. I'm looking forward to what she has in store for me. Also tomorrow I get to schedule my psych eval since my nutritionist is first thing in the morning I can schedule that right afterwards. I'm still so psyched about this everyday I know I've made the right decision. I'm finally putting myself first. :thumbup:

Today I just had my fitness eval and everything went great. He just spoke to me about how exercise is great for me and how I should exercise as much as possible. Since I'm already doing that I should have no trouble. I'm excited that I'm one step closer to receiving my surgery date! Tomorrow I have my nutritionist appointment and the bariatric coordinator told me that she will help me with a diet to get my weight down some before I actually have surgery. I'm looking forward to what she has in store for me. Also tomorrow I get to schedule my psych eval since my nutritionist is first thing in the morning I can schedule that right afterwards. I'm still so psyched about this everyday I know I've made the right decision. I'm finally putting myself first. :cursing:

Today I just had my fitness eval and everything went great. He just spoke to me about how exercise is great for me and how I should exercise as much as possible. Since I'm already doing that I should have no trouble. I'm excited that I'm one step closer to receiving my surgery date! Tomorrow I have my nutritionist appointment and the bariatric coordinator told me that she will help me with a diet to get my weight down some before I actually have surgery. I'm looking forward to what she has in store for me. Also tomorrow I get to schedule my psych eval since my nutritionist is first thing in the morning I can schedule that right afterwards. I'm still so psyched about this everyday I know I've made the right decision. I'm finally putting myself first. :cursing:

Today I just had my fitness eval and everything went great. He just spoke to me about how exercise is great for me and how I should exercise as much as possible. Since I'm already doing that I should have no trouble. I'm excited that I'm one step closer to receiving my surgery date! Tomorrow I have my nutritionist appointment and the bariatric coordinator told me that she will help me with a diet to get my weight down some before I actually have surgery. I'm looking forward to what she has in store for me. Also tomorrow I get to schedule my psych eval since my nutritionist is first thing in the morning I can schedule that right afterwards. I'm still so psyched about this everyday I know I've made the right decision. I'm finally putting myself first. :thumbup:

If you want to gather information on the RNY visit www.obesityhelp.com. They have people on there that have had the RNY or the Lap band. I'm a apart of the group but I mostly use it as a way to read success stories for either side even though I'm getting the lap band done.

Congrats on the weight loss. It's stories like yours that keep me excited. I always wonder if I'll have results like that. Keep that weight coming off and have a fun and safe vacation.

I never really paid much attention how I ate. Ever since I went to the seminar on Thursday I've been trying to chew my food throughly and not have liquids too soon before and after a meal. It's been hard but I've been doing good. My plan is to get used to eating that way so when the time comes all I have to worry about is knowing how much to eat. WOW , I never realized how little time I spend chewing my food. I always thought I spent average time eating and that everyone else was slow. :thumbs_up: I must admit because I thought about how I was chewing my food and actually made an effort to chew it to a pulp it took me a while to eat and I didn't even eat it all. Which is rare for me especially since I was eating seafood. :cursing::smile2: YUM! Another regular thing during a meal is regular refills of my drink. I had a few sips of water before my meal but didn't touch it again until after I was about to leave. Doing this helped me not have that rolly polly feeling after dinner. I guess all those times when I felt I was going to pop when all I had was 7 chicken wings is because I was fully of water too. It just amazes me the things you notice when you take the time.

I never really paid much attention how I ate. Ever since I went to the seminar on Thursday I've been trying to chew my food throughly and not have liquids too soon before and after a meal. It's been hard but I've been doing good. My plan is to get used to eating that way so when the time comes all I have to worry about is knowing how much to eat. WOW :eek:, I never realized how little time I spend chewing my food. I always thought I spent average time eating and that everyone else was slow. :cursing: I must admit because I thought about how I was chewing my food and actually made an effort to chew it to a pulp it took me a while to eat and I didn't even eat it all. Which is rare for me especially since I was eating seafood. :tt1: YUM! Another regular thing during a meal is regular refills of my drink. I had a few sips of water before my meal but didn't touch it again until after I was about to leave. Doing this helped me not have that rolly polly feeling after dinner. I guess all those times when I felt I was going to pop when all I had was 7 chicken wings is because I was fully of water too. It just amazes me the things you notice when you take the time. :thumbup:

I'm not letting the conversation with my hubby deter me from my goal of having it done and hitting my goal weight. I guess I thought since I was excited about it that he should be too but I need to realize that not everyone is going to be so gungho about it as I am. Also he needs to realize that this is not something that I'm taking lightly. We just need to be open and honest about everything during this journey if not then neither one of us will get what we need which is for me an awesome support system and for him a healthier, happier wife.

Yesterday when I got home from the seminar I was in a great mood. Just meeting with the doctor and some of his patients really helped me know that I have done the right thing. When I got home I told my hubby all about what I learned and how exciting it was to see how WLS has changed the lives of these ladies. All he could say is that the doctor has not done lap bands before. I told him it was because he wanted to wait until it was in the US for a while and that there was long term evidence of the benefits of it (He even addressed this in the seminar). He even studied under the doctor that brought it to the US. He has trained in performing the lap band surgery and does all his surgeries laproscopicly (sp?). I told hubby this and still all he could do was nit pic. It really put a downer on my mood. I tried to explain to him that I know that the doctor is just now offering it and I have done research in his background. He has been doing bariatric surgeries for years and this is the only thing he does. He is a very hands on doctor and is really supportive in your recovery and during and after your weight loss journey. When I initially told hubby that I was going to do the lap band I thought he was supportive. I told him I've done research and was not going into this with my eyes closed. I mean why would anybody just wake up one day and decide that they were going to have surgery. I hate having surgery. I don't like being put under but I've decided that this is the best thing for me in the long run. I just found out today that I have border line high cholesterol and high blood pressure. :thumbup: I'm trying not to get angry at him because I know it's his way of being worried and trying to watch out for me but he also needs to trust in my decision and put trust in my doctor. I have trust in him and if I didn't trust his skills and his abilities to do the surgery successfully I WOULD NOT be going to him. Even today I told my mother what I am going to do and she even laid into me about how I'm going to have to change and hinted at I could do it on my own. If I could have done it on my own I wouldn't be overweight to begin with. But I know my mother means well and loves me but at that moment I was just looking for someone to be excited about how I am taking charge of my health and doing something positive. Seems like the only people I'm getting it from these days are my close friends. :thumbdown: I'm not going to let these things change my mind about the surgery. Now I'm more determined then ever to have it done. If I have to have it with no support then so be it. I'm doing this for me anyways.

Yesterday when I got home from the seminar I was in a great mood. Just meeting with the doctor and some of his patients really helped me know that I have done the right thing. When I got home I told my hubby all about what I learned and how exciting it was to see how WLS has changed the lives of these ladies. All he could say is that the doctor has not done lap bands before. I told him it was because he wanted to wait until it was in the US for a while and that there was long term evidence of the benefits of it (He even addressed this in the seminar). He even studied under the doctor that brought it to the US. He has trained in performing the lap band surgery and does all his surgeries laproscopicly (sp?). I told hubby this and still all he could do was nit pic. It really put a downer on my mood. I tried to explain to him that I know that the doctor is just now offering it and I have done research in his background. He has been doing bariatric surgeries for years and this is the only thing he does. He is a very hands on doctor and is really supportive in your recovery and during and after your weight loss journey. When I initially told hubby that I was going to do the lap band I thought he was supportive. I told him I've done research and was not going into this with my eyes closed. I mean why would anybody just wake up one day and decide that they were going to have surgery. I hate having surgery. I don't like being put under but I've decided that this is the best thing for me in the long run. I just found out today that I have border line high cholesterol and high blood pressure. I'm trying not to get angry at him because I know it's his way of being worried and trying to watch out for me but he also needs to trust in my decision and put trust in my doctor. I have trust in him and if I didn't trust his skills and his abilities to do the surgery successfully I WOULD NOT be going to him. Even today I told my mother what I am going to do and she even laid into me about how I'm going to have to change and hinted at I could do it on my own. If I could have done it on my own I wouldn't be overweight to begin with. But I know my mother means well and loves me but at that moment I was just looking for someone to be excited about how I am taking charge of my health and doing something positive. Seems like the only people I'm getting it from these days are my close friends. :blushing: I'm not going to let these things change my mind about the surgery. Now I'm more determined then ever to have it done. If I have to have it with no support then so be it. I'm doing this for me anyways. Has anyone experienced this before? Is this normal?

Hubby and I had a great talk and it turns out that we both weren't listening to each other last night. LOL Imagine that! :cool2: Today we sat down and listened to each other. Turns out he was just pointing out questions that I should be asking the doc so I can be more informed and I was telling him stuff we learned at the seminar. Some where in between us talking to each other we didn't hear each other. That is something we are going to have to work on so I can continue to rely on him for support and so he doesn't feel that I'm jumping into this blind. I thank you all for your support today and hopefully my post will help others if they run into the same dilemma. Oh yeah...I did invite him to a seminar but I don't know if he really wants to go. He really didn't say anything attending but we'll see.

I will definitely bring that up to him. The hard part is actually getting him to go with me. :cool2: It's just hard that the one person that I count on the most is being so unsupportive at the moment. He told me initially that he would support me because I thought this what I needed to do. I still believe that this is the best for me but I know that he has concerns also. Tonight we are going to have a long talk about our conversation yesterday and lay everything out on the table. I want to know what's on his mind and he can know what's on mine. That way there can be no misconceptions.

You are exactly right. Ever since the children I've been so wrapped up on dealing with the family that I really don't take time for myself. He may not believe it right now but I'm not going anywhere. I need him now more than ever. He is the love of my life and I wouldn't give him up for the world no matter what size I am. He tries his hardest to look good for me and I'm going to return the favor. He is a negative nelly. He always has been. Maybe that's what attracted me to him because I'm always looking at the bright side of things so we kind of cancel each other out.

I kind of thought about that after his "rants" last night but I know he's voiced that he wants me to lose weight for my health. His big thing is that he wants me around forever not for a few years. He just thinks that I'm jumping into this without any research whatsoever and that is not the case. I've even told him so. When I had my breast reduction 3 yrs ago neither one of us did research on the doctor that my insurance set me up with and that was my mistake and I'm not happy with the way my breasts look but I didn't make that mistake again. He just needs to realize that all I need from him is his support. I know what I have to do, the changes I'll have to make, and how it will affect my life. I know once the weight comes off I will be happier which will in turn help our marriage. If one spouse is not happy then the marriage has a hard time. I'm not doing this for him or our marriage it's strictly about me. He's a good man and I know he loves me. Thank you all for your input it's nice to know that my husband is not the only one that does this. I just need to keep him up to date on every little step of this process and I know that will ease his mind.

That probably means your body is healing. The healing process can sometimes take a lot out of you. Give it some time and it will get better. Good luck on your job search when the time comes. If you need help searching let me know I do that for a living.