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Hi Cybie, Stalls are TOTALLY normal and expected. I KNOW they are a huge drag! I quickly lost 30 pounds post surgery in about a month, then I had at least TWO FULL WEEKS where the scale didn't budge at all...if anything it went UP a pound! I was so depressed about it...well the stall broke and I'm down 15 pounds more! So keep your hope! Don't allow the stall to cause you to eat sugar, carbs or other 'forbidden' things as we do this weight loss surgery journey! Stay on your path!

Thanks for sharing this, Margaux. I waited 14 years for this so I was expecting the weight to just drop off and to be super motivated. Lo and behold my father died after a relatively brief illness on January 7, as I was recovering from surgery still. It's been very hard. I have had what I consider 'small cheats' such as having 3 or 4 mini pretzels with a dab of peanut butter and jelly on top. It was very delicious but I was aware that jelly is full of sugar and these little treats need to be carefully guarded. So that perhaps a once a week treat doesn't become a daily treat. I need to have small rewards since my marriage is on the rocks and I'm lonelier than ever, family struggling with the death of my father and I'm the oldest 'functional' sibling so I have a lot on my shoulders. I think WE CAN DO IT! I've lost 30 pounds since surgery 12/29/17 and 45 pounds since being weighed in November. I also lost at least 30 additional pounds because at my doctor's scale I was almost 390 months ago...very bloated. So I feel as long as I keep moving in the right direction, whether slowly or not, I am going in the right direction! We are living and learning! I didn't have dumping but I had AGONY after eating some soft chicken and refried beans too quickly. The pain was agoizing into my stomach, chest, back, even a headache! Is THAT dumping? Or just pain from eating too thick food too quickly? I was hungry and gobbled a small amount, but far too quickly.

Hi folks, I had my laparoscopic RNY on 12/29/17 and the weight starting fall off rapidly. I know I tend to carry a lot of Water weight and I lost quickly what seemed to be about 30 pounds from my surgery weight of 360. BUT...I've had very low appetite. Not going to lie, I've been a bit lazy about taking my Vitamins. I only drink one Protein Shake a day because my formerly beloved Premier Protein is too sweet and artificial tasting. I'm about to start on mushy foods so I am thinking I will go for Protein heavy choices like my favorite, Breakstone's 2% Cottage cheese (so creamy and tight curd, not slimy and a good flavor with a dash of salt and pepper on top!) and I guess soon I will be allowed to have hummus and refried Beans. I want to ease into these soft foods very slowly so I can maximize my weight loss. I don't FEEL like eating since I'm not hungry! Though I must say I do feel tired and sometimes dizzy when getting up to walk around. Have done some bed exercises and late night hall walking a few times. Need to increase this. I just feel bummed because I though the weight would continue pouring off quickly if I eat little. The scale said 334.8 today so looks like a stall already!!!

So...today I was supposed to be discharged from the hospital. My RNY was on Friday evening around 4:30pm ever since my release to Post-Operative care, I never got proper pain relief. The nurse didn't notice that my IV was 'infiltrated' and thus the medicine wasn't going directly into my bloodstream as it should have. Then they insist on giving me the 'doctors' normal prescription' of Roxycontin, which causes a severe allergic reaction of itching all over my face, scalp, eyebrows, and thighs. I wish I had been discharged today...but my surgeon said he won't send me home after two days after major abdominal surgery (RNY) with ANY narcotic pain medication. REGULAR Tylenol only. (Which never works for me, if I even had a head ache in the past I would use 2-4 Advil!) So my doctor arranges for me to stay one more night in the hospital with narcotic pain relief...only 4 milligrams Dilaudid, which for me, barely takes the edge off the pain. (I was told before by a podiatrist that I 'metabolize pain medication very, very quickly' as he had to give me more and more local injections in my toes when he was slicing out my ingrown toenails years ago...can you say OUCH? haha...the only thing I metabolize quickly, how ironic! This afternoon around 4pm they decide to 'close the wing' I'm in and move me to another room a ways away...a room that is very HOT and SMELLY (many can relate to being VERY sensitive to odors after this surgery!) and the young, inexperienced tech grabs my purse and suitcase and loads it onto a cart, leaving me in the original room while she moves 'my stuff' into the new room...where she promptly abandoned it, complete with a wide open door and curtain...needless to say I started to feel anxious and when I opened up my wallet, $60 cash had been removed and the contents rifled through and moved into the wrong areas of the wallet. So, I'm understatedly upset...haven't slept in two days because they won't give me the Ambien I have been prescribed for sleep due to concerns about me being oversedated...never had pain relief better than a 6/10 on the pain scale...and now to top it all off, because she strangely insisted on moving my purse before moving ME to the new room, I've been robbed. I'm upset about being robbed so I call the security guard at the hospital and file a report...he suggests I call the local police to make a report as well, so I do. Cop says she isn't sure she can do anything but asks if she checks the security video footage and sees someone entering the room unauthorized and thus is the obvious suspect for stealing out of my wallet, will I file charges? And I say yes, because that person (hospital employee ostensibly) is preying on vulnerable people who are hospitalized and in pain. Cop leaves. I wait, as usual, for more than one hour PAST my scheduled 4 milligrams of Dilaudid dose...walk up to the nurses's station after making a nurse's station page twice asking for my pain medication and noting that it's significantly overdue...to overhear the male nurse going ON AND ON about how I'm a 'drama queen' because I 'claimed' that money was stolen from my wallet (which it 100% was!) and that I 'think I deserve to be treated like a queen but I'm not a queen...even the COP was calling me a drama queen' He's poisoning the new night nurses' mind against me before she even meets me! He was ENTHUSIASTICALLY savaging me verbally, which was surprising because the brief interaction we had together in my room was pleasant, we were talking about traveling to Vietnam and learning other languages. Long story short, I go back to my room in severe pain and in tears...thank goodness the Charge Nurse for this evening was very kind and helped get me my overdue meds quickly...and the nurse who had received the diatribe against me was also polite...but needless to say, I think I've been through it. It's now been an hour past the time I took the 4 mgs Dilaudid and still in severe pain whenever I move...anyone else have a WORSE experience? PS Forgot to mention I saved up for years and years and borrowed over $20,000 for this surgery...so I paid a small fortune in cash to be neglected, robbed and verbally assaulted...how's that for 'drama'?

Thank you both for the support! Yes, the doctor did NOT discuss sending me home on regular liquid Tylenol only--BEFORE surgery. I felt it was very strange...he ended up giving me 25 Dilaudid when he sent me home. So why did I have to suffer IN the hospital and get anxious about being sent home after 2 nights in the hospital with only Tylenol (which I have mentioned before really doesnt' work for my body chemistry. Pre-op I would take four Advil if I had a really bad physical pain or headache.)

Thank you for the support, Megan! Unfortunately, the hospital's answer has been to sweep it all under the rug. They have stated that they will not reimburse me for the cash stolen when my wallet was deliberately separated from me and I was waiting for transport for well over 30 minutes. They have not had the gossiping nurse apologize. I have received one standard form letter saying they are 'investigating the matter' or other such rubbish. I will leave them a very honest Yelp review. Not ALL the people were horrible. I had some great nurses and techs in the last day I was there. Too bad the time when I was most vulnerable, and in pain, I was neglected and treated like I was demanding 'too much' just for my medication to be dispensed at the times the NURSES wrote on the board!

Hi, folks! I am feeling the need to get up and work out a little. I've been extremely sedentary for the past year or so due to my weight skyrocketing. I am 5'8 and my highest weight ever recorded (when very bloated, but STILL) was almost 390. I got down to 375 for first doctor visit, and then 360 for surgery about a month later. Now I am 16 days post op. I feel extremely embarrassed to go out and exercise. Today, I actually tried an exercise video for bed-ridden patients on YouTube! Believe it or not, these simple exercises I could FEEL were working my muscles. Ironically, I used to be a 'big yet active girl.' I remember hiking a 5 mile trail less than 10 years ago with my sister and my dog...climbing up a lot of boulders. It was GREAT to be active and I miss the exercise causing me to loosen my joints and muscles, and overall get the lymph flowing. I really need to EASE myself into exercise. I live in a condo so I COULD walk the halls or even the STAIRS yet I feel nervous about running into anyone. It seems like a lame excuse to me, too. I perhaps need some comfortable headphones so I could listen to upbeat music and good excuse not to talk to neighbors! Any and all advice welcomed!

Thank you, Kakatlady! Yes, I will start in the halls. I can go to a floor where I don't know anyone. I need to overcome my mental block against walking in the halls. They are nice and warm and I am safe there. If I run into anyone, at least they will probably congratulate me mentally for working out, as it were. I always admire big people at the gym or out jogging, walking, biking. They are TRYING to work on themselves, which takes a strong mental motivation. :-)

THANK YOU, Katfight! I was really struggling in the hospital. I agree, it's ABSURD to label it 'drug-seeking behavior' when you are taking DOCTOR'S ORDERS small doses at certain times. I am quite sensitive to physical pain after suffering from pretty severe PTSD after a rape and a physical assault/robbery. I don't appreciate people judging me. I have NEVER abused any of my pain meds, ever! I am very CAREFUL with myself to never allow myself to take it in excess. And with me personally, if my dose of opiates is too high, my body gets SICK and I vomit. So...no excessive drugs for me, please. Just the right amount to get the pain down to a manageable level and let me rest and sleep. Thank you again for your support!

My doctor prescribed me 15 milligrams of Phentermine per day to help prevent me from getting hungry and cheating. I thought that was VERY considerate of him. I have only used it for 2-3 days now but it's insurance that I won't possibly damage my pouch by trying to eat soft solid foods before week 3. I am following my diet strictly.

I think I have lost about 30-40 pounds since surgery, too. I'm really excited. Wait I was 360 a day or two before surgery and am now 333. So Almost 30 pounds. I hardly have any appetite and only eat about one protein shake a day, no solids for a few more days (will do cottage cheese as I love Breakstone's brand with the small curds and 2% fat.) I love it with salt and a little fresh ground pepper on top. It's very creamy and not slimy and lumpy like other brands of cottage cheese, BTW. It's the ONLY brand I will eat.

I think it's the fast. I have been DRINKING too much too fast and getting some pain in my chest/pouch area. So I am learning how to take it slow. Most of us who were obese IN THE PAST (we are shrinking now! yay!) were used to gulping our food down pretty quickly without chewing much. It's kind of a stress reaction because may fat people feel judged if they slowly eat and savor every bite of their food. We must learn new habits, and we can!

Hi everyone, Just had surgery on the evening of December 29. My surgeon did a laparoscopic RNY and instead of stitches, he used surgical glue. They have been itching a bit and looking 'dry' but was just touching the one on my bellybutton lightly because it was itching in that area and the glue CRUMBLED and collapsed. I've had a history of MRSA from surgical wounds, two c-sections that turned into a NIGHTMARE. Any advice? I feel really like I shouldn't have touched it at all, and now very dumb!! I will call my surgeon on Monday. In the meantime, not sure what to do. I was concerned about scarring and infection, but my surgeon said just to take a shower once a day and lightly wash without scrubbing or rubbing the incisions. I haven't. This was my first flub. Anyone else experience this? Advice? Thanks!

I was just going to recommend Colace, which is a stool softener. It REALLY helps with softening things up to prevent constipation. And if you are taking any pain pills at all, those basically 'freeze' your digestive system and prevent bowels from moving. Colace is great. My doctor recommended Metamucil, but it was disgusting...couldn't tolerate it!

You had your surgery 5 days ago? I know the surgeons generally encourage moderate pace WALKING but doing something like lifting weights and heavy workouts where you are breaking a real sweat...talk to your surgeon first. I saw a video on Youtube where the surgeon says DO NOT workout for a fairly long period post-op because working out DOES increase our appetites and it could actually lead to cheating! No danger of that for me. This surgery I needed to save my life and nothing matters more to me than reaching goal weight (other than my family). I am so blessed that I have very little to no appetite...only head hunger...noticed I was obsessively reading Paleo/AIP diet recipes and pinning them...so I needed to focus more on positive weight loss stories, fashion, and comedy! Food can wait! Right now I'm drinking one protein shake a day and lots of water.

Talk to your surgeon. I'm pretty sure they said give it 4 weeks after surgery to let your body heal and rest. Walking is ALWAYS okay if you are going at a moderate pace and not huffing and puffing too hard. Ease into your workouts after you get approval from your surgeon. I think situps and such might be a no-no for a certain period post-op because of the internal sutures. I was just going to ask this question myself, so thanks for doing so!

Thank you, Kim. How are you feeling? Looks like you had your RNY recently as well! I am very concerned about infection due to my history...so far the incisions are bruised looking but nothing red, no pus, no severe pain around the incisions area. They sure do itch sometimes, though!

Thank you all!!!!

Sara, a stricture is when there is a problem with the opening of the pouch, IIRC. It means the flesh inside heals incorrectly and people with strictures have to have a reparatory surgery to fix it and open it up more. Otherwise they have trouble getting down and keeping food and even liquids.

If she ever has to have her gall bladder out, she can simply say she is having abdominal surgery...and leave it at that. I don't think nosy co-workers need to know every detail of your private life, including medical conditions or surgeries. She might have a tummy tuck after she gets to goal and maintains it. Some idiots feel qualified to judge you for 'cosmetic' surgeries...she should make up a story about going to see her Great Aunt Edna in Bora Bora. She doesn't have to explain herself!

Losingit, Thank you so much for the support! Yes it was VERY rough the first 48 hours or so post-op. I never had my pain managed...it's so bizarre to me that I HAD an IV in, but they insisted on giving me THREE oral pills of 5 milligrams each of something called Roxycontin, which was clearly giving me an allergic reaction...rather than just a quick IV medication of Dilaudid, which works well for me and which has never given me an allergic reaction...then chastised me for drinking more than a tiny sip with each *separate* pill. It's a very strange pain management protocol, and it failed for me. Good news: I'm OUT of the hospital, almost completely off pain meds, and feeling better each day! May 2018 be the year you "Lose it!" :-) <3

Hi Fluffy, Yes, I've heard of so many different methods of pain control post-op. Some people who are judgey about other people's use of pain medications were likely treated to a Morphine pump or another way of controlling their pain, rather than having to beg harried nurses for oral pills which take at least 30 minutes (for me, anyway) to dissolve and even begin to work, sometimes over 1 hour and 15 minutes PAST their scheduled time! Such a weird thing to judge people about. I have had a very difficult life and have been through a number of severe traumas and I have PTSD. I think that might also increase the physical pain I go through, as well as the fact that the fear and anxiety surrounding the physical pain is almost as bad as the pain itself! I personally do not judge people for needing more or less medications. There is no Gold Medal for the Suffering Olympics.

Hi Creekimp, I've had two other surgeries--C-sections--and things went REALLY bad with those. I ended up with MRSA in my c-section incision wounds and was hospitalized for literally THIRTY DAYS post-op due to severe infections and agonizing pain--they had to keep my wound open and clean and stuff it every single day with big packs of gauze. I have never had a problem with Opiates and have always been very cautious about never taking more than prescribed, nor allowing myself to become addicted. I have known people in the past with severe addictions to opiates and seen how they suffered. Some even ended up switching to street drugs because they got cut off from prescription opiates and sadly, one of them has ended up dead. :-( I don't think the nurses are concerned, they were just overworked and spread too thin. At one point we had one nurse trying to help SIX patients all alone without even a tech to assist her, while she was trying to discharge patients and take them down to the car and outside in her winter coat in subArctic temperatures! and not one of them ever said that I was taking too much pain medication. In fact, IF they had adjusted the medication from the one that was giving me a horrible allergic reaction AND given it to me at the proper, PRESCRIBED intervals, I don't think my pain would have spiraled out of control to begin with. I was just researching this topic. Nurses in Pain Management say it's easier to blow out a match than it is to try to put out a forest fire. In any case, I am hopeful and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I will switch to Tylenol as my surgeon suggests and pray and hope it works to keep the pain managed. Every person's body is different and everyone metabolizes pain medications differently. What works for you might not work for me. I have never in my life heard of someone going through a major surgery and not going home with at least a minor narcotic pain medication...I'm not saying a huge 30 or 60 day supply, but perhaps enough to taper off over the course of a week.

Thank you, Mom! I never thought to ask for ice for my belly. I have the six incisions which have been covered by surgical glue...They look pretty gnarly but good news is that they don't seem to have any infection, Praise God!!!

Thank you so much for the encouragement, Biddynz! I've been chastised for drinking TOO much water...I've been so thirsty after the anesthesia and of course pain meds tend to cause the dreaded cotton mouth as well...but I think things are finally looking up! Took a long walk today in the hall down to the end and then looped back around again to my room. I appreciate your support!