MaybeMissedChance

I'm 2 nutritionist visits away from "graduation," and I have passed all of the other prerequisites for surgery. I have no date, yet, but I would expect it to be sometime around late March-early April (with the greenlight from insurance). My nutritionist warned me about messing around unprotected with my fiancé: about how you can't have kids for at least 2 years post-operation, and to make sure to use birth control to prevent it. Well, I think I really screwed myself over (pun intended). My period has never been "set your calendar by it," and I have had months with none and then months with 2 back to back. I was on the pill for 4 years, and I got taken off in October because I couldn't make an appointment to see my GYN for a new prescription. And I messed around with hubby the beginning of the month... But I was getting all of the cramps, bloating and sensitivity that I usually get before my period arrives. That was 10 days ago, and I'm still not bleeding! What do I do if I AM pregnant??? I desperately need this surgery; my body can't take this weight, anymore. I respect others' rights to choose, but my fiancé and I were both brought up believing that life begins at the moment of conception, and abortion is wrong ( with the exception of ectopic pregnancy, where neither the baby OR the mother would live). And neither of us is in a financial state where we can support and provide for a baby...I live with my mom, unemployed, and he lives with his awful aunt, and is still in limbo at his construction job. I just keep praying to bleed everything away, because I can't put off this surgery. Does anybody have any advice, and not any shaming (because I am doing enough of that for myself)? 😭🙏🤦

I haven't had a surgery date set, yet, because I am still 2 nutrition visits away from going forward to approval with Medicaid...but I totally get what you mean about the smelling things, and feeling like an alcoholic! The first 3 weeks of my new guidelined diet, every time I passed by a restaurant or fast food joint, it was all I could do not to drool on myself because it all smelled so delicious AND STRONG! Now, 4 months in, I only get the drooling sensation if I haven't had anything to put in my stomach all day, and I've been running around for appointments...or chocolate/ice cream commercials on TV. TV is evil: it will put a Reese's commercial on during every break in a show for 3 hours...and then it stopped, and 2 hours later it was KitKat bars! And it's not even Valentine's Day, yet! Stay strong, hun! If you can't follow the pre-surgery diet to the letter, then there is a high probability that you won't be able to follow the post-surgery diet to the letter, either (which will be much worse for you than before you get snipped). You've got this! I believe in you! Best of luck on your surgery and recovery!😊🤗🤞💪👌💐🐳

Unfortunately, he's got no drivers license/car either...we're both reliant upon public transportation to get around. And, right now, he's out of work because no one wants to do construction work in the winter; and, he was doing under the table work for a friend, because the friend was afraid that if he put him on payroll (but he didn't have enough work hours to give Jose), that state would take his medical and SNAP benefits away. Jose's living with his aunt, but on a very shaky temporary basis; if she gave him the boot, he'd be homeless, again. Mike didn't want to make it black and white on paper until Jose maybe had the chance to save enough to rent a room, somewhere. I started bleeding, overnight. I'm still going to get tested at my doctor's, though, because some women I know have bled like they were having a regular period but were still actually pregnant. Not taking any chances with this!🚫🎲

I see my PCP on the 22nd, this month, and I'm still waiting to hear back from my ob/gyn to set up an appointment for the check up/pills. I'm unemployed, so I don't have the funds (not even the dollar store's $1.06) to pay for a pregnancy test, myself. I also can't drive, so I can't get to the store to buy an over the counter one without alerting my mother... and she'll kill me if she finds out a: I had sex with my boyfriend in her house, BEFORE marriage, and b: I might be pregnant and having a baby out of wedlock. She's old-fashioned Christian, and that's adultery going on in her home. There is a VERY large possibility that she'd kick me out. That's why I stealth tested myself in the bathroom, homeopathic style; and I am under 2 weeks late, so i didn't think the average store tests (the least expensive ones) would show accurate results so soon after implantation.

I really hope that I'm not going to have to put this surgery on hold... my spine can't take much more of this pain. I did a tentative homeopathic pregnancy test, this morning. My period still isn't here, and I wanted to check if there would be some kind of way to test myself at home WITHOUT my mother finding out. I did the baking soda test...and it frothed! When I tried the sugar test a few days, ago, there was no clumping: the sugar dissolved, which was a negative result. But the baking soda showed me a positive one! I called my GYN Office, yesterday, to set up an appointment for ASAP. I got their answering machine, so I left a message and gave them my new cell number to call back; I told them about impending surgery in a few months, (and that I would need the birth control pill again) so if I could get an appointment set up really soon I would be very grateful! I didn't tell them that I thought i might be pregnant, because my brothers were in the room with me...but if I don't hear back from them in the next few days, I might have to call them back and tell them that. I will try the baking soda test, again, on Saturday...wish me luck, because I'm going to need it...😥🤦