sillykitty

Has anyone reconsidered their goal weight, as they have gotten closer? I set my goal weight based on what I weighed in my early 20's, around 135-140 lbs. Of course I thought I was fat back then. But at my 240 surgery weight, that seemed damn skinny, and I figured I had body dysmorphia at that time. I'm now 25 lbs away from goal, and I see a lot more than 25 lbs of fat on me that I want to lose. I think I look great in clothes. But naked, so much fat and so many lumps and bumps, ugh. I know plastic surgery will take care of some of it. Tummy tucks do an amazing job creating a flat stomach. It's my thighs that I'm most worried about. They are definitely still "thunder thighs". I want to do no more than lipo and a medial thigh lift on them. If I just lose another 25 lbs I'm having a hard time imagining a good result. I need to balance losing more weight, with keeping my butt looking good. It's literally the only thing I like on my body right now! Has anyone gone lower than their original goal? What motivated you? Are you happy with the results? Any insight is appreciated!

So why not just go back to basics, lean protein first, then non starchy veg, then healthy carbs? It just sounds to me like you are looking for a quick fix, instead of focusing on why you gained and looking for a sustainable long term plan. So you drop this 30 and then what?

This may be an unpopular answer, but why focus on keto or IF? Your problem doesn’t seem to be losing weight. You lost 70 lbs after WLS, and I miss sure in many other diets I never your life. Why not find a sustainable diet you can live with long term?

Lol, yes! When I’m eating out locally leftover-ability is part of my decision process. Burrito bowl over a taco, for instance. I also avoid cooked seafood, salads or sandwiches. i eat out more often when I can’t take leftovers, so I have plenty of opportunity to eat leftover unfriendly food.

Pre-Confession here ... I’m going on vacation, actually on the plane right now. I plan to eat whatever I want. I know there will be fish and chips (well probably not many chips, don’t like chunky chips), meat pies, plenty of Indian food, sticky toffee pudding, and beer. Not going to feel one bit guilty about it. I get far too little vacation time, and I am going to enjoy what I have to the fullest.

These are colleagues. So short of quitting my job, I’m stuck with them

This is me i never had any intention to drastically change my lifestyle. A life on grilled chicken and celery is not appealing to me. Not even joking, I’d rather be fat. My plan was after WLS to eat pretty strictly healthily to take maximum advantage of the honeymoon phase. During the maintenance phase to eat as normally as possible, just minimizing “junk” and eating smaller portions. i haven’t been as strict in my losing stage as I had intended. I appear to have much more restriction than most people at my stage. I have relied on that. As long as it’s not a slider, and I haven’t found many sliders, I can eat so little' it’s like max 200 cals per meal. So I have relaxed, and it hasn’t seemed to harm my weight loss During maintenance, I plan to eat “normally”, ordering what I want from a restaurant menu for example. Eating bread, pasta etc. What I don’t plan to do is have junk food snacks in the house like chips, cookies, regular ice cream etc. I might have these out on occasion, but not to sit around the house so I can eat them to excess. I also plan to not drink as excessively. I look forward to fitting in and having a few drinks, but not the 10+ I would regularly consume sometimes multiples times per week. Why I’m hoping this will work for me is I gained my weight slowly over the years. In the last 8 years I have lived a lifestyle of constant dining out and drinking. I made no attempt at all to make healthy choices. I literally ate what sounded best at every opportunity. I gained about 60 lbs in those 8 yrs. My logic is if I gained relatively slowly while completely ignoring my food intake, then a with moderate amount of control I should be able to maintain, especially if I have reasonable amount of restriction. i could be completely wrong. If I am I am willing to reevaluate and find what will work for me. I love my new found body. I am going to invest in plastics. I’m too damn happy feeling sexy af to let myself have significant regain. The only things I’m not willing to give up is ethnic food, and eating freely when traveling on international vacations. Other than that I will do what is needed to find that balance during maintenance.

Drinking. I was a huge social drinker. I’ve drank since WLS. I’ve enjoyed a nice glass of wine or port. But the appeal of sitting in the hotel bar and having drink after drink is gone. The only hard thing about it is being the only sober one, and people commenting about it. I’ve been told I’m not the same sillykitty any more. I’ve been told that it’s no fun to be around me because I’ll remember all the drunken antics etc.. I miss fitting in only not the drinking

Weirdo!

I am far from perfect ... FAR .... and I have been more successful than I had imagined. I stall, I go up, but there is no discernable link for me between when I "cheat" vs. when I don't. But, even when I cheat, m restriction is so great, it keeps my calories really low. So I stay in ketosis because my body can't run on less than 500 cals per day. So this is what makes me be able to cheat and still lose, IMO.

Ahhh ,,, this definitely feels like a Kumbaya moment

So this is kinda what I do ..... I can assure you, these companies offer what sells. If kale chips sold better than potato chips, then that's what you'd at every checkstand. There is a huge disconnect between what the general public says they want to buy, and what they actually do buy. (Oh, and if you LOVE kale chips and HATE potato chips, you are an outlier ... trust me!)

Do you ask him for a ride

How about this?

LMAO ... it's a salad fork

But even though we may not be bariatric diet poster children, look at how well we are doing!

Leftover Tagliatelle Short Rib Ragu

For the record, I did feel bad about those cookies I guess to me the difference is, making a not as healthy a choice at a meal vs. a totally unnecessary splurge snack. I'm at a restaurant, I need to order a meal. I could order something uber healthy, but I don't really want. Or I could order a less healthy choice but I will enjoy it more. That I don't feel bad about, because again, 1 oz, seriously!

Well when you can only eat 1 oz, it's hard to feel bad about a cheat

Now that's my kind of cheat! Most of my "cheats" are meal choices. But one of my few snack cheats was a Grandma's Peanut Butter Sandwich cookies. I used to LOVE those in my 20's. So, I was in a convenience store. Not usually a problem, I'm in them regularly. But the person in front of me in line grabbed a pack and I. just. could. not. resist.

Can you swallow pills? I switched to pills at about 2 weeks post op

This is really variable. I work from home and technically took no time off. My job isn't physically harder than surfing the internet. I could drive as long as I wasn't on pain meds. Pain was minimal. I was tired, but not debilitatingly so. I started work travel on day 15 post op. I have traveled nearly every week since. Jobs are different too. I would have done myself a disservice by taking time off. The work would have piled up, and gotten more urgent and complicated if I had just let it sit for weeks. It would have created crisis's that would be harder to resolve later, than just dealing with it at the time. So by working at 75% for the first week or two was a whole lot easier overall than dealing with huge issues my absence caused when I would have returned.

I know there are a million posts about hair loss. But I'm putting this here because I just want to whine about it. I started shedding heavily at 3 months post op. The last two weeks have been so much worse. Literal handfuls in my brush, in my shower drain, when I run my hand through my hair, in my dryer screen, loose hairs all over my clothes (so professional looking!). I'm getting my protein in. I've taken biotin since before surgery. I added L-lysine and zinc two weeks ago. I take a good multivitamin. I rarely blow dry or flat iron my hair. I feel like I'm doing everything right. I don't think it is noticeable yet, in most circumstances. But I can feel it is significantly thinner. It is also thin at my hairline and temples. I was at a industry golf tournament last week, and I pulled my hair up into a pony tail. The thinning at my temples and hairline was completely obvious. I wanted to cry. I hope that my visor mostly covered it up. If this continues, I'm going to have to do something other than whine. I've googled weaves for Caucasian hair. It seems possible, but it's not common. Seems like there is a serious upcharge vs. salons that specialize in AA hair (not that that is inexpensive!). The only thing I can see that might be contributing diet wise, is my calories have been very low since surgery. I am almost always under 500 cals/day, except sometimes when I'm traveling and eating every meal out. Some days I'm well under 400 cals. I really don't want to up these cals, because I have a lot of restriction and mostly don't have physical hunger. I don't want to eat just to eat. That's a big part of why I needed WLS. I also want to get to goal as quickly as possible. I have a small window at the end of the year to have plastics. If I'm not at goal by that time then my work and travel schedule will make it very difficult to find the time in 2019 for surgery and recovery. Ugh, thanks for listening

Ditto!

Are you and your tiny tummy one of those 2 people? If so, I would say yes, that should work. The problem with the basket style air fryers is as the capacity gets bigger, the basket just gets deeper. For most things, they lay on thw bottom of the basket, so deeper doesn't really accomplish anything. If that makes sense?