I struggled with this for about three days after going to my doctors office and telling them I was having surgery came a storm. Your not 400lbs so you don't need it. You're not fat enough. Those things hurt me at first (I have a great support system at home! Thankfully they mostly supported me). But if you do tell people and they get hurt, as my husband says it affects them because they feel it's already a problem for them, you can't control their feelings sweetie and don't ever be ashamed what your doing. I also talked to quite a few people on the fb group that I am a part of and they also helped me through it. I had my surgery 11/17 by an awesome doctor. I will tell people I had gastric sleeve and be proud of it. As I start ticking off all the health problems off it will even be better! Prediabetic, major bone issues with my weight, asthma 10x worse.....I mean I could go on and on lol. My decision to have this wasn't an affront against them, it was to save my life early before things could go worse. Sent from my LG-M150 using BariatricPal mobile app