Laura5683

Hi everyone, I'm fairly new on here and not sure if this is the right section to post in, but here it goes. I had gastric sleeve surgery on the 27th of February in 2018. I've since lost around 35 kilos (desperately trying to lose more/ feeling a bit stuck... but that's a whole other rant [emoji39]). I've been really beyond happy about my weight loss, I'm feeling more confident in myself than I've ever been before (a miracle, really), I obviously still have low moments and my self esteem isn't that high, but it's just good to finally feel okay in my body. Before my surgery, I was always picked on by my family (especially my paternal grandmother and grandfather), I know it came from genuine "worry", but the way it was managed just destroyed whatever esteem I had at the time. I mean in the way of always suggesting new diets (without knowing what I was currently doing), harsh or sly comments and what not. One of the worse ones was when they met my current partner, and my granny took me aside and said "he's absolutely gorgeous, now all you have to do is lose some weight to keep him!". That one cut me pretty deep. Due to the shame around the weight, I didn't tell anyone about my surgery, not even my partner. My family doesn't know that I went to hospital, and as far as my work, friends, partner or anyone else knows, I had gallbladder/gallstone surgery. I still feel so ashamed that I lied, especially to my partner. He doesn't judge and I've talked about it with him based around a "what if it was something else" concept (yes, I'm very much a "what if" person [emoji28][emoji39]), and as much as I adore him I just don't feel ready to tell him (he has gotten drunk before and shared things that I've told him, this is the one topic I don't want him sharing). Don't get me wrong, he is such a beautiful man and I love him to bits, I'm just scared that my secret won't stay a secret or that it will accidentally slip as it won't be a big thing for him. Long story short, no one knows I've had gastric sleeve surgery. I'm sure that people expect it (my mum drunkenly accused me of having it done), though I am using everything I have to keep it a secret. I was wondering if there was anyone else out there who has done the same thing or kept their surgery a secret, too. Thanks for reading my rant and making this a safe space [emoji173] Laura Sent from my SM-G950F using BariatricPal mobile app

Hi everyone, I'm fairly new on here and not sure if this is the right section to post in, but here it goes. I had gastric sleeve surgery on the 27th of February in 2018. I've since lost around 35 kilos (desperately trying to lose more/ feeling a bit stuck... but that's a whole other rant [emoji39]). I've been really beyond happy about my weight loss, I'm feeling more confident in myself than I've ever been before (a miracle, really), I obviously still have low moments and my self esteem isn't that high, but it's just good to finally feel okay in my body. Before my surgery, I was always picked on by my family (especially my paternal grandmother and grandfather), I know it came from genuine "worry", but the way it was managed just destroyed whatever esteem I had at the time. I mean in the way of always suggesting new diets (without knowing what I was currently doing), harsh or sly comments and what not. One of the worse ones was when they met my current partner, and my granny took me aside and said "he's absolutely gorgeous, now all you have to do is lose some weight to keep him!". That one cut me pretty deep. Due to the shame around the weight, I didn't tell anyone about my surgery, not even my partner. My family doesn't know that I went to hospital, and as far as my work, friends, partner or anyone else knows, I had gallbladder/gallstone surgery. I still feel so ashamed that I lied, especially to my partner. He doesn't judge and I've talked about it with him based around a "what if it was something else" concept (yes, I'm very much a "what if" person [emoji28][emoji39]), and as much as I adore him I just don't feel ready to tell him (he has gotten drunk before and shared things that I've told him, this is the one topic I don't want him sharing). Don't get me wrong, he is such a beautiful man and I love him to bits, I'm just scared that my secret won't stay a secret or that it will accidentally slip as it won't be a big thing for him. Long story short, no one knows I've had gastric sleeve surgery. I'm sure that people expect it (my mum drunkenly accused me of having it done), though I am using everything I have to keep it a secret. I was wondering if there was anyone else out there who has done the same thing or kept their surgery a secret, too. Thanks for reading my rant and making this a safe space [emoji173] Laura Sent from my SM-G950F using BariatricPal mobile app

Wups, didn't mean to post twice [emoji28] Sent from my SM-G950F using BariatricPal mobile app

Wups, didn't mean to post twice! [emoji28] Sent from my SM-G950F using BariatricPal mobile app

I remember one of my goals being to either match my partners weight or even just weigh a little less than him! Such a good feeling! [emoji173] Congrats [emoji4] Sent from my SM-G950F using BariatricPal mobile app

I have a close work friend who (at one point) we were both around the same weight. At one point the manager yelled at me using her name, a lot of people mixed us up a lot. No one really knows about my surgery, but I have lost around 35 kilos and we are still good friends. She doesn't judge my weight and I don't judge hers, though I make sure not to talk about weight in general around her because it makes both of us feel awkward. (To be fair I've always been self-conscious at any weight I've been at, and hate it being brought up, we spoke about it once and I remembered not to talk about weight stuff unless she brought it up). We are still good friends and it hasn't changed the relationship at all. I understand your fear though, as we never know what the other person is thinking or what could change. I think sometimes it can feel awkward, but if you have the connection then the weight won't really matter Sent from my SM-G950F using BariatricPal mobile app