Draven298

Back story is that 2 years ago, I started the process for weight loss surgery and the Dr. I saw told me that he believed that my best option was bypass because it doesn't allow me to cheat as easily and so I got it in my head that anything else would be a failure for me. Due to life situations, I was not able to take the time out to focus on surgery and recovery so I had to put it all off. Now 2 years later I am starting the process again and with a new Dr. I have also developed stomach ulcers in the past two years so he told me today that he does not feel good doing the bypass when I already have ulcers and feels that the sleeve is the safest bet. In my head, it is still stuck that I am going to fail if I don't have the bypass. I don't want to go in feeling like a failure already and since most of my research over the years has been on the bypass, I am looking for real life experience. So I guess what I need to know is did any of you feel this way going in and if so, have you been successful? Without the dumping, how do you detour your thought process to not eat certain foods. I guess I was relying on feeling bad enough eating certain foods that I would never want to touch them again. I want this so bad but I don't want to fail and I need a mind reset. Thanks for any advise

Thank you so much. I appreciate you sharing your experience so much. I'll keep you updated as to how it goes.

Thank you @Darktowerdream I think I am going to schedule another appointment with him and push the issue. I just sat there like a lump when he told me because I felt like I hit a wall and couldn't get my thoughts straight when he said it. Maybe he will reconsider and I wont have to go through finding another doctor and starting over again.

Thank you all so much for the information. I don't disagree with my new DR. on what he has told me at all. I believe if he says it is safer to do it this way, than it is. He is highly recommended in my area and carries several awards and 16 years experience so who am I to doubt him. My issue is with myself. My previous Dr., is not as recommended and in all honesty, he planted the seed that I would fail with any other surgery and now I have to find a way to get that out of my head so that I can go into this strong and believing in myself. I know that if I can get this weight off, the fear of being trapped in this prison others call a body will help me to not regain weight, I am just terrified that I will fail myself getting to that point. You all have made me feel better about it reading these replies and reading others comments and replies so I am going to be here often in hopes that this support will help me get through it. Also, I updated everything, I think. Let me know if it shows up now lol Thank you again for the info and encouragement. It is much appreciated.

So after my second child, some 20 years ago, I started looking into gastric bypass surgery. I was 260 lbs at that point and never thought I would get that big. Over the years, I talked to many people who popped up in my life who had already had the surgery and not much positive info came from that. Between lose skin and iron infusions that another friend had to have... I was scared. Now I am 386 lbs and what scares me now is walking to the bathroom and not being able to breath. Or people smelling body oder because it seems in possible to reach everywhere to get as clean as I need to be. I'm scared of dieing before my youngest is grown and him having to go live with a father he has never met that has little patience to deal with my son special needs. I'm scared of how unhappy I make my kids when they want to do things and I physically am to tired to get up. I am no longer scared of this surgery or complications nor am I scared of something so trivial in the grand scheme of things as loose skin. (Loose skin use to terrify me). I'm finally starting the process to change my life. I got my list on Friday and cannot wait to get started.my biggest concern I guess is making this all work without losing my job in the process. I still have to pay bills. I honestly wish I could get temperary disability until like 6 months after surgery so I could put all my focus on this journey. The one thing that is pushing me for change the most is my youngest son. He is going down the same path but at a much faster pace than I did. He is 10 years old, 4'8 and weighs 158 lbs. No matter how much we talk about my health and how food has limited my life, he doesn't seem to care. He will sneak food and gorge himself. After this surgery, there will be nothing in the house for him to gorge on. We all will have only healthy options available to us. He will be exercising with me and we will take the journey together. I am trying to include him in everything so he knows what's coming. I'm also going to do before and after photos for him too so that he will be encouraged. He helps me to put all fear aside because I have to do this for him too so he doesn't have to one day. Anyway, thanks for listening to me ramble. So many thoughts in my head and I'm keeping the surgery private for now in my life because I don't need any negative talk from those who don't understand. So, this is going to be my way for now, to dump my feelings. My kids know but they don't need to know all the emotional parts. I don't want them to be scared or anything. So thanks for listening.