TakingABreak

I can't wait until I get out of the obese category. 25 more pounds... seems kind of daunting.

Welcome to the group! Glad you finally joined the fun

You look amazing. And you are right, we should all reflect on our accomplishments more! Congratulations!

Agreed, they do look like a lot of prep and cook time. But maybe worth it.

I could go forever without remembering that poo... maybe the memories will fade?

I about peed a little. LOL

You are the best. What doesn't kill you.... right?

It hurts my feelings, of course. But I will never let them win. I would never eat something to make someone else happy, not any more.

I personally don't think that having weight loss surgery is relevant. They know at this point, that I am on the path to being healthier, including but not limited to, losing weight. I don't think there is a world in which I would bully someone who is trying to walk the straight and narrow into having a piece of cake. I don't need them to be a part of my support system, if I did, then I would have included them in my choice to have the surgery. But, I do feel disheartened when they don't respect my decisions. Me saying, "no thank you" to a piece of cake, should be end of conversation. Someone shouldn't know that I'm on a medically supervised diet, to end it at "no thanks".

I have thought about it doing what you are suggesting, but its a giant mean girl's clique at my office. NONE of them have any room to judge, laugh, ect.... so I just feel bad for them at this point. My dad has good intentions, but he just doesn't know what he's talking about. It just goes to show, people say things... misguided or not, with little to no remorse or not. And yes, this is correct about conception. This is a HUGE reason we weren't able to conceive in the first part of our marriage. It may not be the only reason, but I'm hoping that I don't have difficulties when the time comes.

I'm not sure if this applies... but I was talking to my dad this past weekend about us getting close to trying for our first baby. He literally is so concerned about my "health" and how this surgery could have caused complications that will take my life in the process of carrying/delivering a child. I tried to explain to him.... I'm healthier now than I ever was prior. I will have a healthier pregnancy now than at 330lbs. Also, people at work (who don't know I've had WLS) think I'm obsessive. They always make comments, sometimes joking, sometimes not joking, about my dieting choices. And the worst of it is, they see me eating something and poke fun. Today I was chomping on some sugar snap peas, and they found it hilarious. Meanwhile, I don't laugh at them when I see them chowing down on some M&Ms. They also peer pressure me into making bad choices. We had cake for a baby celebration in the office, and I was bullied into a piece. I begrudgingly took it into my office and threw it away. Ultimately, I think I make them self conscious about their food choices.

I love hearing these positive stories! Congrats, it gets even better from here! Keep up the great work

are you getting enough calcium? According to this article, this could be another contributing factor. https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/5-steps-for-preventing-kidney-stones-201310046721 I take 1500mg daily of Calcium Citrate soft chews. I spread this out a minimum of 2 hours a part, usually with food, and always 3 hours prior to taking my multivitamin with iron.

I'm seeing this really late, and I'm sure you've probably already taken the "plunge", so to speak. But I felt nervous during each stage progression. I had fears of things not sitting right, dumping, getting stuck, ect. But I tried to listen to my body as best as I could during eating time. I never ate distracted in the beginning. Remember, if you feel any discomfort or nausea, its ok to take a break and try again later. Also, there will be foods that don't agree with you at your current stage. This doesn't mean you wont be able to have those things again. Things do get better. Best of luck to you! And I hope you enjoy the stages as well. I know that soft foods was a blessing when it came

Not sure if this is important or not, but this is a duplicate post. As much as I don't want to think of internet trolls.. its typical behavior. Obviously if this was accidental and I'm wrong, to the individual who wrote this post, please see my response on your other post.

WOW, 18 lbs is a huge feat! Congrats. I had the same exact problem. I stalled out almost right after surgery. I lost a substantial amount during pre op and then lost for one week post op, before a 2 week long stall. Just focus on hitting all your goals. The sale will move. I promise you. And even if you don't lose one more pound this month, you've had tremendous success.

If the next 20-30lbs could strictly come from my love handles, stomach, and back... I'd be very happy.

You have the capabilities and the knowledge to do better and do right by yourself. Its a hard thing to overcome an addiction or disorder. I see people in your shoes who haven't had surgery, who don't know that they can do this. But you do know you can. You have the tools and the resources. No matter what steps we make to become physically healthy, it doesn't matter if we aren't mentally healthy. I urge... urge you to seek professional help. At this point, if you are 80% suicidal, who cares if they admit you? Especially if this is what you need to get better? I truly hope you get the help you need. Please reach out to anyone, a friend, a support line, family... literally anyone if those thoughts become too overwhelming. You are worth the effort. You deserve a chance to be happy again.

So, my girlfriends and I went out two weekends ago. It was spur of the moment and I didn't get all dolled up or put a lot of effort into looking good for the occasion. Needless to say, a little bit of liquid courage had me acting like the movie "I feel pretty". Literally, I talked to anyone who made eye contact with me or came within talking distance. I complimented people randomly and laughed with strangers. This is not something I would have done pre-weight loss. The next day, I couldn't help but chuckle to myself. My friends made comments that they've never seen me like that. That my energy was infectious. That the men were attracted to this confidence (even though I'm very happily married). This is why I said earlier, that I have changed. Alcohol may have played a contributing factor into it, but I know that I wouldn't have acted this way prior to surgery.

Well, thank you... making a girl blush over here. But seriously, keep us posted on how it goes!

Unfortunately and fortunately I can relate to 99% of what you wrote. I have seen vast changes in relationships. We can make generalizations about the "why" all day long. Is it them? Is it us? Are we different now, which causes people to treat us differently? I was initially offended by people in the beginning, but now, I have reflected enough to know that it is me. I am different. And I like me.

I'll take hair loss on my head, over a gain of body hair... any day. Thank you Matt for putting things into perspective.

So glad you shared your story! Good luck tomorrow, I will be thinking about you and your surgeons!

bahahahah. no problem, anytime!

Thank you! But that is only my first set goal. My surgeon thought it was appropriate to say that I could aim for my high school weight. But, I was very athletic in high school and I think 180lb on me now, will be too heavy. I think ultimately 150-160 will be a lot better.