GayGirlLivingForHer

I've had a hard run but after much heartache, I finally had my surgery on December 10th. The picture of me in the gray shirt was taken at my highest weight. That was my nephew's first xmas. The picture with the red shirt was taken a few days ago. Same sweet boy, same (but shrinking) auntie Gigi. I am having multiple issues but the weight seems to be easily coming off. I hope that others are doing well with all of your recent surgeries. Top weight: 427 Surgery weight: 385 Current weight: 317!! [emoji2][emoji2][emoji2] Sent from my SM-S767VL using BariatricPal mobile app

I'm sick all the time... I'm either nauseous, upset to the stomach, or in actual pain. The closest I could gather the pain might be is hunger pains. I'm never actually hungry but I always feel kind of jealous when people are able to eat when I can't. I can not tolerate most carbs now. Rice, pasta, bread... those dont sit well at all. Interestingly, I can easily tolerate most proteins. Cheeses and eggs of all sorts are easy for me as well as deli meats or canned meats. Anything with a bunch of grease or excess sugar make me vomit right away. I still vomit at least once on most days. Sometimes without even eating anything. It's as if my stomach is telling me to not even consider eating anything. Also, I've been getting migraines, dizzy spells, and serious fatigue. When I try to bring these things up to my doctor she just kind of brushes it all off as if it's all normal but I sure don't feel normal. The only advice she had was that maybe I should take a multivitamin if I want to... Sent from my SM-S767VL using BariatricPal mobile app

I had my sleeve done on December 10th. I had/have a lot to lose but I've lost 70 pounds since my surgery date Sent from my SM-S767VL using BariatricPal mobile app

I have my wife on video chat and messenger. My dad is here but since my mom passed he's severely depressed and he's not exactly good company. My sister is close by but she's the type that always worries about her and hers first. She has no worries about me unless it directly effects what she wants or what she needs me to do for her. My wife will be here in April and I think by then things will be better Sent from my LML212VL using BariatricPal mobile app

I understand that getting the surgery was the best option for me to be healthy. I honestly only regret the process that I went through. I was not well informed about what was happening step by step, how to deal with any if it, or what to expect after surgery. I was not treated like an adult that deserved respect. Any time I had tried to voice concerns I was brushed off as if nothing I said or felt was worth caring about. My two supporters can not be with me right now. My mom passed away in October and I'll be fighting immigration this year to get my wife over here with me. It's just been really hard doing it by myself Sent from my LML212VL using BariatricPal mobile app

I am always nauseous and I vomit pretty often. My surgeon refuses to see me because I was being treated like a drug addict when I told them I was in pain. I ended up telling the surgeon that this was the worst decision of my life and she's an awful doctor. I'm currently only able to keep down much other than scrambled eggs and coffee. It's been pretty rough so far Sent from my LML212VL using BariatricPal mobile app

I have been ill almost constantly since my surgery on the 10th. At first I didn't pass gas for four days. I was concerned but after being able to have a bm, my body decided that it would only tolerate any type of food on one of two conditions. I either have an upset, angry stomach or I'm in the bathroom shortly after consuming anything. Has anyone heard of this? Is it a normal side effect from the surgery? Down 35 pounds since surgery though [emoji3] Sent from my LML212VL using BariatricPal mobile app

I'm sorry about that. My original surgery date was supposed to be May 2nd. I was rescheduled a half dozen times before I finally had gastric sleeve on December 10th 2018 Sent from my LML212VL using BariatricPal mobile app

I got my surgery on December 10th. I am very often sick and I'm having the hardest time. Not much support as my wife is not living here with me right now. It's incredibly difficult to deal with everything when I feel alone Sent from my LML212VL using BariatricPal mobile app

I had my surgery on December 10th. I also have a lot of worries but I just try to keep on drinking. I drink a lot of water and I worry about my protien intake. I was mostly pain free after only about 5 days. So I would think that part is normal Sent from my LML212VL using BariatricPal mobile app

My surgery was a long time coming. I went through a short period where I had convinced myself I could do it on my own. Obviously, that didn't work. My mom was helping me every step of the way. She was so supportive and really wanted it for me. She wanted me to be healthier and in turn happier. My surgery had already been pushed 3 times and I was close to just forgetting about it. I finally thought I had a set date of Oct 22. I thought for sure that would be it but then tragedy struck. My mom, my biggest supporter suddenly passed away. I can not explain how heartbroken I was and still am but I knew my mom really wanted this for me. I even told my doctor that I still wanted the surgery, that I had to do it for my mom but they pushed it once again. Apparently ten days after the loss of my mom was too soon to do it. I was rescheduled for December 10th. The surgery went pretty well and I'm recovering fine. Both of my patently already had surgery years ago. My dad to save his life and my mom because she had so many stomach problems not because of her weight. They both had told me that my appetite would pretty much disappear. That is not the case at all. It's ridiculous because I'm not hungry. I have no hunger at all. I just want to eat. I've found myself chewing on food and spitting it out just so I can taste something. I had a tiny cookie today and I felt guilty, like I was doing something bad. Exactly like I did when I was a kid and would sneak food. I've literally been big my whole life. I was an 8 pound baby even one month premature. I know I have some kind of mental problem having to do with food. I feel like as soon as I'm physically able to eat real food again that my weight loss will halt and I'll just gain all of it back. I'm scared but I don't know what to do. Please don't bash me. I've been through enough and I don't have my comfort anymore. Any advice would be appreciated. Top weight: 427 Surgery weight: 387 Current weight: 350 Sent from my LML212VL using BariatricPal mobile app

Andrea and I certainly are still together. We're getting married in April. My mom was helping me plan it out and save up for the expenses. I know now that she had planned to pass me her wedding ring that my grandma passed to her when she married my dad. It's a lovely ring but it doesn't fit me right now. I think maybe it will by April. It hurts that she didn't get the chance to pass it on herself and instead I got such a bittersweet gift after she passed. I wonder sometimes if she wasn't happy. I wonder if I were doing better if my mom would or could have held on. She wasn't even sick. She just randomly left us. The doctors couldn't give us a reason for why this happened. I'm starting to think she left because she felt like things weren't going in the direction she wanted. Like maybe she died of a broken heart because her oldest daughter has been the most heartache Sent from my LML212VL using BariatricPal mobile app

I have a therapist that comes to see me every other week. I got lucky and somehow ended up with a lady that comes to my house but I'm one of those people who doesn't really get much out of it. I have been in and out of therapy since before I was even a teenager. I keep seeing the lady in hopes that I'll have some kind of breakthrough. My mom would be proud. I know that but it's hard that she can't be here to see the progress, to celebrate with me. I try to stay busy with our business. We're open seven days a week and we're expanding and starting new product lines. My mom wanted to see me running the store efficiently and she wanted me to be healthy and happy. Those were her two big things. It kills me that my mom never got the chance to see that that's going to happen. I think the hardest thing is that right now there's so many things in the works that my mom can't be here for. I'm getting married soon and my mom never got the chance to pass her wedding ring onto me. She won't get the chance to see me marry my queen. She won't get to see my stepson run this business when he's older. She won't sit with me and watch Dr Who. She won't see me become a healthier me... I guess it comes down to me just really missing my mom and not having the comfort of food. Food has always been my safe haven. It's never let me down. Sent from my LML212VL using BariatricPal mobile app

I already did most of the pre op stuff and I even have approval from my insurance. But my life situation change along side three surgical centers turning me away. I was turned away because even though my insurance will pay I'm still considered a high risk patient because they believe I will put the weight back on. So, that sucks but it made me realize that I need to make some serious life changes. I need to figure myself out and get out of these bad habits. So, my parents called me in to help them run their business. Now, I'm working full time ×2, I'm trying to change bad habits, and I have dropped 35 pounds on my own so far. I'm starting to feel like I should at least give it a fair go and honestly try to do it on my own before taking a leap to surgery. I mean surgery is serious. I am working on being more confident in myself and it does help to know that if or when I need it, I could fall back on the surgery option. Wish me luck guys and gals! I totally support anyone who is working on themselves no matter the tools they use to do so. If anyone needs a listening ear, feel free to reach out to me. We could be each others cheer leaders. Good luck and blessed be, friends. Sent from my SM-J737P using BariatricPal mobile app

Thanks, guys! Good luck to you as well. Accomplishing goals and starting a better way of life isn't easy either way. Whether it be with or without surgery it's a journey and a struggle any way you go about it. The best we can do is take care of ourselves and look out for each other. Sent from my SM-J737P using BariatricPal mobile app

I haven't posted or even gotten on the app in a while. I've really been trying to improve myself because I realize my weight is not my only health concern. I was scheduled for bypass surgery for May 2nd but they told me there was issues with my insurance and cancelled my surgery. After that serious disappointment, over 7 weeks I gained 20 pounds. Two other doctors refused me for surgery because my mental health conditions and eating habits make me "a high risk patient." So, I took these occurrences to heart and I am now on a treatment plan for my mental illnesses and I do feel better than before. And I've even lost 25 pounds! I'm now worried that my treatment plan will not be considered acceptable to any surgical team. It's still considered kind of unorthodox but it's a valid plan, that ready does work, put in place by a real doctor. If you find something that helps you mentally, do you forfeit the physical to fix the mental? My partner loves me for my mind (I know it's cheesy but in my case it's true) not by body. She never, not once, ever said anything negative about my physical appearance. She doesn't like the idea of me getting surgery. I wonder if I should bother anymore? I feel better, I feel happier than I was, I work, I have awesome people in my life, I'm just feeling like I'm pushing it to ask for more than I have right now.... I don't know. I guess I needed to just talk. Any advice or opinions would be appreciated Sent from my SM-J327P using BariatricPal mobile app

I know it might seem a bit desperate but I'm going to give it a go... I feel kind of alone even though I'm surrounded by people. I feel like I'm a liar because I can't be honest with anyone. I put on this smiling face and say I'm f.i.n.e. but really I'm not and I really need some people to talk to. Maybe, hopefully some people can relate and we can help each other. Anyone who might be interested in a new friend, please don't hesitate to message me. Sent from my SM-J327P using BariatricPal mobile app

It feels extreme to me... My dad had the gastric bypass about 8 years ago and he had awful complications. I'm worried I'll have the same issues since I'm close (or was) to his pre op weight Sent from my SM-J327P using BariatricPal mobile app

I have a lot of issues. My weight as well as many emotional problems. I feel like my family is acting like this is no big deal when in my mind it's extreme. I'm relatively young (32) so I think they all think I'll be fine because of that. No one seems to be concerned with the mental side of things. I have an anxiety disorder and lately I just can't get it under control. I fear that the anxiety could break me Sent from my SM-J327P using BariatricPal mobile app

I was scheduled for May 2nd but that office cancelled on me because they are not approved with my insurance. Like, how crazy that my insurance said yes we will pay but not that surgeon. So, I went to another place which is actually closer to my home. They will give me a surgery date at my next appointment which is May 8th Sent from my SM-J327P using BariatricPal mobile app

I am worried that I might not be able to handle this. I'm not concerned about the cost because my insurance has been awesome. They seem to be on board and just want me to go through the motions (regular doctors visits, showing a consistent weight issue, nutritionists visits, heart and lung testing, etc etc.) I'm worried about myself emotionally and mentally. I have many issues and I thrive on consistency. Any type of change or unease seriously hikes my anxiety. (Diagnosed with an anxiety disorder.) I fear that I will not get much sympathy from my parents who both had gastric bypass surgery. My mother got the surgery more because of serious problems with her stomach and intestines. She is now stick thin and has been for years. My dad lost over 200 pounds but is now gaining weight. They both had complications that made their recovery pretty difficult. They are acting as if this is no big deal. My mother is even trying to plan a road trip about ten days after my scheduled surgery. I feel like my parents think it'll be easy for me because I am much younger (32) than they were when they separately got their surgeries and I am more "strong bodied." I might be and physically I could probably do it with not much problem. I am more concerned that I'm not sure I can handle the stress and anxiety. I gave up my worst coping mechanism (it wasnt drugs but it was pretty unhealthy) 4 years ago because my loved ones were concerned and scared for me. Now, I have given up my cigarettes; I've forfeited my sex drive (sorry to be crude) because the psych meds make it impossible. And in 55 days I'll be giving away my best friend, Food. I feel like I'm giving everything up, I feel like I'm doing this by myself, and frankly I feel very lonely. My partner is amazing but she will love me to death if I let her. She feeds me and insists that I eat more because she wants me to be satisfied and never go without. She is even sending a big box of goodies from New Zealand next month instead of in June as planned because I told her that after the surgery I probably can't eat it. She does not want me to get the surgery because she fears for me but quietly supports (or maybe its better to say she isn't fighting) my decision. I know I need to do this. I know I need to live. I just don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can do this without breaking... Sorry for the rant. Just needing to vent, I guess... And for anyone interested here are my precious reasons for having the surgery. My nephew, Matthew, my amazing partner, Andrea, and my niece, Lileigh.

I am looking forward to not having to bother with that little shake test I do on chairs. I give them a little shake to see how sturdy they are... Sent from my SM-J327P using BariatricPal mobile app

I also am the "fat chick with red hair." And I can totally relate to an earlier response about selfies taken from an angle to show less chin... Sent from my SM-J327P using BariatricPal mobile app

I'd also like to make another trip to New Zealand but more comfortably. Last time I was so cramped and embarrassed. I thought I could just not wear a seat belt and they wouldn't notice but the flight attendant came around checking. He looked at me and was not discreet at all. He hollered across the dang plane to tell another flight attendant that I needed a seat belt extender and pointed at me. I don't think I could have felt worse... Sent from my SM-J327P using BariatricPal mobile app

Oh my goodness yes! ComiCon! I'll put that on my list too Sent from my SM-J327P using BariatricPal mobile app