Omg I hear you girl. I'm 44 and terminally single as well. You're young, you have plenty of time to worry about dating later. I'm 3 weeks post op RNY, starting weight 335 to 257 (lost a lot pre op) and it's just too hard to explain to new people why you can't go out to eat, then you got a lot that are judgemental about the surgery. The ones who like the big girls, can't possibly understand why u would go thru this. Lol. The dating sites are brutal anyway with out all this too.