Crushed in Texas

Walter, he did not. The only medical issue he had/has is that he requires a knee replacement. He still requires a knee replacement. He now has multiple medical issues, in addition to worsening psychological issues associated with the surgery. At no point prior to the surgery was he referred to a nutritionalist. My point in posting on this thread, is to bring to light the fact that other people truly are "involved" and "affected". Perhaps the screening is different with different doctors, and obviously post-surgical maintenance falls to the individual. I've read literally thousands of threads, and I've attempted to post on dozens, yet this is the first time that my comments have actually posted. It's as if the administrators of the forums do not/will not allow any comments that do not fall in line with full support of this permanent surgery. It can literally destroy the patient and/or their family/loved ones. "You knew what you were getting into" and "It gets better" does not apply to us...the ones who suffer around patients like my husband. I've not yet found a forum for spouses/family of gastric sleeve patients.

I'm so glad that you posted this. Bariatric sleeve surgery ruined our entire family. As a result of my husband having the surgery done (he's 5'11" and weighed 250), we had to watch him vomit, binge/purge, and now, he's lost so much weight that he resembles someone with a terminal illness. His hair is significantly thinner and he looks like he's aged 10 years. He's less than a year out from the surgery. He's 50, and a retired special ops soldier. He NEVER attempted to lose the weight. Our daughter (8 years old) now has severe body image issues. We cannot sit down to a meal of any type without him eating less than half of what our daughter eats. Our lives were not centered around food before, but EVERYTHING is now focused on "what will he eat...WILL he eat?" I no longer desire him intimately. His mood swings are off the charts. He tells me that he has not lost enough weight, and cites Army regulations for a man half his age. I have no idea how he passed the psych part of pre-op, other than lying. He has a long history of mental issues, and service related brain damage. I. Cannot. Live. With. This. Man. He is ruining our daughter's childhood, and our marriage. Absolutely selfish. If so many want to buy into the "this is the most wonderful thing", and get angry when the few speak the truth, we can't help that. My husband has already had cardiac issues, vitamin deficiency issues, kidney stones...I cannot begin to imagine what his life will be like in 2, 3, 4 years. I won't know first hand, because I won't be here. My daughter and I deserve a stable environment. I don't think he'll live beyond that.