I don't think anyone should feel embarassed about getting the band. Having said that, the only person that knows I've had this surgery is my best friend. I can't fully explain why I didn't want my family to know, but I think it was that I didn't want any expectations from them. I also know that, in the end, its up to me to use the band to help me lose weight. I'm the one going to have to make the right food choices, control my portions and exercise. The band will help me keep myself in check, but in the end its all on me.