LaurenKauf

Must *twitch* have chat *twitch twitch* going *twitch* thru withdrawls:wink_smile:

Seriously...??? It's a message board, it's a little difficult for people to read "Tones". Why don't you take it easy. For someone who is open to SHAGGING other people while in a commited relationship you really should learn to lighten up a bit. As myself also being one of "These" people, I didn't take offense to the way it was written, because I understand that 1. she's new to the scene, and 2. IT'S A MESSAGE BOARD AND YOU CAN'T READ TONES OR BODY LANGUAGE. Relax dude, seriously.

Okay so I've read all three pages of this... Here are my thoughts: 1. Yes I've had threesomes a few and they were all pre op (Haven't made the leap post op yet! 2. the first time I was uber nervous, i should have educated myself a little bit more before i did it. 3. Definatley make sure you and your partner are WELL aware of the rules of the game. (Don't look for any, make your own :crying: ) 4. Post an ad on craigslist in the adult section maybe casual connections or mf4f or mf4m or mf4mf etc etc. There are other sites too like adultfriendfinder 5. Meet with your potential candidate at least once before or even for a drink (not so many that your judgement will be completely impaired! like I said before, to get to know each other and make sure there is a sexual chemistry. Online pics can be deceiving, And a threesome with a third can be uncomfortable, unsatifing and down right BORING if there's NO chemistry! 6. If you find that person that you are super into, go over "The rules" and make sure all parties are comfortable 7. Remember, Play SAFE, Relax, Enjoy, AND HAVE FUN! One thing that i DO want to add: Make sure you both understand the possibilities with a threesome, swap or swing session. All too often Couples INSIST that jeleousy WONT BE A PROBLEM, at first it is, for many people. Just remember, you are the loves of each others life and you both willingly gave consent to "play". As long as you both stick to the rules that you set yourselves then you should be alright. Think of all the options! Feel free to send me a message if you have any other questions! Sex talk is my fortay!

Theres a swingers club here in Rhode Island and believe it or not a majority of the members are 45+, and they have so much fun!

Amen sister!:crying:

craigslist...my suggestion is to meet a potential third or couple in a bar or a restaurant first. It's a good way to feel out if there is chemistry first. It's uncomfortable enough at first. At least you can get to know each other and go over a few of the basics BEFORE you "Get to KNOW each other" ya dig? :crying:

Hi There , not in ct. But I'm a neighbor to the east in lil rhode island!! Good luck in your journey!!

LOL You remembered!

your gspot its roughly 1.5 to 2 inches inside your vagina on the front wall. You can feel it, its about the size of a wallnut and is firm yet squisht. Check out www.nitetimetoys.com theres a product on there called the G-Vibe, I've heard great results from it and its SO cheap. Also, use coupon code LBT and get free shipping on ANY Order no matter what size. Hope you find somethign worth checking out!

"I am so glad that I got the band and want to do everything to keep it, I like eating what I want only a very small portion of it..... food also tastes better for some reason....maybe the chewing. Good luck!!!!" People look at me funny when I have dessert or an appetizer. They mostly don't realize, I dont have much of a physical restriction on what I can eat. (Except bread Pasta and rice) I have to remind them, "I am just more like you now...I can have a slice of pie, not the whole thing.":w00t: I found that too, that food tastes better. I think I've grown a new appreciate for food. My husband said I've also become a better cook. Which is a bonus. I do a lot of food network watching now, and have started developing new recipes to make them more band friendly.

weight loss varies person to person. It depends on a few factors: Starting weight. The heavier you are, the faster it comes off - initially, then for some it starts to slow down a bit. (It did for me) Commitment: I;m sure as you may have been told...the band or any weight loss surgery is not an over night fix. It a whole new lifestyle. You have to be willing to make the changes and work WITH your new tool and not expect it to do everything for you. I started my journey at 342 pounds and I've lost 95 pounds since october 19th, 2007. (My Bandeversay) I've just come of of a 2 + month plateau. I started working out again and keeping a food journal and its been helping to get back on track. (I lost most of that weight before my 2nd fill) I hate to say it, power eating is no longer an option with the band. You run werious risks if you try to do it. ( I know you know that though) One thing you are going to have to differentiate is physical hunger and head hunger. I know I had to do a 2 week preop liquid diet and thats when I learned what was really Hungry and what was boredom/emotional/etc. hungry. The best suggestion I can give is Keep your eye on the prize. Go buy some jeans that are a few sizes down from where you are. Try them on from time to time. It helped me. Best of luck!:wub: Lauren

I did it!!!!! I chopped my hair OFF!!! and......... I love it!!!! Its SO much easier!!! when I work out I toss on a hat or a bandana, for work i can either put a little product in it, or straighten it (If I feel ambitious!) Here take a look! Before Back: http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii172/LaLaKauff/HPIM0678.jpg Before Front: http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii172/LaLaKauff/HPIM0677.jpg After Back: http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii172/LaLaKauff/HPIM0684.jpg After Front/Side: http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii172/LaLaKauff/HPIM0682.jpg I actually lightened the base color and put lots of hightlights in it but I haven't uploaded those pics yet!! Good luck!

tampons for me, for me pads are too "ick". I don't like the feeling, and I don't care how thin, long, winged (aerodynamic??) they might be that alll feel like a matress resting between my legs!

I'm 26 and already due to the rapid weightloss I can already see the tatas turing into flapjacks! Once I pop out a couple of kiddos new boobies are on the top of the To Do list!

Things if anything have become BETTER in the sack for me and my DH! Like posted above, there were certain positions and styles that we had to go without for a little due to discomfort, but I am 9 months post op and we are right back to where we were before! I can relate to the "Roughage" and it took us a little while (Maybe 2 months - heeling time) to get back to it! The way I see it, If I have to okay to go to the gym and have a hard workout including but not limited to Crunches, weight training and yoga (for increased flexibility WOOOHOOO!) from the doc, then a good night or morning, or afternoon romp would be similar! If you do talk to your doc let me know what s/he says, I'm curious too!

Thats TOO Funny! Considering BlueBlueCrossShield of Georgia paid for mine!!! :thumbs_up: