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Status Updates posted by Born in Missouri
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This place can be positive or negative depending on your outlook. I've noticed that when I remain active here by following the struggles or joys of others and, most important, leaving a comment, I'm helping myself probably more than the person for whom I'm leaving a comment. It takes courage initially to post your first question or topic. What if no one responds? What if I make a fool of myself because I put words together like a monkey with a keyboard?
I forgot what my intended message was here. I guess it's something like the penny jar one finds in a store. Take a penny for yourself when you need it, leave a penny for someone else in case they need it.
Thank you to all the kind people out there who've left a penny for me. Here's my penny for someone else. Please take it if you need it. (This penny is a metaphor, ).
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Nibble, I think we all feel that way. At least those of us who have been overweight a long time so we don't have strong memories of ourselves thinner. I had to accept that the old "me" was going away and a new one emerging. I was comfortable with the old me, had known her a long time. But really, this is something we accept as we age, too. One day you look in the mirror and wonder where the younger you went. Really, we're constantly in a state of change.
Turns out, the new me is chock full of piss and vinegar. I've created a firestorm at work when I was passed over for a promotion for a man who is also 15-20 years younger. I was vastly more qualified and told them so to their faces. When they said that they had given my application full consideration, I basically called them liars to their faces. (I was only slightly more subtle than that.) Guess they got my Irish up! 😉
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What happened after you were all subtle and crap, @Orchids&Dragons ? You still work there, right? There has to be a lot of residual resentment, and perhaps even the hope that the "chosen" promotee falls on his less-qualified younger face.
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It's still going on, had another meeting with HR Monday. But, I'm not stupid, I know their job is to protect the company, so I'm not expecting any help from that quarter. I know I've burned my bridges here, so I'm looking for another job. It's a shame, I really liked my boss and planned to work here until I retired (I'm 59.) But they transferred my boss to another department and put the new guy in as my immediate supervisor. My boss is even more pissed than I am. He considers it a demotion, just so that they could give the "favored son" a promotion and more visibility. Sucks being a peon!
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I'm in a deep funk. Instead of helping others, I've turned into a wacko rambler. Off-topic, off period. It's time for me to take a break from this place.
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Thank you for your kindness and understanding, O&D.
As for ranting in the wrong section, my post was not planned. I reacted to a trigger. Triggers are curious, fragile things. And spontaneous.
Perhaps I feel things too deeply. It’s important to me to acknowledge and try to empathize with the person displaying emotional discomfort. If I've inadvertently hurt someone, I try to validate their hurt without judging it. I also avoid being defensive since doing so places the focus on myself and does nothing to make the other person feel better.
I follow advances in pain management closely. For a while, I had hoped that a drug called ziconotide (derived from the venom of cone snails) would help me. It’s over 100x more powerful than morphine and it’s non-addictive. The downside is that it can only be administered intrathecally (into the spinal canal). The other downside, for me at least, is the possible side effects: confusion, memory impairment, speech problems, aphasia, and hallucinations. That said, ziconotide-induced side effects are only temporary and reversible and there are no opioid-like withdrawal symptoms.
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