Creekimp13

Sometimes I think when people deny themselves constantly...they set themselves up for bad choices. I think you've been making some bad choices with the refined simple carbs. But I don't think the answer is to swing the pendulum all the way in the other direction and starve and create an unsustainable diet again. Something drove you to crappy choices. You need to find out what. If it's an emotional issue...therapy is a good thing. If it's a diet that's too restrictive and unlivable...don't go back there....do something new. Maybe try a moderate diet with some healthy unrefined carbs (beans/whole grains/fruit) and see if they will help control your carb cravings so you don't go overboard in an unhealthy direction with refined carbs. If I eat a carb restricted diet...I crave sugar like a lunatic. Makes me crazy. But if I eat healthy low glycemic index carbs.....I don't miss it much. I feel much better physically and want to exercise more. Different people approach this stuff different ways. Keto is the big trend and people swear by it because its' great for weight loss. But some people feel ghastly on it and it's unsustainable for them. Lot of ways up the mountain. If one path keeps getting blocked, maybe look at some of the other routes? Best wishes, and heartfelt hopes for better days ahead:)

I think you need a new doctor. I think the advice you're being given is dangerous and sets you up to overeat and stretch your sleeve. It also sets you up for low blood sugar, hunger, fatigue, and fainting...that can be downright dangerous if you have to drive and difficult to have a productive day. It's not teaching you to eat the right foods. It's not teaching you to consume sensible portions. It's not teaching you much of anything other than starvation. Re-educating yourself how to deal with food is essential to long term success. I just don't see how this is a sustainable "forever diet". And if it's not....how and what will you transition to when you haven't been given any skills? My clinic sets a goal of 1200 calories and 60+ grams of protein per day during weight loss phase. We can either eat three 400 calorie meals, or six 200 calorie meals...or any combination we'd like as long as net calories are 1200 per day. I personally prefer to do three tiny meals during the day, a bigger meal for dinner, and another tiny meal around 8pm (usually it's got a desert vibe, like fruit or cupcake yogurt, or a chocolate protein bar.) This is how my day usually works: 200 breakfast (oatmeal and coffee with protein shake for creamer/an egg and half a slice of whole grain toast/fruit and yogurt/etc) 200 lunch ( 3 ounces of pork chop or chicken breast with green beans/sweet potatoe with pecans and salad/BLT wrap/chef salad with hard boiled egg/homemade veggie soup and slice of homemade bread) 200 midday snack (protein muffin/half a cup of potato salad/veggie and hummus/etc) 400 dinner (Crab boil/steak salad with eggs and swiss/protien pasta with salad and homemade wholegrain bread/chicken stir fry/stuffed pepper/ vegetarian chili and cheese on a baked potato/etc) 200 after dinner snack (strawberries with chocolate sauce/watermellon/frozen grapes/cupcake yogurt/oatmeat with pecans and cherries/chocolate protein bar) I like a little sweet after dinner, and usually do this after I finish my 12,000 steps for the day...sort of my reward. I eat a lot of really satisfying delicious food. I'm getting an education about portions and making healthier choices. I'm eating a ton of fruits and veggies, lean proteins and complex carbs. I LOVE my diet. I feel better on it. Tons of energy. Exercise is a big part of my day, too...and I have the energy to enjoy doing it. Weight loss has been slow and steady:) Getting close to goal:)

Ok, for a while it was oatmeal with dried cherries and pecans. Had to eat it all the time. Loved it. (still do, but getting bored) Lately I want refried beans with cheese melted on top and a bunch of salsa. Not really craving the tortilla, so don't bother with it. But the beans! Love them lately. Wonder what that's about? Sometimes I also want avacado, lettuce, tomato, onion, cilantro and lime. But for an on the go lunch? Beans with cheese and salsa...has been really good lately. Never would have eaten this before. Cravings have changed so much in the last six months. Weird!

Everything is normal. Relax. You're doing great. (I was starving right after surgery..some people are. Some people get lucky and get a break from hunger, but some don't) Weight will start to move in the next few days:)

A Christian, an Atheist, a Jew and a Muslim walk into a bar..... And they hang out, eat peanuts, share pics of their kids and spouses, complain about work, laugh, and talk about life......because none of them are arseholes.

What ever is on sale and vegetarian. LOL:) The ones I ate today were Ortega 120 calories for 1/2 cup... 8 grams of protein, 0 grams of fat, 5 grams of fiber! Good eats. Had some reduced fat colby jack and hot homemade salsa. I like to save my fats budget in all things "taco" for healthier avocado fat:)

Sleeve is way easier.

What did you eat that got stuck? Have you been in to see the doc yet?

^This.

Oh hells no, I don't believe in it....but I enjoy the concept of hell. Lakes of fire and misery are a wonderful simile for unpleasant situations. I enjoy me some good colorful hyperbolic language. I like saying Jaysus! in an Irish accent, too. Meh...vernacular is fun:)

Let me illustrate for you, kimbers. Say you're a religious person, and your mom dies, and you're heartbroken. As an Atheist, should I come up to you and say "You know that God is a load of crap and heaven is an adult security blanket fantasy......but I really think your mom lived a rich impacting life in the time we had her here and you should take comfort in being her legacy and in beautiful memories of her." Incidentally....this is what I whole heartedly believe....but it would be insanely insensitive to say something like this to a grieving religious person. I would be an asshat for being that disrespectful of the beliefs that give them comfort. Just like it's insanely insensitive for religious asshats to say religious yaya when Atheists suffer losses. You are disrespecting OUR source of comfort...with something we consider fantasy. So, perhaps you can appreciate how that cuts both ways and how religious folks should grow up and open their minds, too. There is a time and a place to express your different beliefs. When someone is suffering...is not that time.

Meh...I suppose. I don't get upset about people praying for me. It's fine. And like I say...I know most people mean to be helpful. I'm just trying to explain why it's pointless to tell an Atheist you're praying for them....and why it isn't received as it's intended. If you're a big prayer person....maybe the best idea is to pray for your Atheist friends silently and not tell them about it? That way you get your prayer fix and don't annoy them when they're already up against some kinda issue. I think that's the crux of it....adding insult to injury. Like...hey, you recognize I'm having a hard time right now...and you're choosing to push your agenda on me anyway? It just kinda sucks and isn't appreciated. Sometimes saying nothing is being a better friend.

Thanks Orchids:)

When people pray for me...it's like they're bringing me a cup of the worst flavor of coffee imaginable. Something I find really offputting and undrinkable. And they're so proud when they hand it to me and say...I care about you...so here's my favorite coffee! And I smile and say thank you....but what I'm thinking is....Damn, it would have been nice if you got me a drink I like. Something that would help me or comfort me..or at least something I could gag down for hydration. And maybe I should be grateful....maybe it's the thought that counts. But to me....all they've given me is a chore. Dumping it and wasting a cup. It doesn't feel like love and concern when someone gifts you with something you don't want and can't use. I'm not saying it's the worst thing in the world when people pray for me. I just think it's tone deaf and a waste...and more about reassuring themselves than supporting me. Most folks are well intention, but I wish they understood that my beliefs are as precious to me as theirs are to them. Praying for me is kinda like sending a Jesus "He Died For You" Easter card to Jewish friend. There's part of me that think you're sweet and appreciates that you thought of me.....and another part that considers you very very blind and self absorbed. Praying for an atheist is like bringing a man a tampon. "I heard you were bleeding and wanted to help". You kinda look at it and go....Oh. Thanks? (and wonder what the hell to do with it) LOL. It's not that we think you're horrible for trying to help, and in many ways it's sort of endearing......we're just shocked that you can't see how weird this is for us.

Very risky and unwise time for pregnancy. Biggest concerns are vitamin deficiency in the mothers and also neural tube defects in the babies like spina bifida and anencephaly...which are very concerning conditions of the baby's brain and spine. Premature births are also a huge problem. Danger for both mom and baby. It is incredibly important that you see specialists early if you intend to attempt to keep this pregnancy. I don't mean to write stressful frightening things here....but this is a frightening situation and people need to be mindful of their doctor's expressed orders not to become pregnant for two years. Please understand that I wish you the very best, and hope for the best possible outcome.

Much appreciated:)

Am getting this message in a brown box at the top of my screen: Emails that we send to you are being returned to us. If our emails continue to bounce, we will stop sending emails to you and require you to update your email address. I have tried updating email address twice....to two alternate accounts...the box does not go away. I have checked my blocked senders lists, and bariatricpal is not on it. I seem to be getting post notifications and notification from the store just fine. How do we fix this?

i'd stagger your surgeries. Complications are real. They happen. I understand wanting to go through it together...and you still will....but I'd space your surgeries apart. One partner is the patient, one is the caretaker....then you switch roles. You're still doing it together. I would suggest you get help for your household, even doing it staggered. Twins are a lot of work. Cutting down from two caretakers to just one....is a huge difference.

What you're going through needs to be addressed immediately by the doctor. I am very concerned about your hydration. The symptoms you're describing are not a typical experience in any way. To me, they suggest you could possibly have a stricture or another issue that needs correction. Many people never vomit after surgery...not even once. What you're describing sounds so horrible. I'm so sorry you're having these complications and hope you get some relief and get the situation addressed and corrected as soon as possible. I'd like to shake your doctor and his staff.

Another vote for doing it staggered. I'd do it six months apart, personally (at least 3). If you have live in help, you might be able to do it a the same time, but I think you'd be a lot better off taking turns.

Stalls suck. They're frustrating, demoralizing and just plain depressing. But they're also completely normal and they will pass. Stick to your program. Be consistent. It'll be ok:) I was stalled for three weeks once. Didn't change anything, and the next week I lost 6 pounds. Bodies are weird. Stalls and plateaus happen. Stay the course!

MANY people have a bit of a stall when transitioning from pureed food to solid food when they're about three weeks out. Google "Bariatric Surgery Three Week Stall". It's super common, and super disheartening. But don't be overly concerned! It's normal and if it happens, you're not necessarily doing anything wrong. Our bodies have amazing defense mechanisms developed over thousands of years to prevent starvation. When our calories suddenly dip very low we hormonally and metabolically adjust to maintain our weight as much as we can....so...ya know...we don't starve to death. And yes, this defense mechanism SUCKS for weight loss. But the good news...is that if we stay the course....and stick to our plans consistently...eventually, we do overcome it and the scale starts moving again. I promise. Dthomas....if you're not exceding your calorie goal, if you're journaling what you eat and choosing good food...your mind IS right. Your body is just throwing you a curve ball as a defense against starvation. It's temporary! Stick to your eating plan. Have patience. And have realistic expectations. Most folks are not going to have the 50 pound losses you see on My 600 Pound Life in a few weeks. Also...losing a job and the financial crunch it brings... can be really discouraging and depressing. Exercise really will help you, even if it's just walking a few miles a day. Hang in there. It gets better.

1 1/2 cups plain or vanilla, fat-free yogurt (greek gets you more protein) 1 1/2 cups fresh or frozen berries (blueberries, raspberries and sliced strawberries) 1 large banana, sliced Dixie paper cups Aluminum foil and wooden popcicle sticks (if you don't have these, i've used plastic spoons for the handle) Blend your yogurt, banana and berries in your blender, food processor or nutri-bullet Taste it and add Splenda or your sweetener of choice if you think it needs it pour into cups, cover with foil, poke a stick in there and freeze. They won't last long on a hot day:)

You're gonna do great. You're in excellent hands:) Best wishes for a speedy recovery and a wonderful new life:)

Strawberry, at some point it's not a bad idea to ask for a little help. What you're going through is no small thing. If you start feeling too desperate, please go in and talk to the therapist, or at least have a consult with your surgeon's office. You're not alone and a lot of resources are in place to get you over the hump. Again...It gets better. It really does. Hang on by your fingernails...but keep hanging on. You're almost to the fun part where the sun comes out again.