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that all sounds strange to me & very unprofessional.i would have insisted on meeting the surgeon before i went any further.something is definitely going on around there,whether there are a lot of unhappy employees or they are understaffed,regardless i cant help but wonder what the actual surgery is gonna be like & all those followup appointments,help,& support that u really need.have u researched him & seen reviews on him?im sure ur in a hard position if u have already started all this & it’s the only place in town & if insurance is dictating where u can go but start asking questions & voicing ur concerns.good luck w everything,hope it gets better.

congratulations[emoji1319][emoji1319]no but mine is april 2nd

oh no u are definitely not alone,lol,i am worrying about all those things too but getting healthy & feeling good is the most important.hair will grow back,u can hide some sagging skin or eventually do something about it if it bothers u that bad.lord knows how well we try to hide those extra lbs & this will b a lot less visible & a lot easier.

we all are nervous,thats normal but u would regret it if u didnt go thru w it after all ur efforts.i just think about some of the people that we have read about that backed out on surgery day & totally regretted it & then had to start all over again to finally have it.

those are all normal feelings,u are so ready but the waiting does drive u crazy.u will do great,u are almost there.[emoji847]

thats so great.i am having surgery April 2nd.i have all my tests,labs,dietitian appts. next week & start liquid pre op on the 26th.i need to shop for protein shakes & water,broth,jello,& sf fruit pops.

thank u.so i chose april 2nd,have my exrays,ekg,blood work,& meeting w the dietitian on mon & then my EGD next fri.i start 1wk pre op liquids on the 26th.its getting real now.

congratulations!my surgery is april 2nd

i had my consultation today & have to let them know if i want to do april 2nd or april 16th.i hate to ruin easter for everyone but really want to have done asap.i need to make sure wk will let me off wk w /out a month’s notice & double chk w my husband & his schedule.i will keep u posted.

so i had my consultation today & can have my surgery as soon as april 2nd or april 16th if all my tests go well,so excited!!have to double chk w my work tomorrow & my husband’s schedule to see which date will wk best.will keep u posted.

congratulations!!

i have my consultation tomorrow also.im self paying too,so hoping for an april surgery date if everything checks out w tests & blood work.keeping my fingers crossed.

awhhh,this is all so terrible,so much to b going thru on top of the normal things everyone seems to experience.i haven’t had the sleeve done yet but hoping for april so i dont have the expertise that some of these veterans do.im sorry u had to quit ur job but it sounds like it was not a good situation & just adding to ur stress.did ur nut give u any new suggestions on what to try?i agree w staying hydrated first & liquid vitamins or patch so u dont get dehydated & wind up bk in hospital.im sure some of the others on this forum can give u some different brands & foods/recipes to try that may taste better.it all sounds like its all stress related & the vicious circle going round & round w not getting enough nutrients & therefore being so tired & then depressed,all affecting the other.u need to try to take care of yourself or u wont b able to take care of anyone else or anything at ur work,u may need to take a week or 2 off & rely on ur family or close friends til u get this under control.i truly feel for u & will keep u in my prayers.so sorry u are going thru this[emoji20]

i have not been thru any of this yet,my turn will b coming soon,lol,but i know all this sugar free stuff w artificial sweeteners can reek havoc on my stomach now so i cant imagine what some of that stuff could do after surgery.im sure its a combination of things as the experts have voiced.hope u feel better soon

u are fine,u are going thru something u have never gone thru before & trying to cope.u will do better as u get to eat normal food again.this is all so opposite of what we are use to.give yourself some credit,u know this is a learning process & u are crawling right now & then u will walk & then run & finally sprint.u will get there.[emoji6]

sosewsue61 i was reading thru everyones responses when i read about u getting a perm this month.it’s only my opinion as i am a haidresser for 22yrs,please wait on the perm if ur already losing hair & are trying to grow more,they are still so hard on ur hair & i just don’t want it to cause more damage & create even a bigger problem for u.biotin can help if u have a deficiency,prenatal vitamins can help,avedas invati system can help.moving the scalp around to promote good circulation when shampooing & conditioning,no tight hats or rubber bands that can restrict blood flow & a good oil to keep scalp from being dry or exfoliating really oily dandruff buildup on scalp can all only help.

so i am self paying for my gastric sleeve surgery that is suppose to be in april.i have struggled my whole life up & dwn & when heavy have always been told what a beautiful face i have & how nice my skin is[emoji849]my husband has always treated me well & calls me princess no matter how much weight i have gained over the yrs. my friends are fantastic & coworkers amazing like family.i have been in the beauty business for 21 yrs.& have been very successful.my highest weight a couple yrs. ago was 321,i was mortified & ashamed of myself.i got dwn to 272 last yr and have maintained despite lots of social gatherings,holidays,going out to dinner,& loving to cook.i have high blood pressure & have been trying to decrease my medicine & get off 1 of them & eventually the other but w/ the new bp guidelines my dr. has increased my meds once again,which really upset me.so i had thought about vsg surgery for yrs but could never afford it,well now it is affordable.i am surrounded by clients & coworkers that are getting tummy tucks,breast implants,lifts,liposuction,botox,& other cosmetic surgeries & procedures.so i thought now is the time,im turning 48 & i really just want to b healthy & more active.i have told some friends,family,& coworkers about my plans for vsg & most are very supportive & others think i look great & dont need it & others i could just loose another 50lbs at the most & look fantastic.this will financially put my husband & i on a tight budget for at least 2-6 months & i have my son getting married this yr & we are paying a 1/3rd of all the costs.of course part of me thinks i am being selfish & putting a financial burden on my family & the other part thinks i really need this tool to finally help me get back dwn to where i need to b & to finally get healthy before i get diabetes or have a heart attack.im sorry for such a long story but no one knows how i really feel & the mental torment bk & forth like u all do.i am second guessing myself now & wondering if i should just cancel the surgery & buckle dwn & try & lose another 50lbs & b happy,not getting dwn to my goal weight of 170 lbs. i could try & maintain after that & still have treat days & if i still am having issues i could get surgery done nxt yr after the wedding & after i have saved more money.ughh but the other part of me is so excited & wants to have the surgery done asap & is ready to get healthy & feel better & start a new positive chapter in my life.if u all could b so kind to give me your opinions.no one else gets that this is such a struggle,such a hard decision,& can be life changing.thank u for taking the time to read this, i really appreciate it.[emoji4]

these are all great points & good feedback.the wedding is gonna b no more than 120 people,i really am not too involved in the planning as my sons fiancees mother,sister,& sister-in-law are really into it & i just tell them to let me know whatever they need from me. also i found out that a good friend of her mother wants to throw the shower so now i guess i dont need to do that.i will b involved in getting the hair & makeup set up whether they choose to come to salon or have people go to their hse.i am really considering not even doing the bride’s hair as i dont want to b stressed the day of & want to b available for other things that may come up.we dont have to worry about out of town guests.it would b stressful to lose my hair before but i could deal w it.im still on the fence for sure about it all.i do thank u for all ur opinions[emoji6]

sorry,didnt mean to hit send yet.you also can’t help but think about all the worst case scenarios during & after surgery.i know all this is normal to think about & with everyones stories,information, & tips the good definitely outweighs the bad.i am not a rule breaker so i know i would stick to my drs.plan afterwards.i would take 2 wks off for sure.i do wish i would have done this yrs ago also. i am so happy that it is affordable now & possible.the biggest reason of all is to get healthy,b more active,& to feel good.

thank u both for responding,firstly for sharing ur story & inspiration & secondly for ur experience & wisdom.i have read so much on this forum & others trying to get a realistic grasp on how everday life would be ,before,during,& after surgery.i have even more of a respect for all the work & dedication it takes & everything people are going thru at every stage.i definitely would be doing this for myself for sure.i have fine hair already & now that im getting older along w/ thyroid problem i am losing more & dealing with dryness.i am so scared of losing even more after surgery, especially w/ the wedding in nov. i know i can buy clip in hair or a wig if it comes to that & it is not gonna keep me from having the surgery if i decide to. the lose skin is also a concern as i dont want to do surgery after surgery trying to fix this later on,not to mention the cost.i am also worried about trying to get all the liquids,proteins,& vitamins in while working as i am a hairdresser & sometimes don’t have time to take a potty break or eat anything & if so am shoveling it in so fast.

i am very worried about losing my hair after surgery,especially since i have fine hair & have my son’s wedding in nov. i am starting on aveda’s invati system & looking into a prescription of finasteride5g.

i should b getting sleeved in april & im a hairdresser who sometimes doesnt have to to go to the bathroom or eat at all.im also worried about getting it all & not passing out on the floor.

yum[emoji39]looks great

these are all great ideas,i luv to cook & want to make the best versions of what we are allowed to have w less sodium,preservatives,& artificial sweeteners

oh ur so welcome,this is an entire lifestyle change & we all have to trade info & ideas & find what works for us best.i struggle w the thought of never eating or drinking anything bad vs.eating terrible & i know i personally want to eventually find a balance of eating healthy most of the time but being able to enjoy some treats or small meals on holidays,birthdays,or special occasions.i cant imagine never making my mom’s german potato salad ever again & never eating a piece of cake on my bday.i guess u have to make better versions of them or eat in moderation or give them up altogether if it leads u dwn the wrong path.this is all a journey.i do know that my main priority is nutrients & water first & to not stretch my sleeve out when i get it by eating bigger & bigger meals.also incorporating realistic & sustainable exercise.