Actionsteph

My bff and I are both having vsg surgery soon and I was excited untill lately. We have a pretty small social circle about 5 or 10 people, everyone seems to be so excited and supportive of her but they hardly care about me. At first I thought it was me so I stepped back and now I see that there is more support for her. I also noticed that she's been making this journey a competition when I just wanted to enjoy it. Like when I got my refferal she pulled ou a 2 year old one and switched to my insurance since it covers the surgery. Then she decided to also choose the same surgeon. And now that I have my first visit scheduled she wants to go with me since her referal hasn't been approved, she's hopping to piggy ban the appointment. I don't want to suffer but I also want to make this journey enjoyable and simple for her.

Hi ladies, Thank you for taking the time to reply. Both are completely right, she would not want me to piggy back on her docs appointment. Deep down I knew what I should be doing but I'm not sure why I didn't just trust my instinct. I will be going on my own if I can however if she is persistent I will just ask her to wait in the waiting room. I'm also going to try to keep the rest of the office visit dates to myself. I think it is important to remember like you said that this is my journey and I should be working on me not my friendships! Thank you! I think I just needed to hear from a third party. Steph