YummyMummy303

Bahahahahaha! When did I ever say I wanted any of your belligerent help or suggest you were helping??? Have you still not understood that yet? Nope, carry on, can’t understand why anyone would leave the forum??? [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23][emoji23]🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ Thread/ Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Truth! I am done. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Stop trying to some higher ground - you were morbidly obese and put yourself through this dangerous procedure to save your life - now you treat everyone on here with questions or make mistakes with contempt? What a hypocrite!!! Get real. You’re no better than anyone on here and if you were perfect you would never have needed the surgery. Get lost fool. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

And yet AGAIN, you are ignoring what I have repeatedly said and obfuscating - it is frustrating. I have said so many times it’s not what is said it’s how you say it. My God, my four year old is able to communicate better. This is pathetic. Goodbye. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Every single post I’ve seen you have been and upset people. But keep telling yourself whatever to feel better about you. Maybe you’ll be more aware of it now and you know what’s up. Someone had to tell you. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

It’s not just the pizza - like I’ve repeatedly said! It has been every single post big or small you come on aggressive, rude and condescending. You insinuated she was lying for only eating 500cals, other threads you’ve responded on - you are rude every single time when it’s completely unnecessary and rude. Maybe some like your ‘tough love’ I don’t see any love in it, and I know many don’t either. Good luck with that but truly, this forum is not worth dealing with someone like you. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

She said that - or didn’t you bother to actually read what she wrote either??? She not the only one either. Wake up! Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

And also, when someone shares that their close friend was just diagnosed with non-Hodgkin lymphoma but rather than show any consideration want to start fighting with me - that’s just evil. You’re disgusting people and always will be. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Old enough to realise I’m being baited into a petty and immature argument than anything supportive like I was here for. Anyone trying to defend all of your behaviour need to read your posts and better yet, all of the past ones by dreamingsmall. Keep dreaming, I’m on another forum that doesn’t get rude like the people on here. Surgery won’t fix your shitty and ugly personalities, maybe you could get some of the nastiness sucked out of your hearts next time too? Goodbye. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Amazing how dreamingsmall has got into arguments on so many posts but still thinks it’s always the OP or someone else to blame. And no, for those a bit slow, that’s not a gendered issue, most have just happened to leave because of her, some even this week. I don’t know why she even posts when she just wants to start fights? She’s no help. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

I think you’re a real b***h for real. Go argue with some more people on other posts. It’s so funny watching people get upset by you in every single post. It’s clear this forum is all you have in your life. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

My issue was never being called out on it, as I have repeatedly stressed, my issue is how it is said by people and I’m not the only one with an issue with it. Other women have been bullied off the forum and accused of lying. The majority of responses did call it out but they weren’t aggressive and rude which isn’t necessary, and I appreciated those ones. It not as though I didn’t see my error. Other topics on here women are saying they are struggling with others eating around them or want to lick meatloaf. So I broke and actually did it - Maybe my post would help them not to make the same mistake or maybe people will just stop being honest on here or ask questions because of the response I got and other women have got that have just left the forum. It has made me just want to leave the forum because of that behaviour towards myself and others. It’s just not ok. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Thanks for stepping in and inflaming the situation after we had all made progress. You’re wrong - being supportive is synonymous with being kind and most emotionally mature people understand that. Are you perfect Aberry? What was your starting weight and how did you let yourself get so fat so young? Were you bullied over your weight? Maybe they were being supportive of you too? Did it stop you from getting fatter and more dangerously obese? Stop judging. I have my surgeon for those issues, this forum is meant to be about non-judgemental support and those in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones! You just come across as hypocritical and rude! Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Thank you - that was truly beautiful! It definitely was emotional as I just found out a very close friend of mine has non-Hodgkin lymphoma, and I am really shattered and broken over it. Our children are the same ages. I definitely need counselling right now. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Look, I do agree with that, but it’s the way it’s said. It was only you and dreamingsmall that came across as aggressive, and she has completely misquotes previous questions I have had. I appreciate this post you just wrote and if you said it like that, and the way others have, I would’ve agreed and not had an issue. I am not here to be berated, I realised I messed up and wanted to see if anyone did anything like it and experienced struggles like it. Clearly, even if people haven’t done what I did, they have had to face the mental aspect of self-control still. Responses like that from Dreamingsmall has just made people leave the forum. She has practically called women liars in other posts and it is just upsetting when we are on here to support each other and not judge. There may be other people that have done what I did or are struggling not to that will be too scared to post anything after reading the way I was responded to. Obviously you’re not my surgeon and I will speak to him, but this is about supporting each other’s journey and sharing experiences. My post may really help someone who may be thinking about it and read how sick it made me - who knows? But berating someone is completely unhelpful and pointless. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

You are completely taking things I said out of context - and berating me over over my questions. YOU are unhelpful and rude in your posts to everyone!! Don’t bother writing any response to my questions again - you are no help and just distressing. People have left this forum because of you. There’s nothing you say that helps! You just berate people and are extremely rude! Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Thank you all that replied and didn’t berate me over it. I obviously realise I stuffed up massively and won’t do it again. And I don’t even know what made me do it. I wasn’t hungry and have been sticking to my plan. I have had no complications and everything has gone well. I don’t know how I found myself doing it. Thanks again to the ones that were understanding, your words were really helpful. To the ones that berated me, it was totally unhelpful and makes me not want to post again just like other posters that have left because of responses from dreamingsmall - wish I could just learn how to block you because you just come across as argumentative in every response to people’s questions. I’d be happy if you never answer my questions again or on my topics. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Thank you so both so much, I agree too. I honestly have no idea what came over me when I’ve been doing so well with no problem, and really finding liquid so easy to stick to, and then I could do something so stupid out of the blue like that. I really scared myself and realised just how many issues I have with food to do that. I am really embarrassed about it. Thank you both so much. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Thank you. I totally feel like I messed up today. Day 7 and I totally risked my help by jumping off diet. I have learnt my lesson and really scared myself. It really isn’t a good feeling at all, and I’m still recovering. I’ve just done something really bad. I was fine and just woke up to check on the kids, and it’s the middle of the night here, and I took a few bites of pizza and now it feels stuck. I want to vomit but I’m scared it will do damage. I am so angry at myself. I am so scared I’ve done damage by doing it so soon, and the last thing we’re probably allowed to have, and even the calorie side. I am petrified it will cause a leak. Never again. I am so stupid. I was sound asleep and have no idea why I did that. Middle of the night snacking was what I would do prior to this surgery, even when I wasn’t hungry and can’t believe it’s still in my head. This hurts way too much to ever do again. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Thanks I was feeling left out. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Yes, I guess it would be considered gassy, but it’s also low carb. It was creamy and delicious, but yeh, too heavy. I had more than I realised I could stomach - I got full way faster than I realised. I’m back on broth and too scared now... overeating really isn’t a nice feeling. It was a cauliflower cheese soup and so yummy. Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

I’m 6 days out, but yesterday I ate more than I could since surgery. I had a much of mug of broth, some jelly during the day, about 5 spoonfuls, and also tea and a bit of broth during the day. The soup I ate for dinner was the first time I finished a mug in one sitting. I’m not sure if you have mugs so I’ll attach a pic. It seems like a lot but there was no discomfort. Would any of you eat that much at this stage? I was so hungry yesterday and felt so weak, the food made me feel better. Sleeved: 2/11/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Is this even true for the lite jelly? I really loved the break from broth and actually chewing Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Thank you all SO MUCH! This website is so helpful - it means so much to be able to get the support through all of these questions that pop up. By the way, I made a mistake in my signature, my surgery was 2 December. Everyday I’m feeling a bit better Sleeved: 2/12/2017 SW: 209lbs/95kgs