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@Frustr8 - that must have been SO hard for you! I have been my daughter's advocate for many many years now... deciphering what her wants and needs are and making sure they are met. Now I am teaching her to advocate for herself, which she is doing so well. When she was first diagnosed, I was plunged into a pit of darkness. I am away from family... it was so hard to do by myself and I would regularly break down in private, get up and dust myself off ready for the next challenge. There were times I would go for a late night drive, after my little one was in bed, just so that I could scream at the top of my lungs, to get some of the anguish out. Not anguish for me... for her. For the unknown and her future. Back then we didn't know if she'd only ever be echolalic. She is the most wonderful human being. My hopes for her are happiness and to be able to be free from her anxiety. That's my goal right now - we'll see what happens beyond that. Thank you for reaching out and your lovely words - I so appreciate that.

#5 - I guess that would also be my husband and mum. I used to have some really great friends before I came to America, but since being here I haven't really made one good close friend. Now, I don't know if I even want them because whoever it is needs to know that I have to drop everything for my child as she has autism. It's probably not easy being my friend. I don't have a lot to give and I can't live up to expectations. I talk to my mum several times a week - she's back in England. She knows me warts and all. I'd say my husband does too, mostly haha. As my daughter is growing up, the therapy we have done since she was 3 years old is paying off. She is now verbal and able to have a fairly good back and forth chat now and then. I have dreams of her being my pal as she gets older. Obviously, I want her to have her own friends, which is going to be hard as she is really resistant to being around other kids... so if she doesn't have any, then we'll jet around town together. I love her SO much. Sorry for the bio! haha

Maybe just see what your GP can do first. I'd also let them know how you are feeling mentally... this can really take a great toll on some people. There have been studies done on the gut/brain connection and since we have a lot of the gut bypassed, there can be some issues with mood. I'm just saying... see how you feel after your BP is doing on some meds. You might feel a lot better mentally. Take one thing at a time and let your body do some healing. I think RNY can be reversed but I don't know how easy a surgery it is. Let us know how your GP session goes - I really hope that they can come up with some things to help you feel better.

Favourite childhood memory... gosh, I don't think I have one. I might have to come back to that one later when one stands out to me. I had a hard but also somehow magical childhood. Favourite perfume - weirdly, my sense of smell seemed to change after my first bariatric surgery. Smells I previously liked just didn't gel with me any more, especially the more musky deep scents. I'd say one of my favourite all time perfumes though is the now discontinued Donna Karan's Chaos.

Do you think maybe it's worth visiting your GP and talking to them about your low blood pressure and maybe talk to them about how you are feeling?

Same here - cold all the time now. My feet are ice blocks.

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I would imagine it would be wonderful! Like you, I've always had a tummy... every time I put weight on it would go to that area. I just can't imagine it not being there! Good luck with your appointment!!

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That sounds horrendous I hope that you are starting to heal up now. I didn't bond with my TPN, but I can say that I was probably the most topped up with vitamins that I have ever been in my life!

It sounds as though you may have a rectocele (a hernia) - where stool pushes through into the vagina. It can happen after childbirth, chronic constipation and from being overweight. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/rectocele/symptoms-causes/syc-20353414

Hi, not sure what you mean by this?

@Frustr8 - why did you have TPN? I feel your pain... I had one of those after my leak. Hated it. Worst thing you can do to a person who LOVES to eat is take away that ability completely. Utter, utter nightmare.

I had a leak two days after my sleeve and then had multiple surgeries to put a stent in. They believe it stretched out from all of the invasive surgeries... I had 5 after my initial sleeve surgery. I had an upper endoscopy before my RNY and the surgeon said it was so stretched out he was not surprised I was hungry all the time and not losing weight.

That's fantastic - walking is such great exercise isn't it. I could barely walk at my heaviest and now I'm trotting all over the place haha. By the way, you need to update your stats in your avatar!

I tried phentermine for weight loss when my sleeve failed. Horrible stuff. Never again.

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That's amazing! Congratulations! Just a question... did you do a lot of workouts or did they weight just come off regardless?

He has to want to do it himself - you can't make him, otherwise you end up resentful.

Well, I'm still in the mush phase of my diet, so I can't really give much of an opinion on that, except to say that I have had to take it very slowly and I've stayed in the mush phase longer than is normally needed due to having some throwing up issues with soft foods. Portions are much smaller than before and I am definitely not as hungry as I was with the sleeve.

Poor you, that sounds horrible I hope that they get to the bottom of this soon and fix it! Gallbladder issues can be absolute agony. When it gets to this point, it's probably best to have it whipped out.

I had sleeve to bypass, but not because of GERD. My sleeve was so stretched out, it was useless. I'm happy to answer any questions about the process.

I am really struggling with egg, even when mashed up - it really sticks in my esophagus. Have you tried the Ricotta bake or some refried beans with some cheese? Even a little mashed avocado is nice on the side.

I'm in! - Post op - 287 lbs - Tired, mum, Logician (according to 16personalities.com haha!) - Goal: to get out of this low/depression I've felt since surgery.

Oh wow, they look good! Can't wait till I can eat solids again. Do any of you know any protein powder that isn't whey based that you can cook with? Also, have any of you cooked cloud bread before? I tried it once - wasn't bad! Edit: Here's a recipe https://www.aspicyperspective.com/best-cloud-bread-recipe/