rondawood63

I am just now starting to date again. I guess after two divorces and one other long term relationship under my belt I am a little gun shy to say the least. I really am not looking for a long term thing, just someone to hang out with and do things together that I won't do by myself. So far if anyone has asked about my eating habits, I have told them. I don't feel I have anything to hide. I am proud of what I have done and if they can't handle it then they weren't for me anyway! At least this sounds good on paper?!?!?!?

I completely understand! I confronted my father 23 years after the fact, he and I have a relationship now only with my ability to forgive him. Not a close relationship mind you. Mainly how is the weather, work, etc.... Small talk. My parents are still together, I have more issues with my mom as she knew about it when it was happening and did nothing to save me from going through that. We have a strained relationship at best. But I understand about keeping peace. And it isn't your dad's fault. But he will put it on himself if he found out. I pray for you!

It is only through the grace of GOD and lots of theraphy when I was younger that I can move past it all.

Maybe he had been told that by a number of his patients and he was just assuming. But it is great when someone can overcome that obstacle and move on with their lives. I have been asked to become a motivational speaker for incest victims and feel like I am being led to do that. Just have to find an outlet for my experiences. I do hope the lap band process does help those who have been effected by incest to move past it and lead fun loving, productive lives. Life can be good once again!

It does seem to be a major common denominator in most of our lives!

Well my weight issues started when I was around 10 years old. Up until that time I was always the thin one, in fact my mom told me she took me to the doctor when I was 2 and then again at 4 because I was so thin. Well, at 10 years old I was molested by my father and you can see in pictures the weight just piling on and the defensive posture I adopted. I went from being a free, fun-loving child to a depressed, backward little girl. Once in high school things turned around some and I became a cheerleader and officer of many different clubs but at home I was still that shy, awkward kid. I moved right after high school and I thinned up. I got married (to someone with my father's attributes when it comes to women) and I ballooned out of control again. Had two babies and kept on the baby weight and much more, just gaining more and more as the years went by. Finally divorced after 18 years of marriage and lost 120 lbs that first year. Married again and gained back 80 of that because of the alcholism I married into. Now I am single again and doing for myself. I have lost around 65 lbs now and feeling great. So I would say the reason I am fat is from self worth, self esteem and so on. I just have had to learn to love me for me. Something I have never really been able to do. I stuffed my feelings into a bowl of pasta! But NO MORE!

I am loving life after my surgery on 6-18-08. Life is so good. I have lost about 65 lbs as of today and doors are opening for me (or maybe I am actually opening them since I feel better about myself and not so self conscience about my appearance.) I am really excited to see more changes!

I am loving life after my surgery on 6-18-08. Life is so good. I have lost about 65 lbs as of today and doors are opening for me (or maybe I am actually opening them since I feel better about myself and not so self conscience about my appearance.) I am really excited to see more changes! :cool:

we have luncheons at my office too. I always bring in something I can eat and if that is all I can have than that is what I do. Last time I brought in Chili. I also bring in my small Snacks just like any other day, like apple sauce, yogurt and stuff like that so I won't have to even go backto the breakroom except for lunch time. I also tell my gal pals to keep an eye on me and not let me venture towards the forbidden room. They are all very supportive and it also helps that I have told everyone here that I have had surgery and you are more accountable when you know others are watching to see if you are being compliant!:cool2:

I too am just over 3 months out and had 2nd surgery in that time as well. And last week I had the same thing start with the hair loss. I have been blessed with ALOT of hair so I have a ways to go before I see significant hair loss, but I have read on this site before that it is normal for alot of people to start losing hair 3-6 months out. And that Biotin is a great supplement to take to help regain the hair loss. I bought my first bottle this a.m., So I am going to see what happens with it. I wonder if it is due to being put under and the effects of that, and the lessened nutrition at first being on liquids so long AND the decreased caloric intake. Just not sure!