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Hello! I’m Haley, 27 YO from Toronto, ON. I will be seeing my surgeon in the next couple of months, and have been told I will have my RNY by the end of the year. I feel like I have been waiting FOREVER. (Referral to Bariatric clinic August of 2017.) I have absolutely no complications, and all of my appointments have been a breeze. This is looking to be one of the most positive things that I can think of for my life, so I have started preparing. Practicing not drinking before or after meals, restricting my calories and carb intake, and adding in some moderate cardio daily. I am having this surgery not only to become a better version of myself, but to help with infertility problems. I have PCOS and it has gone into OVER DRIVE between the birth of my son, 3 following miscarriages, and losing and gaining back 60+ lbs two separate times. I want more babies, sooooooooooo bad. My husband is the greatest dad, and he deserves more children as well, and welp my ovaries just aren’t cutting it in my hormonal condition right now. I am also trying to deter a future almost guaranteed diagnoses of type 2 diabetes. My fathers almost entire side of the family has it, and I take after him to a teeeee. ( dad passed at 52 💔, aunt passed at 54) I have never in my life been ‘slim’ or ‘skinny’ and I seriously mean neverrr. BUT my family thinks I am crazy to go under the knife for this! They think because I’ve done well and lost 60+ lbs twice in my life that I should be able to do it no problem. I’ve tried explaining that it’s not the actual work it’s the maintaining and emotional state I get in when I’m putting in 2 plus hours at the gym 4 -5 days a week on top of maintaining a full time job in corporate, and raising my four year old to be a super hero. I want this tool more than anything ( except another baby) and I am sooooo ready to work it. My spouses support is seriously second to none. He has read every article, and just been right on top of it forever reminding me that he is here to support me. But I just can’t help feeling sad, and angry that my two best friends ( mom and sister) roll their eyes and change the subject when I want to talk about this journey. How have you dealt with close family members not being supportive? Did they change their tune after seeing your success after surgery? HB.

Omg, you look seriously amazing! Amazing job!

A Harvey’s poutine 😭😭 absolutely a WEAKNESS, that and a BK tendercrisp chicken sandwich! Haha

Hi bajansleeve! I haven’t had my surgery yet but will by the end of the year. From all of my research in and out of these forums, you should just really re-think your diet plan. Check out the new weight watchers diet, I’m not saying join but just a peek at what it’s like. HIGH protein LOW carb LOW sugar is all of us as WLS patients goal diet. As my surgery is approaching I have cut all rice, noodles, bread and pasta ( they simply turn to sugar). Try mixing it up with oats, quinoa, barley instead. Focus on protein, your shakes, Greek yogurts, cottage cheese, etc. Don’t feel discouraged you still have lots of time to make use of your sleeve! ☺️ do some more research on the desired diet.

I fully agree with you, it is a lot more than just changing your eating and getting outside! My mom and sister are both obese as well and I had hope that one of them would join me on this journey, but absolutely not haha. The food industry is scary in all honestly. I wish you all the best through your journey, and you are more deserving of this, I’m sure your success will be ten fold, because you sound determined. ❤️

Yup! You’re spot on with my whys! Thank you for your input, I am super glad that everyone here has a full understanding when not everyone who I tell in my life will. ☺️

Definitely a bummer! I have printed so many things for my mom to go over and explained my reasoning, but she just doesn’t seem too interested, or accepting. Glad I have people here who are in full understanding!

They are also both obese, my sister has major PCOS as well, and my mom some health problems but nothing major. I think that’s why I’m more confused of their lack of support. I’ll hope that you’re right and lean on my husband and be more active in these forums if I feel I’m needing more support. ☺️ time will tell if their opinions change after surgery!

only two days to go! good luck girl!

oh man, that's my concern but i've kind of faced the facts now haha. I really wanted to get the VSG surgery, but if they think bypass is best then i'll go with that.

Hello! My Doctor has finally referred me for VSG in Toronto, and I am sooooo eager to get this journey started. Can someone please enlighten me on their wait times etc. within the GTA...btw NOT going with the pay option..definitely waiting to get approved. thank you soo much in advanced!

Grandmother's bigger, mom is bigger, sister is bigger. I've ALWAYS been the fat girl. I've managed to lose 60 + lbs twice...once gained it all back with pregnancy...and the other time gained it all back after losing three family members in a year and a half time span. I absolutely have food addiction, and can't wait to get this surgery to use as a tool in my journey to lose more.

Thanks you the reply! and you are going in for the gastric sleeve procedure? Is this your first WLS?

Nope. I am going through the Ontario Bariatric Network. My doctor referred me for the sleeve procedure specifically, but I've heard in Ontario that Gastric Bypass is the golden standard, so I'm really hoping that when I hear news it's to meet about the sleeve procedure, but I am open to hearing more about Gastric Bypass as well. I previously went to two orientation on Gastric Bypass but I was only 18 and just wasn't ready.

wow! thank you for this info, I've been wondering about wait times in general in the GTA. I've been referred to Toronto Western.

congrats!