StephersSweet

I don't know about the rest of you but we live in a world where finding love means swiping right and hoping for the best. Hello I'm Stephanie, I'm 26 years old. I'm new to the site and would love to make some friends, text buddies, or pen pals. So I'm what you would call Terminally Single, been that way for about 7 years now and I'm not sure it's ever going to change. It feels like the guys I'm into either A. don't want to be with a fat girl. B. are emotionally stunted, C. into weird fetishes (foodie/feeder I know I'm fat but that doesn't get my jollys off.) or D. Crazy, bat **** crazy. Maybe I'm too picky, maybe I'm the crazy one, but I found it interesting to find this type of forum on this site. Color me intrigued!

Seriously though, any time you venture into the subject of WLS surgery and someone asks you why? I just get annoyed by it at this point. So I tell them I'm morbidly obese which leads to the "why don't you go to the gym, why don't you try this new diet, why would you want to do something so crazy when there are better ways to lose weight it just takes hard work?" Then I tell them about all the fad diet programs I've tried, that I go to the gym 4 times a week 1.5 hour each time alternation on strength training and cardio, which leads to more Why questions. Honestly I'm really tired of the why question, I'm all for educating the people around me but 9/10 times there questioning not because they care or want to know but because they think I'm taking the "easy way out", and that really irritates me. So is anyone else out there sick and tired of explaining themselves?

So I'm starting to see a Fitness trainer tomorrow, and I'm wondering if anyone out there has also gone through a personal trainer during their journey. I'm not sure if I should tell them that I'm getting WLS, I already get talked down by other people who think I'm taking the easy way out but I really want to get a clear work out plan for post op body sculpting to lower the chances of lose skin. My insurance is covering the surgery but they will not cover anything they deem cosmetic. So I'm just wondering what everyones take on having a trainer has been.

C'mon we all know some, I'll start. I asked my friend to help me with a math problem. He said: “Don’t worry; this is a piece of cake.” I said: “No, it’s a math problem.”

So I have this guy friend who I'm kinda into... I have this notion in my head that after I finish my journey he may decide I'm worth dating at that point. And all though I'm really fond of him and love our conversations, and think he's amazing... but I don't think I would be into dating him after this. I'm probably living in a fantasy world but I'm wondering if any of you had dealt with this and how you handled it. Did you end up together and you're currently living happily ever after or did you tell them to eff off because they were shallow when you were bigger? I do know for sure I'm not interested in anything serious until after my surgery.

Hello everyone! My name is Stephanie and I am in the beginning processes of getting bypass surgery. I'm getting the Roux-en-Y procedure and mainly I'd love to make new friends who are going through the same process as me. No one in my immediate friend or family group get it! None of them understand, truly understand why I want to do this. Sometimes I want to wack them in the forehead and say HELLLOOOO DO YOU NOT SEE HOW BIG I AM? Anyway I'm a social butterfly, I like making new friends, I would be open to meeting people in my area, or even having a pen pal. Hope to hear back from you guys! Thanks.

Thanks again for all the advice guys. I never did go see that personal trainer lol. Decided they would probably be too judgey.

So I'm still in the beginning of my process. I attended the seminar in June, took the summer to REALLY think about it and then the last week in august I started the journey officially. I had the nutrition seminar on September 11th, the physical on the 19th, Ultrasound yesterday, psych eval is scheduled for late October, nutrition 1:1 is scheduled on October 10th, Sleep study in early November. I'm only required to have 2 1:1 nutrition appointments, and I need to lose 5% of my body weight which I've already accomplished. So far everyone I've met at my appointments have been amazing, not a single person has treated me how I expected, I had this fear in the back of my mind that this was going to be like fat camp where all the fit counselors are only interested in judging you for making bad life decisions. I can not recommend this hospital enough if you're in Rochester and are thinking about getting bariatric surgery!!! I'll post a reply on this once I have my 1:1 with Dr Johnson with a review about him!

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I want to make it clear that I came to this decision knowing full well that no matter what there's going to be loose skin, I had just heard that body toning exercises can help. I'm seeing the trainer either way because I want a work out plan that works well for me, I probably won't tell him about the WLS and I'll probably only go until my surgery and then use what I've learned at my own gym by myself.

DYING!!!! I laughed so loud at my desk.

If she's anything like my supervisor she'll be a chatty cathy and the whole office will already know. One thing I love about my supervisor is how supportive she's been which is another reason I don't mind that she told other people because now upper management knows and they can't punish me for taking excessive time off for all of these pre op appointments. Also she wants to be my personal cheerleader and work out buddy so that's pretty cool.

Well that's sorely disappointing, I was told by other people that body sculpting would at least help reduce the amount of skin.

Popcorn is one of my all time favorite snacks. I found out that even the light options have palm oil in them which is carcinogenic and gave it up completely. I miss popcorn though.

I'm not sure if this has already been mentioned, but what about adding some chat rooms?

OH you guys mean the pre op diet directly before the surgery, I think we have to fast the day before, but other than that yeah we're on what my best friend calls a starvation diet. lol

My headaches stopped about day 5, I'm on day 16 of the pre op diet, it's intense. I'm not sure if you all are on the same diet I'm on. I'm not allowed to have protein/meal replacement shakes until post surgery during the liquid diet. The biggest thing that I've had to get used to is meal prepping. I meal prep like 4 chicken breast that I cut into strips every Sunday and portion them out for the 9oz of protein I'm allowed a day, it's obnoxious but I've already lost the 5% of my body weight so I would say it's working. You too will get passed the headaches!

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EXACTLY!!! Thank you for what you've written, this is why I've come to love this site!

I don't think it's that serious yet, I want to be open about my surgery and that way I can be a success, I want people to know that this is a tool to help you with your life if your in the same situation. I don't mind that it came out in the office, it's about a 75%-25% positive to negative feedback from the people in the office who found out. To the negative 25% I'm sure they have their reasons but I can't wait to see their faces as I slowly turn into a skinny human lol

@outsidematchinside That's sad to think about, but I'm sure your right.

I suppose hat would happen with chat rooms lol. Thank you for you replies!

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I would wear that tee shirt! haha I didn't tell the world, at least I tried not to, I informed 2 of my supervisors because I figured I should tell them at the get go about the next few months being loaded with doc appointments and then needing 2 weeks off. One of my supervisors kinda has a big mouth and it very quickly became the topic of conversation in my office. And even friends and family who I assumed would've been supportive have gone out of their way to make "suggestions" it's just annoying.