MsCallieigh

**Update** I did discuss things with him and he seemed to understand but it was definitely underlying insecurity. He has lately been constantly telling me what men at work are looking at me and "like me" We haven't ever dealt with this before but I don't like it at all. Overall I think he doesn't trust me and that really sucks. I think counseling is the remedy if he agrees to it and if not we may very well be another couple/ relationship ended.

Hello all its been years I think since I've been on the boards. Weight loss wise I am doing well maintaining my 100lb plus weight loss from my sleeve surgery on Mexico 3 years ago. Relationship wise things have been great until recently. A little background we have been married 20plus years and have adult children. My husband was okay with my surgery and very supportive of the surgery. We work in the same industry and for the past 6 years have been working together in a predominantly male dominated field. This has never been an issue until now. My husband recently was switched from the shift we worked together and moved to another one. When he was notified he'd be moved he had them move me as well so we could continue to work together....no big deal whatever even though I was very happy where I was. So now we are on the new shift and not in the same building and it is eating him up he has become very insecure. He doesnt question what i wear or anything like that he is jusy super insecure. Since we are on a new schedule and delegated to specific buildings he can't pop up in my work area anymore and lay eyes on me,we don't have lunch at the same time,and he is attempting to get that changed. He hasn't said anything to me directly but he gives coworkers mean looks when they look at me and tries to stay stuck to me as much as he can. I'm genuinely not understanding why he is behaving that way and it's very shocking. I don't plan on leaving him I'm just concerned as to why he is doing this all of a sudden. Anyone else dealt with an issue like this where you work with your spouse and they became insecure? I think I'm gonna talk to him about it soon I just wanna vent because this is coming out of nowhere. At first I told him about things coworkers would say to me because of transparency but now if I feel it's too much I'd just go to hr if it's bad because I'm sure he would blow his fuse. Lately anything I tell him a coworker says he wants to confront them. I have convinced him not to but this puts me in a bad position and I wonder if I should continue working with him or find something else. Advice?

True indeed! Thanks for your input.

I can see this. I feel it isn't appropriate at work either. I'm gonna talk with him about it tomorrow. I don't feel he does outside of work but we've worked together for about 10 years and so the water is murky. I hope whatever it is that he is honest with me so we can put it behind us.

Wow to be honest that never crossed my mind but it is really out of character for him to be jealous so I will take that in consideration and talk to him and yeah I won't do it in an accusatory or confrontational manner because I truly love him and want us to be on the same page. I appreciate your input and viewpoint it may very well be spot on.

Upstate South Carolina

I am. I have bariatric multivitamin chewables I got from the vitamin shoppe but forget to take them sometimes. I think that's why I feel so exhausted when I dont take it.

I'm gonna have baby food for the pureed stage. The containers small and they have a variety of choices.

Ya know every Dr. and nutritionist are different I've saw some people who could eat a week out. Regardless the struggle is real no matter where we are in our journey and I hope every day,hour,and minute gets better and the scale keeps dropping! Cravings so far are hard. They dont hit me until I have to cook or smell food sometimes. Hope it gets better for us all hang in there.

You are very lucky! I cant have anything other than broth,shakes,water pretty much and I was sleeved on the 23rd of July. I can move to pureed next week and am probably gonna buy baby food to be honest. I would love to have some eggs! Cravings are hard to deal with I agree I made dinner Chicken and steak green beans and garlic cheese toast and I got was free smells. Torture but I dont want to harm my new tummy and make it work digesting food before it is ready so I just drink more water 😫

Just keep sipping and downing your protein. Our bodies have to adjust to the changes of the sleeve so take it one day at a time and try not to weigh yourself for a few days. I hope you feel better soon,hugs.

How are you doing?

I hope everything has went well for you! Looking forward to hearing an update.

Discharged and recovering! Everything went well minimal pain,tolerating broth no appetite really. Hope everyone else is doing well.

Preop diet coming up on my 2nd week. 7/23 can't get here fast enough! Hope everyone's procedures goes well!

Tenative date is July 23rd in Tijuana,Mexico with Pompeii Surgical.

No it's just united healthcare.

Congratulations! Im just now about to get the ball rolling myself! Cant wait until I get to where you are.

Aiken,SC

Thanks for the information I was advised today by a UHC rep in addition to all you mentioned I would also need to provide UHC with a minimum of 5 years worth of morbid obesity diagnosis from my physician and that my plan only covers 70% after meeting my deductible. It has me feeling realllllly down because getting the surgery out of the country would be a cheaper out of pocket for me but what makes me pause on that is my physician is not on board with me getting the sleeve outside of the United States so I will do all I can to get it approved and If i don't get approved I will look into getting the surgery outside of the U.S.