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I survived day 1 of Liquid LOL!!! But I did find an amazing shake from GNC. Snickerdoodle and it's amazing!!! Just FYI

It was this way with my daughter. She's only saying it out of concern. But I told her if I could just "eat healthier" than I wouldn't be in the boat I'm currently in. I have tried and tried and tried. I told her I was tired of trying and then failing. So I did educate her on the risks, how things will be different, etc. She's still concerned but knows that I have researched this and I'm convinced of my decision.

I start liquids tomorrow. I'm more stressed about that than anything else. Weird how our minds perceive things. But I'm on schedule because I've already lost more than they wanted me to lose at this point. I'm mostly stressing about being tired and being able to focus at work!! I'm ready for Sept 27th to get here!!

My surgery is in a month. I started preparing a month ago. I have not cheated once. I had a last splurge the weekend before I started preparing for surgery. I honestly made myself miserable because of eating so much crap. The thought that kept going through my mind - was the food really that important? Did it really fix anything for me? The answer is no. I'm sick of food having a hold of me. I'm done. My other issue is the fear of complications from surgery. I want to have the best chance I can of a zero issue surgery. So given your situation where you wanted "Chinese", I would have had like teriyaki chicken with steamed vegetables. Or Mexican, have chicken fajita with the peppers and onions and salsa and skip the beans and rice. That's my new attitude. I'm still getting food I enjoy minus a couple items. And the high protein has stopped my cravings. Hang in there. Ask why you are doing this and is it really worth it.

I'm Sept 27th

@OutsideMatchInside So do you just stick to the dense protein? When do you have the veggies, etc My daughter is a fitness guru and she basically says I should be off of course the "white foods" but also off dairy and limited complex carbs.

Thank you for the explanation. I'm doing my homework on this to be prepared. I've been having this conversation with my husband. He's one of those people, he likes food, but it's totally a fuel thing for him. He eats because he has to. I freely admit I have an issue with using food to soothe my emotions. This has been much more in the past 5 years. Confessing this and seeing that I must address the deeper issues. Yes, I'm one of those people that has baggage as mentioned and I can see this. I already told him we may have the expense of a therapist because I can't do the "obese" thing anymore.

I am not post op yet, but from my limited time on this board, this issue seems to come up quite a lot. It has me pretty nervous about going forward. Quite simply, putting myself at risk to only gain back the weight in two years, if that makes sense. Can people explain to me what is happening? From what I have read, restriction still exists, food amounts are less, but a significant about a weight returns for a number of people. For my FYI, looking at what to avoid can people share what they were doing to gain the weight back?

@OutsideMatchInside Thank you, that makes sense. I've never been a grazer, so I think that's a good thing. Sounds like it's the type of food that makes a huge difference.

You should try without the yogurt and the banana and the protein bar if it has high carbs. My Dr has me on the Atkins phase 1 and it's working. I did have one last "weekend" of splurging but then got to business at the two month point. My attitude is this is my new life. I better get used to it. I do drink a lot of water. Still having a morning coffee with just cream. And, I'm having lots of veggies if I'm craving a bit less protein. Cravings are gone. I'm staying at about 1200 cal a day. YES that tired feeling is there, its the lack of carbs. But it seems to be just in the morning. By the end of the day, I have plenty of energy. But bed time comes and I am out like a light, getting plenty of sleep. There could be a dozen different things to cause you to not lose. Try more protein, more movement, more water. But the one guy is right. Read what he is saying not how he is saying it. You have to get through this rough patch to prepare yourself for surgery. It's important to lower your risks and that needs to be your focus. One step at a time.

Please forgive my ignorance. I am an emotional eater. I know this, I own this. I'm scheduled for Sept 27th. How did you gain this back? What are you doing? or eating I should say? I've done a ton of research and it's so hard for me to imagine that amount of weight gain when you can eat about 1 cup at a sitting. I'm at my weight because I ate WAY more than that for too long. I know the wls is a tool, but still there should be restriction. I know for me personally, I seem to be making the connection that all the food I ate never really did help my stress. Instead, I just felt intense quilt. I did make this decision because of the desire to be healthy and seeing relatives living unhappy lives because of all their health problems. I guess it comes down to that donut really isn't going to fix what you are feeling. But I bet a walk outdoors, a pedicure, cleaning your home could help out in the moment.

You are over doing it. Yes I'm obese but was very actively working out 5 years ago with a personal trainer. And my daughter is a fitness buff. She and he would say you are not eating near enough so your body is protecting itself. Try cutting back on the activity, get plenty of water and I bet the scale will start to move. My body responds the same way yours is doing now. I go on 1200 cal a day and sit all day and I lose. But go to about 1500 calories a day with 6 day a week intense workouts and I won't lose a pound. My mindset was work harder to make the lose greater and faster and in the end I was just frustrated. For the OP, try Atkins phase 1 for two weeks.

I have no advice on anything but the "no butt issue".LOL I saw that and as my daughter always says SQUATS!! If you want to have a nice rear end, you have to work the muscles of the rear end. Squats and lunges.

That is awesome. I'm glad you are pleased with it. I'm sure I will have to do this just because my skin is not as elastic as it used to be. That's ok. I'm ready to feel like a new woman!!

I just got home from a 5 day trip. I WON!! I'll weigh tomorrow but I believe I lost while gone. This was hard because trips ALWAYS meant lots of food, alcohol, snacks, etc. I did have a few times where I was tempted but I stuck to the low carb diet per the Dr and zero alcohol. I only have 4 lbs to go before I'm at the weight Dr wants me at. My motto - this is my new life. Food is fuel. I have the mindset that once I reach goal, then I can have small splurges, but not until then. And, every time I was tempted, I thought about the surgery. I want it to go smoothly, so not sticking to this diet increases my risks. We are all so close!!! Exciting!!

WOW!!! You look amazing!!

I was thinking this but where does the gas go? If it's in the abdominal cavity, how does it get out?

Thanks for the laugh ladies!!! This has been my concern. So I had a TT 2 years ago. Painful, but it did exactly what i wanted. However, I swear I now look like a Ken doll:-(. I have to always wear shirts that go past my girl bits now. So, yes, I've researched this. You can have your lips trimmed and lipo for the front. You can look like a new woman. After I lose the weight I want to lose, if things aren't the way I want them, I WILL be having this surgery. Married for 22 years and no chance of anyone else seeing it. But for ME, this is importantLOL!!

I'm Sept 27th. We got this!!

I absolutely understand what you are experiencing. I actually cried the day before I started my "pre-op". I'm scheduled for Sept 27th so I still have a ways to go. But decided I'm starting now and not waiting for the surgery. I'm a "lightweight" but still a BMI of 36 is a lot to carry around. I cried because I started to realize I can't use food to "deal" with my stress or my fears or my emotional roller coasters. I am an addict and my drug of choice has been food. I was not always heavy, actually skinny as a kid. My weight came on after starting a small business. The more it grew, the more stressed I became. I would diet, lose weight, it would come back anytime something major came up. Now my weight has crept up to the point I'm pre diabetic. Yes, I'm active, but I eat entirely too much food and not good food either. Sitting down and eating an entire Ben and Jerry's because of a bad day at work can no longer happen. I must view food at a source of fuel, not an emotional bandaid. I am following a low carb diet, so thankfully all cravings are gone. But, right now I"m in the place that I must avoid temptations, just like an alcoholic. Something that did help was putting out in the open that I have an issue with food. I discussed this with my husband. He's totally on board. Our kids are grown so it's just he and I. I am cooking for myself and than he gets extras like garlic bread with his dinner. He's the type that can eat anything and has never gained weight. But I do know he enjoys food, but it's just something you do when you are hungry. In the end, the place I am at now is I must do something. I am tired of feeling the way I feel, tired of be concerned about my health, tired of clothes fitting like crap, tired of this emotional weight I've carried around for too long. I'm tired of my weight being an issue in my life. So, when the head stuff starts, this is what I think about. And believing it's going to be OK.

Good luck to you as well!! I'm just trying to stay busy to make the time pass quickly.

My appointment is Sept 27th. Dr. A Ortiz in Mexico. Very excited but nervous! I know this means big changes. I started my "pre op" diet of low carbs a week ago. Might as well get going.