Why do men feel insecure when all we want to do is make ourselves feel better and sexier for them as well as for us? I was engaged for 4 years prior to my surgery and got my surgery the year before we finally got married. My soon to be ex-husband was extreamly supportive or so I thought up untill I started to drop the weight. Needless to say we were married for 6 months and then he left. I was devestated but later realized that he was the one with the insecurity problems and was never really happy for me. Well the end of my story is wonderful, I lost over 130 pounds and I am now between a size 5-7 (I was a size 22) I have met the real love of my life that has showed me support in everything I do in life. So I am a firm believer that God is preparing us for what we are going to go thru in our lives at all times and I thank him for this everyday!