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LunarPuppy those will be my badges of pride and honor, no matter, 4,5, or even 7, I WILL ROCK THEM! I've waited so long, been through so much, cried so many tears, I might let my son download a belly shot to you all. Not brave enough to show,my face or my portly princess chassis, but my sacrificial wounds,😾 that is a certainty.

And I'm hanging at the doorway of your cave. Not only,do I have some in my downstairs that is irking my son, the mad tosser. but upstairs in the spare bedroom are more bags. Son says pitch them now, I tell him I want to peek inside first, and he retaliated that,i haven't been wearing those,pitch them. In theory,he is right, but I tell him there maybe items I bagged because they were too small? So he calls me Harriet the Hoarder, says he is going to call " Hoarders" maybe TLC will pay him a finders fee. My name for him Tobey the Tosser. I,promised once I get a firm surgery date I will start tossing, I guess I don't believe it until then, I 've been "burned"before.Those of you who know my story understand my meaning.😮

You know if I were to rechristen myself a name I'd like to have- AIFE, it has a built-in lilt to it although I look more like a Rauri, although that is a more a male name. My real first name sounds Scandinavian but I am named for a long ago,Cornish female ancestor my mum seemed to hear of. Her name was,Karensa, but I ended up a Karen. But I think Aife is pretty. And anything is better than her names she planned as a girl to name future daughters-Samantha Jane-Anne and Stephanie Denise, I look like neither, my late husband the Somewhat Lamented, said my name should be Brunhilde. He made our marriage stormy,towards the end, I truly loved the young man I married, but the later man, not so much. I think God will have to forgive me for that, the world will not. Ah I've burdened you with a story you didn't want to hear. I am sorry for that. At any rate please update me as the story of Irishgal 21continues.

Well maybe I can rock it after all? Now to find out whether it will be Dr Noria(female) or Dr Needleman(male, older and Department Head) and when this wonderous day can be? After the 24th many more answers will come. Its been such a l*o*n*g. journey, did you know I started seeking bariatric surgery in August 2015? Sometimes I fear I will die before I complete it. That frightens me more than anything else about the process💦. I would be willing to have only local anesthesia rather than to be refused again. But I should have courage things will go well for me after all, shouldn't I? Oh Ms Topaz i,weary of it all.

Sounds so good, I only hope everything goes so good for you and when my time comes, for me as well. I am envious but not jealous, can you understand the difference? Jealous is jumping up and down, having a tantrum, screaming I wanna I wanna. Envy says She's having it, good,and I will have it also when it is my time to have,it.Much more laid back and adult. I❤ you and value the friendship you have shown me. Now keep a smile on your lips and peace in your heart, I'll look forward also to hearing from you when this next chapter is over.

So you're a Bama Belle going to have a Peachy,surgery in Georgia? Think I've got it straight,now👍😋

And good wishes for you both on that fateful day of days. Happy surgeries and healthy healing.

Life including Bariatric life is not a sprint as much,as a grueling marathon. If you're on it to win it, no matter how tortured the path, you will have success.🏃

Sounds like it should be a refreshing protein instead of what it is😖

I know it's Monday 14th May,,in Australia and you're probably just waking up. So Happy Mothers Day to me and a happy blessed🎈 Day After To You😝

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY 2018 EVERYONE💛💙💜💚❤

You look just like a Sunshine Tinks should look, congratulations and good wishes for the future.😝

Well folks it's almost here, relax and get some sleep tonight. Tomorrow go forward with a spring in your step, a smile on your face and hope in your heart. It is YOUR day to shine, sparkle with all you have got. Update us when it is completed, we will celebrate with you🌸😝🌺

I just thought of something silly to worry about. I will be having my surgery at Ohio,State University, team colors scarlet and gray, I have strawberry blonde hair, I am going to look plug ugly in those colors. What if they start giggling when they see me and can't complete the surgery? Now don't,your "sillies" sound better than that one? Smile and Rock Your Big Day😷

I hold to the premise: Mind over Matter, if you don't still have a mind, it just don't matter! Happy Mothers Day All!🌸❤🌺

Darlin',there are,no dumb or stupid questions,on here. If some thing is bothering you or giving you grief and we can help, we'll sure try. RickM is correct, almost every ,practice I know of has you on a clear liquid diet the day before, npo after midnight, even the benighted malintentioned souls I dealt with at program # 1, who didn't put their patients on a multiweek protein shake plan , they still did clear liquid the day before. I didn't pull out on them, they pulled out on me but that is a story you didn't ask to hear. My new and current one, what they ask I will do, no matter what. A few of the veterans day they wish they had done a bowel prep also. But by all logic, your food from 2 days prior should have completely or nearly completely moved out. Not even with a bypass will they be monkey-doodling with your lower bowel, so hand your worries up with your winter jacket and leave them home. Smile and know every little thing is going to be alright!😝

Welcome my new Windy City pal. Spring is finally here and the only thing warmer than the weather is your welcome here. How do I know you're in Chicago? I looked up your profile, not as much info as in a true computer, I'm using the mobile app on an Android phone.No shame in that. you'll see I'm in Mount Vernon Ohio 48 miles NE of Columbus where I will be having my RnY. When? Well the Bariatric God's have not favored me with that knowledge as of yet, could be as soon as next month. Until then and then past then also Baby I'm Yours. Any time you have questions, anytime you need a friend I'm usually,lurking nearby. Hope we can help you have a good experience.🌺😊🌸

And very good luck for smooth successful surgeries from one,who longs to join you both. Update us as soon as you can, we want to celebrate with,you,both.!😷👍😷

And I am very proud you didn't let your chilly little feet stop you from this. Good things are ahead for you, I will join you as soon as I can drag a Bariatric Surgeon in the Operating Room with me, I am the reverse of the coin to you, it's them being reluctant instead of me . I Want it and I want it so very Badly.😜

Ah my Celtic Warrior, a long time,since I heard, Yes I had never heard, and I have researched as well as listened to many on here,and,never have I heard this. I certainly would like to hear more of this new angle to things. As for me, I still have not had my long-wished for surgery. I am in a second program , the first after letting me do theirs through not,once but twice,I longer defined to perform my surgery . They made their black-hearted decision on 20th February,i signed into a,new scheme 9th March, was accepted at met with their staff psychologist Dr Kramer April 25th at Martha Morehouse Pavillion in Columbus Ohio, division of the Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center and I am truly excited for this new chance. Why,did I go to the first plan, well my Primary doctor felt it would be the shortest and best fit forME -Obviously Not- are you ready for this kick to the teeth? It was a Catholic Hospital so Christian based? No thank,you, I'll take my chances with the heathens at University! I have my next appointment 24th May with my case-manager. nurse-Practioner and dietcian. I had surmised it would be a Hello nice to meet You meeting, now I'm less certain. Another poster on here mentioned meeting the same ladies at her hospital and she said it will be her presurgical, dare I hope it may be the same for me? Oh I hope I hope. But we shall see what we shall see. But I could perhaps be a June Surgery?😋

DebSom hello hello hello. We are going to be friends, let me be among the first to apply. We have a few things in common, Don't feel you're too old for this venture, I am 72, will be 73 on December 26th. CW323 down from a HW of 355, officially 5ft8in, still believe I am 5ft 11in, well I was before menopause collapsed my spine, which gives me BMI 47+. so we are pretty comperable in this undertaking. I am widowed for nearly 6 years, 3 children only 2 living, my son who lives with me and his older sister RD short for Rotten Daughter who speaks or interacts with me every solar eclipse or so. Every family has one, I guess I gave birth to mine. As an example I called her to tell her I was planning bariatric surgery, she immediately turned the conversation around to herself and her problems. I tried again,i called her by her first and middle names, now when my parents, her grandparents did that I ki,da shrivled inside, I knew it was tongue-lashing time, I said " Did you hear me? I am going to have bariatric major surgery in Columbus before summer? Her answer " Oh, whatever!" and this point I had it, I said"Whatever right back at you!" and hung up. I could have told her I was going to crouch over a buzz saw and expose my lady parts to the blade and got the same reaction. Sad, isn't it? My son on the other hand is super-supportive, much more than his late father would have heen, but alas there lays another story all together. What brought me to surgery? Well that it is multi-faceted. The latest was the 30 lb weight gain in one month. I had been seeking surgery since August 2015, just before I turned 70,when I realized I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. Many of my high school classmates were dying I could feel my body starting to slow down in earnest and realized death might be in the cards for me as well. I have had arthritis since I was 25,2 knee replacements,every joint in my body hurting. Do I sit down,lie down and let the Angel of Death claim me as his own? No I came into this world, screaming at the top of my lungs and fighting mad. I won't leave without doing the same. The red(well strawberry blonde) head is natural and so,is the temper, I never will go gentle into that good night(sorry Dylan Thomas, I do apologize), In August 2015 I took myself to Columbus and applied for admission to a Bariatric Program, found out my,current insurance UHC would cover such a thing. Was doing everything requested, had completed 5 of the 6 mandated nutritional sessions when my job terminated in January 2016. Tried to Cobra my insurance over, it would have taken $700 of the 900 I would now receive from Social Security. Oh I still looked for another job, but who hires a 70 year old fat woman when there are young slender chicks-babies available? So with a heavy heart and tears in my eyes I just didn't return . Never did formally resign. Found out just this year, Medicare's requirements were much less stringent, I had completed all of theirs and could have had my surgery February 2016. I littered along trying to keep on losing weight, think I kept gaining the same 5 pounds. Early last fall I asked my PCP for some assistance. See I'm bright enough to know nutrition etc but I was getting nowhere but older. Dr Carroll, is a heck of a nice guy, he's in his mid40s, when I get peeved at him I call him Junior, but still pretty good doctor. He agreed to prescribe phenteramine, to aidmy diet endeavor & oh I tried, cut,my portions down gave up sodas, stopped eating carbs, are so much salad that i felt like a farm animal. Went back after a,month to be weighed, not only had I not lost weight, I gained 30 pounds. Had journeyed,my weight diet,is My Fitness Pal, so he said back to the Bariatric Surgeon with me. Although all body systems were reading normal or low normal, I was still a loaded time bomb at this age. So I humbled myself, went back to the Bariatric Surgeon and went,through the whole program again,including one extra one I hadn't done before Everything was done the third week of January, so I proceeded to wait 1st week,of February- it's in the,pile and hasn't been worked,2nd week- we found up,and are submitting it 3rd week- yes it's back, stop calling, we'll call you with a date. Everything looks fine? Well things are not as they seem. February 20th I received the call, the 3 surgeons,in the practice had themselves a little meeting and voted to a man, to decline my surgery. I'm going Whha What do you mean? Something screwy, the psychologist turned in to them a declined evaluation. This woman, in front of,my adult son told me I had passed everything perfectly and shook my hand, wishing me Well on my future surgery. My son even remarked as we left "Gee Mom I bet you're glad that is over, now we can move on" Her assessment now- I am psychologically and emotionally unfit and lack the,mental capacity to understand the risks of surgery. Geesh, why not say I stink too? Oh I refute it all, I have an IQ off the boards, have been eligible for MENSA from the get go, have no understanding? I have been mentoring "newbies" from the time I signed into BP, I not only understand it, I can explain it all. So I cried my eyes out for a few days, then my temper kicked in. How dare they try to siderail my plans? Was I going allow a piss-ant group like them to put me down? Sorry for the term but I was country-raised and we say that. At this point I may have stomped my feet like an enraged skunk but I resolved to move forward. They weren't the only game in town so I called the other 2 Center of Excellence programs in Columbus Ohio and booked time in their seminars. Went to one at Ohio STATE university hospital-Wexner Medical Center on March 9th,fulled out an application, a release of information, made sure all those credits would transfer, and returned home. Less than 5 business days OSU called me back, they were very interested in me, would I please come for a 2 hour psychological evaluation/consultation with their staff psychologist Dr Kramer on April 25th, 6 weeks away but I didn't care, I said YES YES YES. I had a wonderful exam with him, don't remember the last time anyone wanted to talk two hours to me. Not only did I pass but he gave me papers for the next steps. On May m I meet for what I call the trifecta appointment, I meet with my case manager, nurse practioner, and dietician- okay,i figured it for a Hi Nice,to meet You meeting, now I'm not so sure. There was another poster on here meeting with the same professions of people, she said it is her presurgical appointment, perhaps just perhaps it will be mine also? I'm,living now with this hope! Now you know most,of the Frust8 story, still want to be my friend? I do hope so, there aren't as many,of us well-ripened individuals as the young ones on here and I'd like a "peer" to talk to.😜 Also I will,be a RnY bypass when my surgery comes.

Try the different brands and see if you do find one you like. I am chocolate-allergic, I do have the blueberry Muscle Milk, I do find it thick but I thought it was just because it claims to be a yogurt formulation. ,I do have a suggestion , try Svelte, it is soybased but I honestly don't taste the soy in it. I have the French Vanilla, my barifriend Little Green has the cappuccino, I'm sure they have a chocolate as well as other flavors. You do have a lower protein count per bottle but. I like it and it is a little thinner.Wal-Mart has come out with their house brand Equate, equivalent to Premier Protein in formulation. My local has chocolate, vanilla and caramel. Runs maybe $5.25, Muscle Milk 5.98, Pure Protein about the same and Premier Protein 7.27. Of course Premier also has the most flavors as well chocolate, vanilla, strawberries and cream, cookies and cream, bananas and cream, peaches and cream( my favorite) and the caramel which makes a lovely creamer in coffee. Wal-Mart also has in Protein 20 and some other brands of protein shakes I haven't tried. I think everybody is trying to get into the bariatric game you can find ones at health food stores, Whole Foods. GNC, I've been looking around , I'm not to the presurgical liquid diet,have been dabbeling trying find the best for me personally. Gosh I want to do so good at this, I. can't reschedule life for later, I'm 72👵 and this is my golden time. PS I'm not grayhaired I have strawberry blonde still, not a gray hair to be found.

not to disagree and thank you for the well wishes, as a mother I appreciate it, but I want to also is issue a challenge for us, Another group that doesn't have a day,and I think they should- Step Parents, maybe next Sunday I'll also salute them as well. They enter a family dynamic n with a parent and child relationship already in place. Often the child's other parent is still in the picture, how does the step- parent fit in? They don't want to offend but they may also have love for the child. So until someone establishes them a day of their own I wish them a day of their own. I have a story to tell, it is the story of my younger friend. Scott. Scott fell in love with a lovely,young lady named Lauren who brought into the relationship her daughter Emily. Scott grew to,love her as well. I happened to attend the wedding so I'll state this is a true story. The wedding was similar to many I've been until the end. Right before the part where their clergyman was ready to state I declare you man and wife, he said Scott has something to say. Scott called Emily forward, got down on his knees so he and Emily were on eye level, He said " You saw I gave Mommy a ring and she gave me one too? " Emily nodded yes. He said " Remember when I asked Mommy to marry me?" Emily nodded again because he had asked Lauren in front,of her. He said I have a big grownup sized question ,to ask you. Usually this is the point where they say the husband and wife got married." Emily nodded again "Emily like I asked Mommy if she would be my wife forever, Emily, from this day forward will you grant me the chance to be your Daddy forever?" Emily nodded and he said "I have a present for you" He fastened around her a necklace with 3 hands in an infinity circle, no beginning, no end, hanging from a golden chain. Then he picked her up in his arms and kissed the top of her head. Pastor Andersen said "Ladies and Gentlemen , I present to you, Scott, Lauren and Emily, a brand new, by the Grace of God, Family." And the three of them walked back down the aisle and into a brand new beautiful life. Amen👨👧👩

@sillykitty thank you for your post, it reminded me to go check things I don't usually wear, yeah there is a difference. I guess I just have been dressing loose and sloppy, in dressier things 👗I can now see a little change.And I feel a little better,about me.😛

Happy to meet you Gingerly,you sure have made a beautiful change in yourself, know it took hard work but it seems to have paid,off. Congratulations again.