The lapband surgery seems to help most back and joint problems if not cure them altogether. My back hurt all the time before the surgery as well as my legs and knees. My blood pressure started to rise with every pound. We live in a bi-level house so there are stairs. Talk about huffing and puffing. I am pleading with you to do this for yourself, for your health and self image. Sounds like your husband enjoys keeping you inline. I would tell him "You go to the gym" Im going to have lapband. When you lose all the weight and sees what a "Babe" he has he will start to like it. So what if he's a little jealous. Its good for him to know that if he doesnt tow the line that there might be someone else that could get interested in you . Once you reach a certain weight unless you have time to diet and exercise every day for a couple of hours it will still take years to get to a normal weight. All of those weight loss shows where everyone weighs 250-300 lbs and they go off to the fat farm for months are doing nothing but diet and exercise. Do you really have time for that ? I dont think so You are the woman . You are the power. Do what is best for you and I believe your husband will just be amazed and enjoy