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Im getting an Arm Lift in August (this has, and always been my first priority). Am contemplating getting a Tummy Tuck at the same time.
I can live with the lines in my neck. And "un-firm" inner thighs. And non-existant butt.

With 39lbs left to go before plastics in November, I am starting to look towards my next goal.
Last weekend, my coworker expressed that she was embarrassed at the gym because she didn't know how to use any of the equipment. I went in an hour before my class with her and showed her a lot of things. I timed her wall squats, showed her proper form, and every time she would say she sucked or was weak, I was the opposite of my usual self and was very motivating and encouraging. She even offered to pay me for the session!
I've been thinking a lot about this and how great I felt helping someone else. I think I want to pursue a certificate in personal training in 2020 and do that part-time. It was so fulfilling! And I found myself echoing the things my trainer tells me. He's rubbed off on me!

I hear ya. Mine neck ain't so great either 😭.

I finally made it to Onderland! I am not sure how i feel about it. I am almost wanting to wait to lose another 2 pounds to make it Official! I do not ever recall being in the 1's LOL.. Mixed emotions over here!

First Meal of the Day: Leftover Proteins from the fridge (1/2 oz sirloin steak slices, 1/4 can chunk tuna & 1/2 a salted duck egg), spring mix greens and homemade vinaigrette.
BEFORE:

AFTER: (ate too much, my chest hurts a little...will eat the rest for a snack later)

Not sure why I'm always positioning my feet to stand like a dork, but here it is...
(I also bought a jumpsuit that day but will likely return it...it's a yellow-gold colour and feels a little too 70's)

Not sure why I'm always positioning my feet to stand like a dork, but here it is...
(I also bought a jumpsuit that day but will likely return it...it's a yellow-gold colour and feels a little too 70's)

May Day #28
Confide in someone: Told Mr. that I want to get a Tummy Tuck (on top of the already agreed upon arm lift). Well, he didn't balk, so thats a good start... 22 pushups: Done. The last 5 or so where done badly, I recall (was getting tired).
May Day #29
Help someone in need: Going to help a cousin move this weekend, will count that for today 23 pushups: Haven't done these yet, was late getting up this morning. I'll do them later tonight. B-side: Realistic vs. Fantasy Goal Weight: My initial goal weight when I was pre-op was 130lbs. Soon after the weight started shedding, I revised that to 120lbs. Now, I've revised it again to be the weight I am currently (127). I don't think I had a "fantasy" goal weight.

Not sure why I'm always positioning my feet to stand like a dork, but here it is...
(I also bought a jumpsuit that day but will likely return it...it's a yellow-gold colour and feels a little too 70's)

I’m 3 1/2 months post op and I’ve lost 64 lbs since the pre op diet.. I was losing a lb ever 2 days but I have slowed down with the losing to less than 2 lbs a week and sometimes only 1... I have 35 to go and I am scared the last 35 will be as tough as losing those last lbs. when I was just dieting.. I’ve purposely not over exercised because I feel that I can’t maintain extreme exercise without giving up as I’ve done before.. I try to make my exercise as fun as I can and I thoroughly enjoy it.. ( dancing for half an hour with the dog being my favorite , with the hits of miss Chaka Khan!!!).. if the last 35 come off slow, ok! I’ll get there.. if I only lose 20 more , ok! I still feel better than I have since I was 25..now 55.. I’ll take it, no regrets, no looking back.. NO un achievable expectations!!

Not sure why I'm always positioning my feet to stand like a dork, but here it is...
(I also bought a jumpsuit that day but will likely return it...it's a yellow-gold colour and feels a little too 70's)

So happy to see this! I was starting to think you all are Jedi masters who never break meanwhile I am in a closet with a candy bar.

Everyone is different and so are their prescribed plans I was able (and allowed) to eat salad after 1 month.

Since you are tracking everything you should be able to pinpoint when the weight gain began and what you were eating/doing when it happened.
Sometimes things change once we transition from losing to maintenance and also when other life events happen
I personally would use the information that I had been compiling to reverse engineer the problem.
Hope you can find a solution soon 💙

Yep, I remember this post from yesterday. The OP’s name was indeed Marie Marie at the time.

OMG I hope (pray) so too...that way my stress level can be minimized.

That is what PVRs are for! The double overtime of Game 3 was happening at the same time as the GOT finale. The trusty PVR ensured that we got to see both

OMG I hope (pray) so too...that way my stress level can be minimized.

That is what PVRs are for! The double overtime of Game 3 was happening at the same time as the GOT finale. The trusty PVR ensured that we got to see both

LOL... my poor hubs is so torn right now. He's not normally a big NBA fan, but with the Raptors in the final he feels strongly inclined to watch and cheer them on. Of course there's also the NHL Stanley Cup finals that started last night, and being the good Canadian male that he is, hockey is life, even if his team didn't make it past the first round. AAAAANNNDDD... the Roughriders (CFL football) play their first pre-season game on Friday. Now, I personally could care less about basketball and hockey, but football is my thing. We have a rule in our house that we only watch one sport at a time, but this week is insane. I'm really hoping that the NHL and NBA finals end in 4-game sweeps in both series, just so that they're over.

Hi Ash,
It is not atypical for partners to feel threatened by WLS, especially when they are overweight themselves. Concepts such as "Will she leave me if I stay overweight and she is thin?" "How will I feel when she gets attention from other men?" etc can certainly result in anxiety and negative treatment may be a means to controlling these outcomes. Unfortunately, this stems from low self-esteem, insecurity, immaturity, trust/respect issues.
There needs to be a sensitivity towards your partner as they are undergoing changes themselves. Reassurance is paramount. However, I will be brutally honest. You cannot promise what you do not know. Many people who undergo a major weight loss go through radical physical and psychological changes, in essence, they become new people. What you are envisioning as your future today, may indeed be nothing what you are envisioning.
The focus should be on the current moment. What is your goal, to lose weight I'm sure. What is supporting or sabotaging this effort? The focus needs to be on what you need to be successful. It already sounds like your inner voice is telling you that he is hindering your progress and/or your ability to enjoy your journey. Boundaries must be set and self-love needs to be your priority. You've come too far and sacrificed too much to fail.
On a side note, my ex husband and I were banded together in 2009. We divorced in 2017. Referring to paragraph 2, there was no way I could ever imagine the extent by which I would change. I lost 120 lbs and you bet it changed how I looked at myself. I not only had a higher esteem, I had a desire for all aspects of my life to be healthy. I am not claiming the divorce was solely based on weight loss or surgery. Rather, the weight loss experience was empowering and I wanted the best for myself. I had a new perspective on life and knew I could be happier. Fastforward to today, I am remarried to the most remarkable man alive and my life no longer feels imbalanced on any level.
I hope that you are able to communicate your feelings and needs with your partner and come to an understanding that support is needed and boundaries respected. If not, I wish you the strength to make the necessary decisions to make you happy and healthy

I’m down 75#. Biggest NSV is that packing for a trip is so much easier. My jeans take up a fraction of the space! For someone who packs carry-on only, this is a HUGE (or maybe small) deal. :). I was even able to pack tennis shoes to work out - I’d never have had room for that before!!

Now I just have to resist the urge to fill my bag.

I'm from Puerto Rico, 41 years old. I have my Sleeve 9 month ago. My higher weight was 306, my weight on surgery day was 267, my current weight is 182... 124 pounds in total. I need to loose 35 more pounds.
I'm very happy with the process, but still being focused, because my "yo gordita" still chasing me  
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Playing catch-up (sorry in advance for the length of the following):
May Day #24 (Friday)
>>> Treat Yourself: So I have 3 weddings to go to in the next few months. One next week, one in 3 weeks, and one in September. I didn't want to buy anything new for the first two weddings because I figure I still had a few more pounds to lose and didn't want to buy a dress only to have it be too loose in a month. Then on Friday I decided to eff it and just go buy something already! I mean, I lost all this weight, may as well show the bod in something that fits me properly.
At the time, I was all "so what if I'm only going to wear this dress once"? Right? Right?!? Btw, Its size 00. WTF.
HOWEVER...
Just today I decided I'm going to stop trying to lose more weight...I think I'm done, I feel like I'm getting too small. So I guess I may just be able to wear this dress more than once after all
>>> 19 Push-ups: Oooh...these push ups were a challenge for me this morning, but they're done. No squats or sit ups though.

May Day #25 (Saturday)
Get Grooming: Did not actually get grooming, but made appointments to do so the following week: Haircut on Monday, IPL for Wednesday, and henna my hair Friday night. 20 push ups: Did not do these on Saturday, I actually forgot to to do them as was busy running errands and preparing for a party at our place to watch the basketball game that night (GO RAPS GO! Btw, the Raptors finally going to the NBA Finals is a huge deal over here. The entire city effectively went nuts that night. And probably a respectable portion of the rest of the country too.) On another note: I reached my Weight loss Goal for May this day. I am now 127.3 lbs, which is 0.7 lbs less than how much I weighed when I first met Mr. 20+ years ago. He says I look much thinner than he remembers when we first met, hence another reason I've decided to stop trying to lose more weight. He also said he remembers my boobs being much bigger back then *cries* May Day #26 (Sunday)
Create a Gratitude Log: - Um, no. (See "Start Journalling"). 21 push ups: Did 31 this day. I tried to make up for the 20 missed the day before, but only got in an extra 10. Good enough, I say. May Day # 27 (Monday)
Write down what you love about yourself: EVERYTHING. (and even if I don't sometimes, I'm working on it.) No pushups - Rest Day: Thank goodness.

At the beginning of my 2 week pre-op liquid diet in October 2018, I was 235 lbs. My surgeon suggested that reaching 160 lbs within a year would be a success. I got to 160 lbs in 4 months (Feb 2019).
For a personal goal, I chose 120 lbs, which is in the middle of the "normal" BMI range for my height. I was in the 120's until I was about 30 yrs old, so I figure it was not impossible.
I'm almost 7 months post-op and I'm about 10 lbs to my personal goal. I figure at my current rate of loss, I should reach this by the end of next month. Then comes maintenance which will be another lifestyle change altogether...yikes.

Playing catch-up (sorry in advance for the length of the following):
May Day #24 (Friday)
>>> Treat Yourself: So I have 3 weddings to go to in the next few months. One next week, one in 3 weeks, and one in September. I didn't want to buy anything new for the first two weddings because I figure I still had a few more pounds to lose and didn't want to buy a dress only to have it be too loose in a month. Then on Friday I decided to eff it and just go buy something already! I mean, I lost all this weight, may as well show the bod in something that fits me properly.
At the time, I was all "so what if I'm only going to wear this dress once"? Right? Right?!? Btw, Its size 00. WTF.
HOWEVER...
Just today I decided I'm going to stop trying to lose more weight...I think I'm done, I feel like I'm getting too small. So I guess I may just be able to wear this dress more than once after all
>>> 19 Push-ups: Oooh...these push ups were a challenge for me this morning, but they're done. No squats or sit ups though.

May Day #25 (Saturday)
Get Grooming: Did not actually get grooming, but made appointments to do so the following week: Haircut on Monday, IPL for Wednesday, and henna my hair Friday night. 20 push ups: Did not do these on Saturday, I actually forgot to to do them as was busy running errands and preparing for a party at our place to watch the basketball game that night (GO RAPS GO! Btw, the Raptors finally going to the NBA Finals is a huge deal over here. The entire city effectively went nuts that night. And probably a respectable portion of the rest of the country too.) On another note: I reached my Weight loss Goal for May this day. I am now 127.3 lbs, which is 0.7 lbs less than how much I weighed when I first met Mr. 20+ years ago. He says I look much thinner than he remembers when we first met, hence another reason I've decided to stop trying to lose more weight. He also said he remembers my boobs being much bigger back then *cries* May Day #26 (Sunday)
Create a Gratitude Log: - Um, no. (See "Start Journalling"). 21 push ups: Did 31 this day. I tried to make up for the 20 missed the day before, but only got in an extra 10. Good enough, I say. May Day # 27 (Monday)
Write down what you love about yourself: EVERYTHING. (and even if I don't sometimes, I'm working on it.) No pushups - Rest Day: Thank goodness.

As a born and raised Cheesehead I was so sad the Bucks lost, however my stepsons live in Toronto and are huge Raptor fans so I am now rooting for them.
Went to the gym this morning, it was FILLED with hardcore fitness people. Not too surprising since they close at 1 today. I did cut my workout a bit short because the weight areas were in high demand.
I’m not a gratitude log type of person, however I am a grateful person. I love that I’m an open minded, empathetic and progressive person. (Or at least try to be)