Futuresleevie18

Hi guys, after canceling two previous surgery dates out of fear of death and losing my partner, I finally did it! I'm super happy as I'm already 23lbs down in 3wks, but I'm so miserable because I want to eat and I can't!!! lol I'm still in my liquid phase, but I've cheated a few times and thankfully I don't have any nausea or dumping. Water is still hard to swollow even with sugar free mixes, the same goes for soups. It almost feels like it all gets stuck in my throat and then I have to wait for it to slowly digest. Overall, my scars have healed and I'm super happy with my decision. My bf still thinks it's the easy way out, but I can tell he's enjoying my newly developing body. Thank you for all your support!

I'm so sorry it's this bad for you. I think with time you'll be able to have of these foods again. Thankfully I haven't experienced the "dumping" nor vomiting. I try different foods including some of my favorites and haven't had any issues yet. I have noticed the chills though. How are you with that? I get cold very easily.

Wow, congrats on your weight loss! I can totally see why you did it. So our surgery was in the same day?! Cool, so we've lost just about the same amount. I was hoping to lose more than that, but I guess it's good to help with loose skin? But that's wonderful, you're a strong woman and I'm happy you've made the decision. My mom wasn't obese like me, but she had diabetes and ultimately passed from renal failure a few years ago. My sisters, who weren't as heavy as I was have diabetes and though they're 15 and 13 yrs my senior, loved hinting that I'll get it too. Well, I'm super happy that I didn't have it nor any other obesity related health problems beside my ankles. Omg, prior to surgery, walking 5.5 blocks was hell, and now I walk it like it's nobody's business. I am so happy that I had this surgery because I feel like I'm getting my mobility back, slowly, but surely I hope. Thanks for sharing with me! How are you feeling though? How's your eating? Do you have any issues?

Hi, I didn't really understand your message. Sorry, I'm not familiar with the lingo. RNY, EGD and NPO? Thanks though! I'm between 22 and 23 lbs down. For whatever reason it fluctuates and I've been stalled for the past THREE WEEKS!!! Omg, I'm so disappointed. Good luck to you!

THank you so much! I'll keep at my diet.

Hmm, I'll have to try that. So far, I can only drink cold liquids. I eat ice and popsicles. I'll try room temp. To see how my body accepts it. Thanks! Congrats to you as well.

Wow, really?! When I went for my one week follow-up, the doctor told me I'll be able to eat "mushy" foods in two weeks, but the nurse told me in 30 days. Hmm, it definitely varies. Good to know!

Thanks for the tip! I'll be sure to try it.

Hi all, I just found this website while searching for information on how to cope, when your significant other doesn't approve of your decision. Well, I am very pleased to have found this site. I've been struggling with my weight all of my life and I've had little successes, but somehow the weight lost, always came back 10-fold and I have had it! My primary physician gave me an initial referral about a year ago, but I didn't use it due to the fact that I wasn't completely sure that it was the best thing for me. My boyfriend also expressed his dislike towards the idea, so I went ahead with life until late last year, when I thought long and hard about putting my obesity in my past. I got another referral around December and I went in for a seminar in January, where I was given my first consultation appointment for two weeks later. I kept my appointment and when I got the chance to meet with the surgeons, I expressed to them that I would like to have my surgery done as soon as possible. I was given an initial surgery date of March 12th, however it got pushed back to April, which was fine and then it got pushed back even further in April for the 16th. Anyway, I kept all of my appointments and was very prepared for my surgery on April 16th, but when the day came, my anxiety rose and all I thought was, "God, I don't want to die," so I did not go. I called, left messages, but was later told that it's ok to not show up, but I should still get in touch with my coordinator, which I ultimately did. I asked to have my surgery at a later date because I wanted to push myself to see if this was really the best option for me. They were very gracious to give me another date in July as I had requested. I was set for July 10th and so I went back to eating regular healthy meals and working out even more. I worked out 5-7 days a week and ate clean. I love weightlifting, so I made it a priority while eating more proteins, vegetables, water and protein shakes and eliminating dairy, sugar, fried foods, etc. I was incredibly motivated to the point where I snacked on broccoli and humus, even cutting out fruits to stay away from sugars. Then I saw the scale going up and things went awry. During my pre-op liquid phase for my initial surgery date I lost 10lbs and from these pounds lost, I saw a two-pound increase within two weeks. I tried not to stress about it, but it was inevitable this past week when I saw an extra 3lbs on the scale. Unfortunately, I'm on my period and it's definitely the reason why I gained the extra 3lbs, so in the middle of my freakout I decided to go ahead and have the surgery no matter what. I emailed my coordinator and the next day the doctor called me to find out how soon I wanted it done and I told him this month. He then gave me a new surgery date, May 14th. I was happy, but still with concerns because I've never been ill and I have a fear of illness. Living alone doesn't help my fear either. Anyway, I told my boyfriend and things are not the same between us. My boyfriend thinks that I'm taking the easy way out, that I have zero control, that I am being inconsiderate of him, that I will become ill and regretful and he's also expressed that he wants out of the relationship because he doesn't want someone who's lazy and wants a leg up. I tried explaining to him that it has nothing to do with getting a "leg up" or taking the easy way out, but simply for the peace of mind knowing that I'd add several more years to my life. I understand his concerns and how he's feeling, but his thoughts are so extreme that it's stressing out the both of us. I love him so much and would do almost anything for him, but I respected his views on surgery and refrained from it for many years with the hopes of losing the weight naturally, but instead I gained more weight, so right now it's difficult for me to continue respecting his feelings. I want to lose weight! I want to feel good about myself, more than I already do and I feel like this is my best option, but I am also afraid to lose him. I am stuck between a rock and a wall and I don't know how to get out. Help! How can I make him see that this is what's best for me? How do I choose between my love and my well-being? What would you do in this situation? I'd appreciate any advice you may have and thank you in advance!

Thank you! I am to an extent. I've spent the last seven years of my life with him and he's been there for me through all of my ups and downs, even when he's contributed to my downs, and that is why it hurts me so much.

You're so fortunate to have his support! I hope to have that one day. The thing is, he's supported me with decision I've made, but this one thing he just doesn't believe in it. I don't need his approval, but I guess it'll make me feel better knowing that he'll be there. *Sigh*

Thank you!!! I believe it, at least I'll try. 😃

Thank you for sharing and the advice! That's great that your bf came around and even help with the process!!! That's what my bf thinks as well because my only issue is my swollen ankles. I literally take a car (if he can't drive me) everywhere! I'm in NYC and there's no way I can take PT because my ankles swell up and hurt when I walk for too far and stand for too long. They even swell up when I sit for too long! It's major problem for me and he knows that, but somehow he is convinced that I don't need the surgery. Oh my God, I am so frustrated and undecided. 😒

Oh my, Frust8, thank you for sharing your story with me! I am so sorry you had to go through this. It's such a shame when the people we love and care about refuse to show support when it truly counts. I'm happy you've found the strength and courage to do what you needed to do for you. I'm working on gathering my strength again. All the best to you.

Thank you for your warm and heartfelt responses! He's truly tried his hardest to help me in the past; he's done lots of research as I have, invested in getting me equipments, helped me to make better food choices, devoted time to working out with me, but all of that didn't work. Either my calves or my ankles pain would get in the way and then I'd take a break only to start all over again. This cycle has been going on for just about six years and out of respect, I would try my hardest to do it again, knowing that I couldn't. Then I'd obsess and give up when the numbers on the scale didn't change and I am exhausted! He's always complained about my weight, so the stress from that didn't help and now I have an excellent chance at success, but I'm getting even more stress. He's currently putting a file together to show me that it's the wrong thing to do and although I know it's not true, I'm doubting my decision. I just don't want to be fat anymore...

Hi, I'm also May 14th! I am nervous, scared and excited all at once. Good luck!