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yeahhhh for Heather...I'm jealous...I can't wait to get the surgery

Hi! my name is donna, don't want to go into all the gory details on heree...read about me in my journals if ya want that!! I am 42, unbanded but hoping for a surgery date in late April or May. I am married to a great husband who is very loving and supportive of me...no I did not meet him on line!! The best thing about him is that he loves ME regardless of how fat or thin. We have been married for a little over 4 years and we are both previously married with children of our own. I am a mom to a 21 year old beautiful but very stubborn daughter and to my ray of sunshine, my 14 year old son. I also have 4 step children 22, 21, 16, and 15 who do not....(thank god) live with us! I love kids but even love has it's limits! It's kinda one of those things where we tried to get the kids off of the POS mother for years and found that it is easier to have an animal removed for neglect than it is for children....anyway...I have enough challenge without taking on more (yeah read the journal). I reached my highest weight last month and I can't wait to get banded! Good Luck to all of you...you have all given me so much encouragement already! Donna 275/269/140

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Yeah for Sandy....I'm jealous...still waiting on my surgery date!! Don't worry the pain should go away in a couple of days, if it's anything like the other surgeries I've had for other stuff the Gas sucks the worst and when that's gone it's such a relief that the rest doesn't even bother you!!

the only thing i need in the house is a man whore...actually I already have him...my husband hehehe

This is toooo hilarious....My hubby has voiced concern over whether or not my FUPA will remain plump or whether it will become a bony, sagging, flappin in the breeze kinda thing....I told him that I'm sure my peachy would still have enough padding to keep "the big horse" comfy! LOLOLOLol. He says he loves my FAT lips! I was also picturing something that I can't stop laughing about...someone asked if the FUPA could get lifted during a TT and then someone replied that it could also be done during a thigh Tuck, but wouldn't it go )( with the first one and go ( ) with the second one???? ~ ahahahahahaha

Me too....I need a little Easter joy!!! I'll PM ya my address!

BBK, Ok...I'm not gonna talk about eating with the band...cuz I don't have mine yet...First I'm gonna say....You are definately not alone chickie baby. Everyone here is rootin for ya! As for the cigs...I am 42, I smoked a pack a day for 20 years and quit Jan 2, 2005 for good. I loved smoking, just like I love food...maybe even more actually...although now I gag when I smell cig smoke on my husbands clothes even. Anyhow, I had breast cancer when I was 37 and my surgeon said...don't blame yourself this kind of cancer has nothing to do with smoking...sooooo that was like giving me a license to continue to smoke and I did, only taking a break to do chemo....PATHETIC isn't it???? Then, in August of 2004 my dad who was 65 was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer with metastisis to the liver. My great, wonderful, strong, funny, healthy, larger than life, sage, and mentor daddy lived exactly 5 months and died on Jan 21st, 2005. I saw this happening to him...he had NO symptoms whatsoever until he got a cold in August and they thought he had pneumonia and a week later we knew he was going to die within the year the Doctor said, and he did. The reason I am telling you this and sobbing away as I do is because I probably would have never quit if it weren't for the fact that I had to watch my hero die and they said that even though he had quit smoking 20 years ago, there was no doubt at all that this type was caused by smoking. For me to continue to smoke in the face of his death would have made losing him even more senseless than it already was. To add insult to injury, I was diagnosed with lung cancer 1 month after my dad died, on Feb. 21, 2005 and had the middle lobe of my right lung removed and did chemo for another 6 months. Today I am cancer free, at least as far as my battery of tests which are done every 3 months can tell. It may sound ridiculous that I am even planning on this surgery, but the reason that I am doing it is the same reson I quit smoking....I WANT TO LIVE TO SEE MY BABIES GROW UP AND TO SEE THEIR BABIES GROW UP! I Just want as much time as I can squeeze outta the BIG MAN upstairs! SO What's the moral of the LONGGGGG story?..... It is this: Life is a GIFT. Good Health is a BLESSING. and you are the Captain of your ship....steer it well. I love you,

MEMEMEMEMEME....2! I want to start loosing weight before the surgery..which should be sometime in May and this will be my motivator! Thanks for inviting all even the lowly unbanded....lol. I wish I was literate enough to know how to put one ticker in my signature line let alone two!! Anybody who can help??

I have read and read and read some more on lap band vs. rny. I continue to research them both as I can choose either one, so far my research backs up SouthTX post. Although, I am very leery of the origins of articles and what kind of propaganda are floating out here in cyberspace! I was mildly amused to find that there i already a HUGE rivalry between bandsters and rny people on a lot of message boards out there! What the hell....why fight about it....our one commonality is that WE ARE ALL FAT or we would not be considering either one.....right? Anyway....what I have reduced my months of research down to now is actually that many of the rny patients who have stretched out there pouches are having to go back and gey banded to restrict their restriction!! ALSO, I think that these patients would also be the patient with failed band surgeries or failed rny procedures because as southTX said....BOTH procedure are TOOLS you can sabotage them both. Many people are fat because the FAT is a tool they have learned to use to their advantage also...IF they don't have that heart to heart with themselves prior to either procedure they will, without a doubt FAIL.

You are and always were beautiful...congrats! Donna

Sunta Yeahhhhh for you...I knew you could do it....Good luck Sweetie....You'll be one hot mama in a year!

Ok....this is a great thread....I have always wondered what reasons other people had for being overweight. Mine is pretty mundane actually. I was not abused as a child, I grew up in a pretty normal family...with it's little secret dysfunctionalities like my over bearing dominating chronically depressed mother. But other than that my family life was ok. My mother is obese...no more or less than me but she is shorter than me so she doesn't look like a giant refrigerator walking into a room like I do at 5'7" and 275, at least thats how I feel, clumsy and lumbering. I am also a dietician to boot, of course I do not work in my field exactly, well kinda but I am an administrator so I do not have to counsel people on nutritional issues thank god! I feel like a Doctor who smokes and has unprotected group sex. I am ashamed of myself and I have been obsessed with my weight for 32 of my 42 years. Even though I was not a heavy child and my highest weight up to the age of 19 was 133. My sister was nearly anorexic in her thinness and her highest weight at age 20 was 112, same height as me. I grew up hearing my older brother singing "Fatty fatty two by four can't get through the bathroom door so she did it on the floor" and "How do you do Miss Blue" (Miss Blue was a morbidly obese teacher in our school) and "Fat people got no reason to live" (instead of short people...what a horrid song anyway!) and "She's a fatty, she's my sister" And the list goes on and on. These may sound funny to people now but they still pack a mighty sting for me, so I can only imagine how much I hated it back then...I never knew that I wasn't fat UNTIL I GOT FAT! So...I don't know what made me eat....probably a combination of a lot of things both environmental and genetic but I do know what made me fat...FOOD. No one force fed me, I ATE IT ON MY OWN. Now It's time to pay the piper.:hungry:

I hope I didn't offend anyone with my frank post on sex related stuff. It wasn't meant to be offensive, just a little humor mixed with some advice (not about banding) and a pinch of silliness. If it was offensive to anyone, I'm sorry...but that's just me. The thread was called "I miss grrreat sexxx..."

Hi John, Welcome and it's nice to see another Ohioan...good luck..it looks like you are doing really well! Donna

Go Rockman...I know you are going to be successful! I hope I can get back to the office quickly too...keep me posted on your experiences! Donna

Mags, Do you drink much coffee or tea or any caffeine? Many times that is the culprit, but definately, please go see your gynee, just to rule out anything else, also, if you have any family history of breast cancer at all ask your obgyn for a baseline mammogram. I had my daughter have one when she was 20 because of my history. It's likely nothing too scary though so don't worry too much...just go to your gynee!

Pattman, are you a man or a woman? How many times have you wanted to ask someone that? But face to face, it really wouldn't be very nice, lol. Since you don't indicate in your profile, I was just wondering. At any rate, I just wanted to encourage you, 175 is definately do-able! Don't forget why you had this done in the first place! I have not had surgery yet and I was actually going to have bypass surgery til I found out about the band. I would rather try the band since it is less invasive seeming. Maybe you need a fill? Don't get discouraged...congrats on your new job! I love the little vw bugs ya'll drive! I just realized that no one probably knows that I am a female from my name...I'll have to check my profile...Any way, have a good day!

Hey, I am tired but I can't sleep...doesn't make sense! I was born in the wrong time zone I think. Anyway...work is crushing me, but it's ok. I just hate the stupid bs politics that I (we all) have to deal with day in and day out...I start fantasizing about saying shove it up your arse ya jackasses and just walking out....but then I've had that fantasy forever. Oh well, the other thing buggin me is my daughter. She is so stubborn and such a smartass that she will see me in my grave before she makes a move to reunite with me and the rest of the family...she's just amazing....I hope this is just a phase of extreme narcissim...is there such a thing? I can only gues that its because I am a marshmallow and I feel sorry for everyone and everything...that she has become exactly the opposite...closely related to sociopathy actually....kinda scarry too but not like she would kill anyone...just like she would rip their heart out and run over it...ummm....yes I do sound nutso...this is what kids do to unsuspecting parents sometimes! Ok enough of her...The work shop is the day after tommorow...and tommorow is my 42nd birthday...I find that hard to believe...I think I lost like ten or fifteen years somewhere...oh yeah they are buried in fat...maybe I will see them dripping off me soon...hope so! Ok I am rambling cuz I don't have much to say so nighty night!:faint:

Hey, I am tired but I can't sleep...doesn't make sense! I was born in the wrong time zone I think. Anyway...work is crushing me, but it's ok. I just hate the stupid bs politics that I (we all) have to deal with day in and day out...I start fantasizing about saying shove it up your arse ya jackasses and just walking out....but then I've had that fantasy forever. Oh well, the other thing buggin me is my daughter. She is so stubborn and such a smartass that she will see me in my grave before she makes a move to reunite with me and the rest of the family...she's just amazing....I hope this is just a phase of extreme narcissim...is there such a thing? I can only gues that its because I am a marshmallow and I feel sorry for everyone and everything...that she has become exactly the opposite...closely related to sociopathy actually....kinda scarry too but not like she would kill anyone...just like she would rip their heart out and run over it...ummm....yes I do sound nutso...this is what kids do to unsuspecting parents sometimes! Ok enough of her...The work shop is the day after tommorow...and tommorow is my 42nd birthday...I find that hard to believe...I think I lost like ten or fifteen years somewhere...oh yeah they are buried in fat...maybe I will see them dripping off me soon...hope so! Ok I am rambling cuz I don't have much to say so nighty night!:faint:

Hi lotsof, I only have a coupleofkids...anyway I was interested in your post because I am also planning on having my surgery done at CC I go to the work shop on Wednesday. What's that like, and how long after that do you think I can get an appt with one of the surgeons? I was hoping for Dr. Shauer (sp?) but I heard the other one is good too. I'm sure they both are. Anyway, if you have any info Id love to hear it. I have had a few setbacks along the way...but that's a long sob story and I don't feel like getting into it again tonight. I was kinda hoping to be able to have surgery scheduled over spring break but that maay be wishful thinking...?

I am very excited abou the work shop on Wednesday. I am hoping to get a surgery date during the Easter break...that may be unrealistic...I don't know how far into the future my dr.'s are scheduling right now. I have found that some of these journals inspire me like Lynns and some make me nervous. There are a number of people who seem to cheat all the time and others who listen to their bodies and stay on track. I hope I am in the second group. I would hate to go through all of this and fail because I am weak willed and I wnat to challenge the surgery to fail! oops I walked away and now it's the next day....more time to post later...bye:heh:

I am very excited abou the work shop on Wednesday. I am hoping to get a surgery date during the Easter break...that may be unrealistic...I don't know how far into the future my dr.'s are scheduling right now. I have found that some of these journals inspire me like Lynns and some make me nervous. There are a number of people who seem to cheat all the time and others who listen to their bodies and stay on track. I hope I am in the second group. I would hate to go through all of this and fail because I am weak willed and I wnat to challenge the surgery to fail! oops I walked away and now it's the next day....more time to post later...bye:heh:

Lynn, I was just reading your journal for the first time. You are brave to put pics on but you are looking really great! I am the same weight that you were when you started and I am just in the beginning of the process, I go to the meeting, get weighed, bloodtested, and pics taken this wednesday. I am hoping for a surgery date over Easter break. I am a dietician in a school district....talk about shameful! Anyway, thank you for the inspiration!

Me again, not much happnin lately other than my daughter driving me crazier than she already has. I thought this crap would be over with when she hit 20 but the stupidity continues....hopefully not forever....but for now and into the next long while it's tough love time. I don't have time to be used and manipulated even by my own almost 22 year old child. I am soooo busy at work right now that I can't see straight, which is good, it makes the days fly past and I do my best work under pressure...to a point. I actually found that point of diminishing returns last year when I was putting in 90-100 hour work weeks and my brain could no longer function from lack of sleep. I gave the company that I had been working for for 15 years the big heave ho and took a new job back in my home town that I LOVE! My problem now is the pace is much much slower and I must have multiple projects in order to catapult myself into martyrdom. Yes, I have determined that I enjoy self flaggellation, figuratively speaking of course...much to my husbands dismay. Well thats it for tonight.....One more week til I get to have my fat ass polaroided for posterity at the work shop....can't wait to be on my way! Peace out :mad: