Frustr8

Well if I were from the Southern US I'd bat my eyelashes and say "You'll still be my Big Guy" or "I'll look up to you honey!" Alas I am a Midwestern gal and would say only "Well duh!", did my share of fawning over men in the past, no more. I've lived too long, had enough put downs to ever play that game again. I guess I've developed late stage spunkiness, it is really no fun to be a wet soggy doormat people wipe their feet on, nobody respects a doormat, don't you know. Just because I'm a big girl it does not mean I am a dumb girl. We are as bright if not brighter than most people. And people better start respecting me, smart aleck answer-"before I knock some sense into them". But wiser woman answer: "because I've worked hard to get to where I am now in life" And also when you try,to knock sense into some people, it flies through their head, out the opposite ear and lands on the ground. Just don't have the desired result. Story from my own life. My late husband and indeed most of his family thought- you should talk loudly and in a disparaging tone to others, then the will be motivated to do better. But,that's not the way to treat me, I would crumple inside, it robbed me of joy and belief in my own self-worth. And the song around my ears at that time? You're nobody until a man loves you. And I "bought,into it" after all that was,how my parents and society, viewed things. Emotional crippled me until, even at my age, I find it hard people l can love or even like me for just myself, not an extension of someone else. I am trying to shed those shackles and braces and stand confidently on my own.😓😝

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And I have been pretty upfront about my seeking WKS at such a traditional age. Recently for not the first time I was told I am old and foolish for doing this at my age, another who I thought was close to me drew,back, and let fly with. "By this time in life you should have come to terms with the way you are and should not be rocking the boat", am I understanding this correctly, did she just say Shut up, Sit Down and Die? Funny up until this point I had counted her as friend? Anybody want to give me any feedback?😙

Standard things most people say. Cellphone with charger, maybe tablet. You will be wearing patient gowns on the top because of being wired and IVs, So yoga, pajama or sweatsuit bottoms and couple pair underwear. Unless you,like flashing people or having them break into a chorus of Moon Over Miami Every time you stroll by. Chapstick, Biotene for dry mouth, GasX mouth strips for gas. Slippers or sneaks for your feet those bumps on the nonskid socks hurt to walk on very far,glasses case and denturecup if you are old like me and have need of them. And something I think most important of all, a smile And a pleasant attitude. See my young ones, yeah I'm climbing up on my soapbox, if I don't fall off. I am older than dirt (well 72 qualifies() and been on both" sides of the blanket" I have had multiple surgeries, mostly major but also I have been a Patient Care asssistant, a CNA and a student nurse. Pleasantness goes a long long way. You are going to have brief flashes of cruddiness in thec2hoke procedure. Yes surgery goes easier, is safer , anesthesia is nicer and less sickening, but major surgery is less fun then being in a playpark on a bright Sunny Day. It is a shock to the system, your body may rebel in weird ways, they to a woman and a man will try to be as kind as possible but try not to vent on them, give a little smile instead, okay? Yes I know you want the surgery, but better I remind you instead of hearing it from them, this is something you chose, it's not likea leg chopped off in an accident you had . You're there because you ernestky desired it. Smile , act like a credit to Mama and Papa, you water pitcher gets filled quicker, your call lights get answered faster and the world will be smoother. If you upchuck,accidently wet the bed, sure they are used to that, but if you at least attempt to apologize, they won't feel it was intentional. Oh having been there,it's better to be known as that nice lady in Room 6 than the raging witch, in the break room Times.So if you unfailingly treat them politely and respect, the sun will shine, the birds will sing sweetly anh world will be as wonderful as. possible. Okay, lecture over,now if one of you will help me down off the soapbox so I don't fall on my fat little face, we cam all go forward with what we were doing!😝👍

My gall bladder and I parted company 34 years agom FYI I was going to be tested for malabsorption because i was passing fatty floaty stools then someonevremembered I DON T HAVE a gall bladder. Eureka! Stop with the high-fat meals Frustr8 and you'll be all better! Besides if you are heading to Bariatric Surgery why are you stuffing that down your risy red tube anyway? Oops THEY CAUGHT ME! A slap on the hand👋to ME!

Has perfect logic to me, and thank you @Yllime for being this topic' s founder🌈, certainly a lot of people have responded., haven't they?😝

tHey fellow weight loss peeps, thought I'd come visit for a minute, nothing shaking over on the RnY side where I belong. Just watching the prelims for the Megan-Price Harry wedding. Got a question for all of you. Now that,you are in the final days of presurgery, do you find yourself looking at people in the crowd around you? I do and say to myself "hmm I wonder if they know about bariatric? " mind you I haven't said anything out loud because I might have resented someone getting in my face and preaching about it, now looking back I wish someone who lived me had and saved me the rapid arthritic breakdown and sorrow. My own family rationalized I was a lost cause, so just let her die 5he way she is. But them maybe my mindset was different than 5he woman or man on the street. Let me know what you all think!😙

You know I once started an Australian "bucket list" to do before I die. Could be soon from the way stress, life and surgical inattentions have beset me! Ayers Rock Moreton Bay because of the song New South Wales for the opals-gave up on hot dry Cober Pedy Sydney Opera House-wow pictures are beautiful Now chez Taoz so I can hug you and thank you for your advice but most of all for being my chum, however distant Of course if I could sort of find Russell Hitchcock of Men Down Under, I would eat a tiny spoonful of Vegemite or walk into the Indian Ocean not looking back. Mr son just started playing Making Love out of Nothing At All, he knows it makes me feel all soft and squishy like melted marshmallow. Excellent for difusing my anger! ,Until later 😝

O&D you are so right there!

Following this with rapt interest, I have lymphedema in both lower legs, left worse. Been through multiple cardiac testing, urologist not too concerned about left ankle looking like shar pei puppy, maybe should have consulted a nephrologist instead? PCP likes me in tan support knee highs, but,no end of day they start wrinkling and biting in. Getting my. 64 oz liquid, has anyone else noticed when lasix does its cute tricks it dries out BM and leads to verge of constipation? Is it a coincidence or a valid point? your truly, Frust8 the Elephant🐘legged!

@PCOSSUCKS, you have higher thoughts than me, when I see Blackhawk's pen name all I think of is Golf Balls. Hopefully BlackhawkPro will tell us both.😝

Hi guys and gals, it's me the Frust8 kid. Along with the" Do they want me or Not?" "Will they perform my surgery or not?"trains of thought , I now have a new one, my landlord Algeron the Absent, the one who lives 10-15 from the next states border, and would like to unload this house, not in the best condition, on me or someone else, his wife wants(and I sorta understand) any income coming in spent on their own mini-place and not repairs to my house. Have had a couple months I haven't been able to pay full amount and save any money for transport for when my surgery comes. So yes I'm a little behind, now I'dsinging an eviction song. I should start another heading on BP, "And the Next Shoe to Drop will be..." so I've got relocation as a worry too. To pay myself up to date would take what I have saved plus going to one of those "Check into Cash" places, once you get involved with them it takes a lot to get them paid back and free yourself. In the old days, there were older relatives who would lend you money, now I am the older generation and basically poor as a church mouse! What to do? I'm not in the dark yet but my last poor lightbulb is flickering today. Nothing that nobody else hasn't faced and I may still come up with a way out, but Geesh What Next?

And Ms Puffy Area is actually called the Mons!

Ash Ash you look like you are emerging into the sunlight after a dark stormy night, I joyfully cheer how you're looking now!👍😝

My,nibby but well'⏰lmeaning old woman instincts -Lunar Puppy- you did the right thing. Isn't it wild our credentials are so similar you could be my Godchild. Remember my litany. Right day Right time Right action for a right conclusion For the right person -You For the optimal solution. You fulfill all those- No Regrets so On with Life🙏😝

Good Luck my friend, park your personal bus right there on the gurney and go for the gold medal, you're my Olympian of the Day, you might not be at Fenway but you'll still knock this out of the Z Park and you don't have to contend with the Green Monster. 😝 &🙏

You've heard the term" baited breath" well I'm reading this all with baited eyes, I think this telling is more worthy of filing than the 2nd hand instructions from surgeons, they,May have studied,it but you girls have and are living it. I probably will be trying to sip, but I'll go teaspoon by teaspoon, if it is mandated by own condition. This does not frighten me, I instead realize the hightened awareness needed. As I read I only say a prayer at each line. I found this in this in the Notes, Observations and Prayers section of my Weight Loss Journal'-'might be Psalms, Proverbs or somewhere else,in the Bible My health may fail and my spirit go weak but God remains the strength of my heart, He is Mine forever. Love. ❤Hugs. Prayers🙏 for all of You

@SunshinePrincess are you out v there?

Welcome everybody to the Moongoggie Memorial Suite. Yes it is an exclusive area, yes so resistrictive your name has to be Moongoggie to enter yonder door. Yes it does come with bed, handcrafted by the inmates of the North Carolina state penal system , and designed,to be exceedingly as comfortable as smooth surface concrete. Over here is a washbasin sink with mirror over top, this helps to put on your makeup. And yonder is the,piwder room wher3 you powd er your nose. And today's limited time offer; This room comes with a FLOOR. Yes yes, please don't applaud, you'll turn my head with such flattery! Now moving on.......

Well here it sets still. My biggest complaint with also being 320 and post'menopausal my metabolism is such I barely lose any weight with my exercise, whereas my younger sisters drop weight like a scared rabbit. Do you feel like life is not always fair?😕

To all over 35 parent-wannabes. Go for it! My own story: I had one child at 23, one at 30 and my last at 34 1/2. My youngest is still with me, a joy to know, I will never regret him. I once overheard him tell a friend " You know in our family there already was a girl, a boy, when I came along , I was the bonus dividend, they baby they did not have to please someone, I was wanted and loved, not just an obligation. And I was the most desired of all" If you want a baby the try to mak3 a baby, if that doesn't succeed, adoption is a wonderful option, families are made that way also. The wise👵 woman has spoken!🌈

@Taoz if you're reading this, could you offer some help to @ witchypoo72, she's in Australia and having trouble finding her way. Thanks in Advance.😜

And Pearldrop Pearldropcome join us over on Summer 2018 Surgery Buddies we'd love to have you!!!

And great NSV everybody. Keep them coming!😝