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So I had my first consultation today with the weight loss center I was planning on going through. My insurance has already approved getting surgery, for what its worth. During the meeting, the lady asked a ton of questions, and inquired about my relationship with food. She somehow got the impression that I stress eat, even after I tried to clarify that I do not. Things at home have been a bit rocky, and my stress level has been high, so you can see where this is going. After the hour long consultation, she told me that due to stress being high, financial issues being a factor, and the fact that we moved 2 years ago and have no family or friends here (No local support group), that I was not a good fit for surgery. I was a little floored, but took it like a champ. I had an appointment already scheduled following that one, with a physician, and she encouraged me to see him regardless because ultimately he'd be working along with the surgeons and may have a different opinion. We met for a little over 40 minutes, and he questioned me about the traumas I'd experienced as a child, and followed up asking about how often I turn to food for comfort. I don't feel I do (And neither does my husband, nor my best friend of 20+ years), and told him rarely, if ever. He said, and I quote: "Mmm.. I disagree with you there!" Uh? Okay..? I figured I'd humor him and asked why he came to that conclusion. He went on to elaborate that because I was abused as a child that I surely turned to food as a form or comfort, or affection, even if I didn't realize I was doing so. Huh. Okay. I mean, I literally brought you my food log, and am telling you otherwise, but alright. The rest of the meeting he spent explaining that I was a better candidate for medical weight loss, but not so much surgical. I'm 32 years old, 397lbs. I have pcos, am pre-diabetic, and am pursuing WLS to not only better my health as conventional methods have failed, but also to start a family in a few years with my husband. This whole experience has left me incredibly disheartened, and I genuinely feel like every step I've made on this journey has been an uphill battle. Do you guys think I should pursue another opinion with a different clinic? I'm not exactly thrilled at the thought of taking 'weight loss pills' so medical weight loss isn't very appealing to me. I'm super conflicted and confused as to what to do going forward. Any advice would be welcomed! Thank you!

Thank you everyone for your kind words and tips! I feel I should mention that I currently am (And have been at several times in my life!) seeing a wonderful therapist! She's been a great help at helping deal with my stress levels, and I made sure to mention that to both people I saw yesterday! To go a little bit further into detail, my husband had been struggling to adjust to all of the major life changes we've had in the last few years, and is currently on FMLA while we find the proper medication dosage for him with our psychiatrist. He leans on me heavily for emotional support, which I am more than happy to provide! All of that aside, I am very dedicated and serious about taking my weight and health into my hands, and tried to emphasize that to them. I'll be honest, after all was said and done, I wanted nothing more than to wallow in my pity party with a mountain of junk food just to spite them for their assumptions. But I didn't. Because I don't use food as comfort (You presumptuous jerks! I might still be a little salty at them- ha) Thank you all again for your help. Its helped lift my spirits a bit that this isn't the end of the road, just a small detour.