ZGal

I’m 3 days from surgery. I have been trying so hard to stick to my liquid diet, but I have cheated a little.... like today, I liquified the chili I made. Now, it’s a liquid, and high in protein low, low in fat, but I dont know if I’m really supposed to have it. Any cheating I’ve done has been healthy; like a salad, absolutely no junk food! I’m so grumpy though and I hate it anyone have any suggestions or words of wisdom to share? Or just reassure me that this too will pass. I’m getting nervous about surgery too (I’ve never had surgery before), and that doesn’t help I’m sure. It’s like I feel out of control while being in control... if that makes any sense 😕

Thanks folks! My surgery went well, no issues with my liver. I’m just sticking to my liquids now. I have no desire to eat anything and I’m focusing on getting my water in.

I’m three days away from surgery, I haven’t had it yet. I’m in the preop liquid phase, but thank you for your response

I haven’t had surgery yet, but it seems to me like your body is still healing and it didn’t like what you did. I’ve heard that people’s tastes and tolerance change, so while I know you don’t want that to happen again, you may not be able to avoid it every time. And ive heard too, what may bother you now, may not in a few months. Best of luck!

My doctor actually was happy to hear I wanted the bypass and not the sleeve, and my BMI is 37. Every doctor is different. Mine, in particular, said the exact thing you did: he’s seen people needing a revision or going to the bypass down the road. And not that folks aren’t successful with the sleeve, because people can gain with bypass too. However, for my dr, it is less frequently seen. I’m sorry you had that experience! You need to be comfortable and welcomed by your dr and the office staff. It is probably better you find someone else, for your own piece of mind. I can’t imahine letting someone operate on me that I wasn’t totally grooving with

I haven’t told anyone aside from my fiancé, and two people I work with whom I trust unconditionally. My mother came by the other day and looked at an old photo of me on my fridge and stated “oh, you used to be so skinny!”. This and the following conversation brought my blood pressure up to 183/103 and I thought I would have a stroke. I look at it like this: this is a tool to help me get healthy. If someone asks how I did it, lose all that weight, I will tell them I changed my diet, which IS true. I am scheduled for March 7 and I can’t wait! It sucks not telling anyone because the support is nice, but I’ve made due best of luck with everything!

March 7

March 7th and I’m actually started to feel the nerves kick in!

I have Anthem BCBS in CT. I’m down to my last nutrition appointment in a couple of weeks, and then scheduling my surgery! However, I’ve gained weight (about 10lbs) during my nutrition visits over the past 5 months. There’s no excuse for it, some visits I had lost weight, and others I had gained. I am really worried I’m going to get denied. Has anyone had experience with BCBS in CT? I know some insurances are stricter than others... thanks in advance!

I am blessed to have the option of either the sleeve or bypass surgery; my doctor feels both will work for me and it really is my choice. Here’s the dilemma: which do I decide?? I would love to hear feedback from those that have made their own decision. For me, I’m really worried about failure if I get the sleeve. I know that I have a bad relationship with food and I’m petrified that I will ultimately go back to old habits (big reason why weight loss hasn’t been successful for me in the past!). I know that success is based on what we put into it, and that surgery is merely a tool, however, some of the things I struggle with (never feeling full or always feeling like can eat) will be helped with surgery. I know it’s messed up (however, my doctor says it’s not) but one of the selling points with bypass is that I WON’T be able to eat some of those bad habit foods that would be my potential downfall with the sleeve. My hesitation with bypass: I’m really scared about having calcium/bone issues and teeth issues! I don’t know how I,would handle my teeth being damaged. If I stick to my vitamins, will I be ok? Anyone else have this problem? My Dr initially recommended the bYpass because it’s the “gold standard”, there is so much data available, and between the two, I’m more likely to keep the weight off with bypass. any personal experiences/advice would be great! I haven’t talked to anyone except my fiancé about this, and I just need someone else to pick my brain and lend some experience tales

I know that they both have their pros and con. The con that I’m worried about is losing nutrition and having it affect my bones/teeth if I go bypass. I’m worried about failure with the sleeve... it’s like folks that got the lap band- it works initially and so many wind up getting back up to their original weight. I don’t want the option of a revision; my health is too important 😞

I Apologize if it sounded like I was saying this was a quick fix. I am looking at the fact that some folks looks at dumping syndrome as a negative while others look at it a a Pavlov’s dog effect (which I know I would benefit from; I’m just being honest). I even said to my Dr “I know myself” and it seems easier to go back to bad habits and with the sleeve. Again, I would be lying to myself if I wasn’t truthful in that my efforts to lose weight haven’t worked... this is why I am here. I need as much help as I can get and the more restrictions to keep me on track I have, the better. But I want to make the right choice

Isn’t it funny? Some people don’t like the sleeve because they remove part of the stomach while other don’t like bypass because they re-route things. It’s just interesting to me

Thank you for your responses! I don’t have reflux issues; but I completely forgot to add that in my post (sorry!) And with the revision- the fact that that’s an option scares me. I just know myself, and I’m really nervous I’ll dongreat the first couple of years and then it’ll go to waste. The bypass worries me with the possibility of teeth issues. It’s just something I don’t know if I could deal with

I don’t want to tell my parents about my surgery. I have battled with my weight since middle school. My parents had me in weight watchers at the age of 12, had me stand on the scale if they thought I was gaining weight, and do, earnestly, worry about my health. The only time I was successful with weight loss was when I was a bulimic, and that’s just sad for me. I have finally found a doctor who felt that I would benefit from bariatric surgery and I’ve already decided, pending all approvals, that I will have the gastric sleeve surgery. I’m going to my 2nd nutritionist appointment in a couple of weeks. My fiancé is accepting of my decision and respects that I don’t want my parents to know. However, with all this said, I feel like I’m hiding or lying to them. I have hypertension and I get very snippy with them when they bring up my health because I KNOW that I’m working towards gaining a strong tool to help me lose weight; but they think I just eat too much or don’t exercise enough. I’m an adult, but I do want my family to know in case something were to happen to me, or if something happens post-op... but I truly, honestly, down to my core don’t feel like they will accept it, try to talk me out of it, harp on it, judge me, be upset with me, feel I didn’t try hard enough (and then point out specifics), and so on. I come from a family of naturally thin people and I’m really the only one with a weight problem... I don’t want to lie to them or avoid them post-op either... so after all this: has anyone had any experience or luck with this type of thing? Any support that has helped you through a situation like this? Sorry for the long post; I think I just needed to get that all off my chest too

Thank you for sharing this!

6’1” surgery date:not scheduled yet start weight/ current weight: 270 goal weight: 160 (Dr says 200, but I can do better. I’ve been as low as 150 and I’m currently at my highest weight, and I was happy at 160/165 way back when)

Listen to your body and your doctor! Not everyone heals at the same rate and if your worried about how your body is responding, talk to your doctor

Thank you all for your advice and kind words! It is so comforting to not feel so alone in this ❤️

Thank you! I appreciate (and need to hear!) the advise! I know how important it is to have a support system ❤️