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Okie dokie, captain. I do hope you’re dealing with the people calling each other b*****s, saying they’re worse people than them because they had more weight to lose, telling a pregnant woman that she should have an abortion, etc. It’s very disheartening to see this much bullying in what I was told is a support group. The cliques who jump on the bullying bandwagon just because others do is quite shocking. Reporting doesn’t seem to do much, as those people are still here posting, still calling names, still being toxic, calling names and still purposely trying to hurt others who are already in an emotionally fragile state. Very sad. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

Thank you so much. It has been a crazy journey, for sure. I have followed the surgeons orders to a T and have worked my butt off in the gym 6 days a week. I alternate days between cardio and weight lifting. Weight lifting has been very good for keeping the loose skin at bay. It really has changed my shape a lot which wouldn’t have happened with weight loss alone. So, if you hear people talking about “well Dr. V says no exercise for 6 months”, please do your own research. There is no science to back up those claims. I think people go along with it because they want to believe it. I mean, who wouldn’t want to be told not to exercise, ya know? I have been in the gym since day 14 post op and I feel amazing. And honestly I think I look amazing too. Lol Good luck! As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

Wow that’s great progress. Good for you! As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

Well, first I will say I’m sorry to hear about your medical problems. I hope you’re free of any cancer. I said something about your typos because the sentences legitimately made no sense and I had no idea what you were trying to say. I said “it looks like you may have typed too fast”. That is not an insult. That is pointing out that perhaps you typed too quickly, made some mistakes and your words were unidentifiable. Yes, you were making fun of someone. You said something to the effect of “she must not be a good psychologist or she wouldn’t have been so fat.” There were several other nasty comments also. To say “no one made fun of anyone” is ridiculous. There are several people here making fun of others, including you. And now you’re calling me a horrible person and telling me I can’t post here. You “contribute nicely”? Really? Because I would be happy to copy and paste the nasty things you’ve said to me and others on this thread alone. I would bet it isn’t the first time and if we went back to your post history we would find more instances of bullying and name calling. No, I will not “step away”. I have every right to be here and have done nothing wrong. If you don’t want to see my posts then block me. You took time to claim several times you weren’t reading my posts, but that doesn’t appear to be true. As for my “refusing to stop”, I have simply responded to posts to me. So, if you’d like me to stop then I would suggest you not respond to me. Or maybe even go one step further and stop making fun of other people. I will always call someone out when they’re being a bully, telling others they shouldn’t be here, telling them to leave, go away, stop posting, etc. People who make fun other others weight here are behaving in a disgusting manner and I will absolutely call that behavior out anytime I see it. If you don’t want your poor behavior brought to center stage then don’t behave that way. Again, I am here to stay. I’ve broken no rules, I’ve cursed no one, I’ve told nobody to leave, I’ve not told anyone that nobody cares that they have to say or that their thoughts don’t matter simply because they’re new here, I’ve called no one fat or said they’re a worse person than me because their highest weight was more than mine. Those are bullying behaviors. Have a lovely day. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

Congratulations on your hard work! You are doing great. Keep it up! As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

This woman has been making fun of someone who was overweight. Apparently because they were “more” overweight than her, she was deserving of ridicule. I will most certainly continue reporting bullying behavior as should you. As for your accusations against me, they are lies so it doesn’t bother me in the least. Feel free to report my post. I’ve said nothing that are against the terms of service I agreed to abide by. You, however, cannot say the same. Nor can several others on this thread. However, most of them have ceased their behavior. You continue to harass me for over 24 hours now. Anyone could read back and see where you asked me why I was posting here and repeatedly told me I can’t post here, made accusations against me and hurled insults at me. You’ve been a bully and were warned by the moderator to stop, yet you continued yesterday and now seem to be intent on doing the same today. Evidently you are unable to engage in “healthy debates” as “healthy debates” do not include, bullying, name calling or telling them they aren’t allowed to be here or comment on posts. So, feel free to report any post I’ve made that has been against the rules. You’ll find that you won’t get anywhere because I’ve done nothing wrong. However, I still encourage you to do so as maybe it will push the moderator to take a look at your own comment history and see the despicable things you’ve said to others. Have a great day. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

You have no idea who is or isn’t reading posts, actually. I won’t block you because I want to screen shot your posts and report them. Hateful people like you should be removed from this otherwise lovely community. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

If you didn’t read past the first line then how did you know I used the word bully? As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

For someone who claims they aren’t reading my posts and have only read the first line, you keep responding. You also took the time to click on my profile and read about me. So, you’re clearly interested. How do you know “no one is interested” in what I have to say? I’ve had conversations with several people here who seemed to be interested. I don’t think you can speak for everyone. I also don’t think the amount of time one had been on this app really matters. That’s rather juvenile. As an aside, I have been a member of BariatricPal for a long time. However, I only recently joined the community. But, again, that is irrelevant. I’m not sure why you’re so hostile. You’re here insulting people, making fun of someone who was overweight and generally repeatedly breaking rules yet you’re angry because someone pointed out your bad behavior? Strange. I hope you find a way to calm down and enjoy your weekend. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

It’s difficult to read your post. It seems maybe you typed too quickly and made several errors. But I get the gist. And telling someone to “shut it” is certainly against the terms of service. You’ve been calling others names and bullying, which had been explicitly forbidden repeatedly in this thread alone. I never pretended to be an admin. I’m not sure why you’re making that up. I’ve also never responded to anyone with insults or by calling them names, so I’m not sure what the “ive seen how you respond to people” is about. It seems to me you’re making things up for some strange reason. Regardless, I’ve reported your bullying and name calling. Hopefully they check messages on the weekends. This seems to be a lovely community of mostly very kind and helpful people. I think it’s important to remove people like Abeille and yourself who are toxic and purposely harmful. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

Yes heavier people so lose faster but only at first. Being heavier doesn’t mean they reach their goal faster. And, again, for someone like you who is losing slowly, I can’t believe you would make fun of someone who is so to their goal. Or make fun of anyone at all, regardless of how close or far away they are from their goal. I am shocked by the handful of people who have decided it’s okay to come here and make fun other overweight people. Or people who were once overweight but have worked very hard to lose it. Yes I know her posts were awful and abhorrent but yours are just as bad. I hope the admin is checking his messages this weekend. This is absolutely disgusting. He has repeatedly asked people to stop or they would be banned and everyone else stopped except you. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

The Admin has asked that people stop responding to this person yet you have responded to her 3-4 times in a row. Why are you doing this? And why are you trying to make fun of her weight? Yes she said horrible things but that’s no reason to make fun of someone who was overweight. We have ALL been overweight or we wouldn’t be here. To say, “oh well you weigh more than me so you must have more problems and must be bad at your job” is horrible! I don’t understand why you would make fun of someone especially when you posted above that you weren’t losing very much weight after your surgery. Please follow the rules of the forum and stop making fun of others and stop responding to that person. Your behavior is no better. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

I wish I could be that way. I can’t even have that stuff in the house because I WILL eat it. All of it. I’ve made that mistake and it’s a really awful feeling. I guess I just have poor control when it comes to food. So I just have to stay away. But, I do enjoy the protein brownie recipes and things like that. I like to make the one serving size brownies in a mug. That won’t I won’t eat too much. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

You didn’t “suggest” anything. You said “get an abortion”. That’s a directive. You followed it with no other words whatsoever. Also, I’m sure she is aware of the option to abort the child. Your saying “get an abortion” offered no help, no compassion, no insight, no helpful advice in any way. You were trying to upset people and looking to troll. Thankfully, they don’t seem to allow this type of behavior here. Have a nice day. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

For trolling, for insensitivity, for being rude. And the admin agreed with me. They said “oh my. We will deal with this. Thank you.” So, I’m sure you’ll be notified. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

Oh man, I sure wish I didn’t get period cravings. They are tough to combat. But, really, I almost always have chocolate/carb cravings. Lol Those are with me for life, I guess. Since my surgery, my period has been really whacky and I’ve read that from many others as well. I’m only 4 months post op, but each month is much heavier and much longer than before. Hopefully things will eventually go back to normal once the hormones level out. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

You insulted me and were rude and condescending, repeatedly telling me not to post here and asking me why I was here. Then you ended it with something nice and thought that would make it ok. And here you are again telling me I’m not allowed to post here. (“DO NOT RESPOND”). You don’t get to decide who posts here. I’m not the one breaking rules, belittling people or telling them they aren’t allowed to be here. I already sent your attacks to the moderator and I’m sure they’ll deal with them how they see fit. In the mean time, since you are so intent on telling me I can’t post here, it might be helpful to you to just block me. Have a great day. I’ve been reading other posts on this app and most of them are nice and helpful. I’m not sure how this one got derailed to such a point. But it’s nice to see that this community as a whole isn’t so hateful. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

Lol! You know, now that you mention it, I should be in that boat in the next day or two. Maybe that’s why I’ve been craving chocolate and carbs all week. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

What you said was horrible. You should be ashamed. And you’re wrong, by the way. Pregnancy isn’t advised this soon, but it is most certainly not dangerous to mother or child. They tell you not to get pregnant because it derails your weight loss goals, NOT because you can’t get proper nutrition. This woman’s post needs to be reported. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

First of all, congratulations! This is a magical time. I’m sorry it’s also met with a bit of fear and uncertainty. I’m not an MD, but I did discuss pregnancy post WLS pretty extensively with my surgeon. Of course, it is best to wait for awhile to get pregnant, however this is not a bad thing! He told me he had a patient who became pregnant 2 weeks post op and she was perfectly fine. Of course, it derailed her weight loss a bit (momentarily), but as far as her health and her baby’s health, everything was fine. You will be focused on getting proper nutrition for your body and your baby. Your doctors will work with you on that. I was concerned about this one and the surgeon told me not to be. Getting proper nutrition wouldn’t be an issue as long as I knew what types of foods to eat during pregnancy. You’re going to be just fine, honey. Your doctor will put your mind at ease and you’ll be able to move forward and enjoy this time. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

While I appreciate your compliments (thank you), I find it, when coupled with the rest of your post, to be insulting, condescending and insincere. Your attempts to insult me (accusations of being “dramatic” and “aggressive”) are exactly what the moderator was referring to when he threatened to ban other people. Yet, you continue to call me names and try to force me to be quiet. I don’t know why I have to explain my use of this app to you, but since you’re being accusational, I will say that I clicked on the post for the same reason that many other people clicked. 1. it was at the top of the page and 2. I saw the topic title and wanted to lend some encouragement. I didn’t “read 14 pages of comments” like you accused. I skipped to the end of the comments so I could say something. That’s when I saw you and several others behaving in such a horrible way. All of that being said, I’m not sure why my use of this app is of such concern to you. You have absolutely been a bully and are still doing so with your repeated insults, your “why are you here?” comments attempting to make me feel unwelcome and your continued insistence that I stop posting (the discussion had concluded, why are you here?). I have every right to post just as anyone else does. I’ve not broken any community rules. However, you have and you continue to do so. I would greatly appreciate if you stopped trying to bully me. I’ve done nothing to you, have not called you names like you’ve called me, have not told you that you shouldn’t be here like you told me, etc. If you cannot stop being rude, hateful, condescending and bullying then please leave me alone. Thank you. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

I told only one person and, still, only that one person knows. And honestly, I wouldn’t have told that person if I hadn’t needed the help post surgery. There were a few reasons I chose not to. 1. I didn’t want the “but why don’t you just diet” comments. 2. I didn’t want the “it’s the easy way out” comments and 3. Honestly, I was afraid of failure and, in case I failed, I didn’t want anyone to know. Luckily, I have been successful but I still don’t tell anyone. I just don’t want to hear it. Actually, I did tell my gynecologist. Before she knew, she was so happy and congratulating me on my weight loss. Then, when she examined me, she saw the scars on my tummy and asked what I had done. When I told her I had WLS she said, “oh. I thought you actually worked for it and did it on your own.” Ugh!!! And THAT is why I don’t tell people. I HAVE worked for it! But other people are more open and tell everyone and that’s okay too. I would just be careful and really consider ahead of time how you might feel when people make these snide comments. Some people don’t care. But others can be hurt and derailed by them. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

I would stay away from them. They hold no nutritional value. I know all plans are different, but I have always been under the impression that we should pay more attention to protein content, carb content and calorie content rather than sugar. Of course low sugar is important, but I wouldn’t think it would be at the top of the list. I like Quest protein bars when I’m craving a cookie type snack. Also, if you haven’t explored Pinterest for recipes, you definitely should. There are so many really great high protein, low carb, low sugar recipes there for pretty much any kind of food you could ever want. If you’re craving sweets, they have a TON of recipes. Sometimes we treat ourselves and that’s ok but I think it’s important to also do your best to incorporate positive things into your treats (such as high protein). As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

If you apologized then I must have missed it. I don’t see it here. If that’s the case then I made a mistake and I apologize. I have been rude before in my life, you are right. However, I am never intentionally cruel like that. I never say something with the intent of causing damage and don’t understand people who do. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

Come out of the bushes? I only recently signed up for this app and this was literally the first thing I saw in the posts. I’m no shrinking violet and am not one to hide in the bushes. If you’re trying to excuse this abhorrent behavior then you, too, are just as bad. As far as “judging others”, this post written by you is full of judgement and bullying against me. The hatefulness and cattiness of the women on this thread is unbelievable. I thought this was a support page but people like you are trying your best to control other people by bullying them. That might work for some, but it won’t work for me. If you don’t like what I have to say there’s a block function you can use. You can block me but you won’t bully me. Have a great day. As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!