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I am 3+ mths pos op. i was very nervous too pre op. dont worry to much abt it and u will do well after! first few weeks post op may be a bit challenging for some pple. just take it as an adjustment period for a healthier u! it will get better all the best and just look fwd to a better health!! VSG on 25 July 2017

6 mths is kinda fast but you must be doing great for your dr to suggest that! Thanks for your comments and letting me know abt the troll! [emoji28] We shall see when I will get pregnant [emoji5] Thanks for the encouragement!

Sorry for your miscarriages and hope you get a successful pregnant one day. if that's you in your profile pic, you look great !!!!

ASAP means " as soon as POSSIBLE". In my first post I said asap meaning as soon as it was deemed to be POSSIBLE by my dr and gynae and not literally immediately this very minute to get pregnant irresponsibly. I did say I was going to meet my dr for his evaluation of my weight loss. Meaning pregnancy is still being discussed and not a clearance for me to get pregnant. However, after reading a couple of your responses, I guess you comprehended my "asap" as literally this very day to conceive. Hence my sentence, "In case some people assume I am trying to get knocked up as soon as possible" is referring to your own understanding or perception of what asap means.

Thanks. i had several tests done over the course of 5-6 years. Had 2 failed IUI and I finally decided to sign up for IVF after much much consideration, only to be told be rejected as I do not meet a requirement. After so much of mental and emotional consideration to choose IVF, i had to take a huge step back. Now i just gotta wait when the time is right. Anyway, I hope after wls, I can conceive naturally (or not), as fertility procedures are a very long process where I am located. At least 1 to 1.5 years wait for IVF.

I'm married for 8 years and had a couple of unsuccessful fertility procedures. Tell me about it, how long it'll take.. or if it ever will. Good luck for your soon-to-be surgery

I think you made a great suggestion with getting the eggs tested and getting it frozen! Will check that information with my gynae! Sorry to hear abt the 2 miscarriages and I can only imagine how awful it is. my sister in law had 2 miscarriage too and a friend of mine had 3 with the last one being pregnant with triplets. Im sure what I see them go thru is just a fraction of what they are feeling. May I check if your miscarriage was before or after your wls (assuming you had wls) and if the miscarriage was because pregnancy too early after ur wls?

Again, thanks so much for understanding where I am coming from. I didnt state that I was going to get pregnant in 4 mths or 6 mths or 9 mths and do not know why I am being jumped at. I do not know whatever gave the idea that I take pregnancy and having children so lightly. Some people have shared several things, and with some sharing reasons (objectively) why getting pregnant early is not a good decision. At least me and other readers understand more now. And yes one of your points is correct about one of my many concerns. if I wait 18 mths I will be 38 and after I told my sleeve dr on my past fertility issues, he understood my concerns and he was concerned too. we agreed that we will relook at the situation in several more mths. Neither he nor me agreed that it was ok for me to get pregnant (Just to be clear in case some people assume I am trying to get knocked up as soon as possible) I have had a couple of fertility procedures that failed in the past 8 years hence time is ticking a bit fast for me as I know I am not the most of the fertile. Anyway, good tip about the supplements for egg quality etc and if I do get pregnant and give birth one day, I hope to breastfeed too. PS: So sorry to hear about your child and grandchild. Hugsss..

Thanks for your objective list and bringing up a few points that I will learn more. I am aware of Point 1 and 2 but Point 3 and 4 will be something that I will look into and talk more with my dr. So far I have not had GERD or heart burn issues but I understand that I am still early in my new journey and may still face it in the future. Thanks for the gist.

@sosewsue61 Thank you for your message and appreciate that you spoke up and replied. Hope you are well too in this journey. Again, based on the earlier response to your post, it shows how wrong assumptions are still made and obviously the objectives of my lengthy post was totally not understood. [emoji138] Some people are too quick to judge and too quick with their speeches that they do not stop to consider what was being said and what to say.

Wow, your post is so judgemental on so many levels. I know this is an open platform but hurling your negativity and judgement is just not forthcoming. One thing you are wrong, I do not believe in responding rudely. I believe everyone is entitled to your opinions and I welcome you sharing your opinion and advice though it would have been more effective when communicated more nicely. I understand that you are a mother and have your mother instincts but I believe because you are a mother, you shld also practise kindness towards another woman with woman issues and not jump with such strong judgements. Especially when that person is facing an issue that you may not understand but you choose to be critical anyway, based on your general reading and research but not on your expertise on the subject or expertise on my situation or medical backgrd. I never said I will definitely be pregnant before 12 mths or when I meet my dr in January. And of cos I will listen to my dr or gynae on their advice but I would like to hear their expert opinion after reviewing my health in a few more mths as everyone is different. Yes there are rules and research, and there are other people who were blessed with good pregnancies after being sleeved. I want to know how their experience was and I did not say that I will make my decision based on them. You said you are not judging me but you proceeded to suggest that motherhood is not for me now. I'm sorry but you do not get to judge if I am prepared for motherhood based on one post that I made here. You only know that one tiny bit of information about me, and because you are a mother, you get to pass a comment that I am not fit to be a mother? And that being a mother requires a high level of selflessness, hence insinuating that I do not have that and to say that I am selfish? All based on that one post, you have derived so much about me. Sorry, but can I ask, does being a mother make you so quick to judge a person and an expert on pregnancy to be so condemning on my post. I know waiting to conceive or to have a child is worth a wait.. I am still waiting aren't I? And you mentioned that you want to unsubscribe to this post? ...So you are willing to diss someone and pass quick judgements but you are not willing to read whats the response like because you assume it will be rude? Again, you have made another judgement and assume that I will respond rudely to you. I know being a mother of 2 will prob take up most of your time and I should thank you for spending some time to reply on my post, which by the way, you made it sound like I am trying to kill the baby that I have yet conceived, or ever will conceive. And after all that you had said so critically, you put a blushing smiley emoticon? Is that supposed to make it better and make it more friendly to me, because it left me confused. By the way, if it did not come across in my words, I am still putting my tone down and saying all these words nicely. If you are reading, then I hope the next time if anyone of similar situation as me, comes into your path, I hope and pray that person is treated with kindness, or at the very least, treated cordially, instead of being criticised and judged. You never know what that is going through like depression or whatsoever. I just feel that whatever you wanted to say can be put across in a better way as how sharing posts should be in this platform as most people here are facing some kind of medical condition or unfavourable situationa. Even if you do not want to say it nicely or kindly, you can say it less authoritative. Thank you. VSG on 25 July 2017 VSG on 25 July 2017

Wow, your post is so judgemental on so many levels. I know this is an open platform but hurling your negativity and judgement is just not forthcoming. One thing you are wrong, I do not believe in responding rudely. I believe everyone is entitled to your opinions and I welcome you sharing your opinion and advice though it would have been more effective when communicated more nicely. I understand that you are a mother and have your mother instincts but I believe because you are a mother, you shld also practise kindness towards another woman with woman issues and not jump with such strong judgements. Especially when that person is facing an issue that you may not understand but you choose to be critical anyway, based on your general reading and research but not on your expertise on the subject or expertise on my situation or medical backgrd. I never said I will definitely be pregnant before 12 mths or when I meet my dr in January. And of cos I will listen to my dr or gynae on their advice but I would like to hear their expert opinion after reviewing my health in a few more mths as everyone is different. Yes there are rules and research, and there are other people who were blessed with good pregnancies after being sleeved. I want to know how their experience was and I did not say that I will make my decision based on them. You said you are not judging me but you proceeded to suggest that motherhood is not for me now. I'm sorry but you do not get to judge if I am prepared for motherhood based on one post that I made here. You only know that one tiny bit of information about me, and because you are a mother, you get to pass a comment that I am not fit to be a mother? And that being a mother requires a high level of selflessness, hence insinuating that I do not have that and to say that I am selfish? All based on that one post, you have derived so much about me. Sorry, but can I ask, does being a mother make you so quick to judge a person and an expert on pregnancy to be so condemning on my post. I know waiting to conceive or to have a child is worth a wait.. I am still waiting aren't I? And you mentioned that you want to unsubscribe to this post? ...So you are willing to diss someone and pass quick judgements but you are not willing to read whats the response like because you assume it will be rude? Again, you have made another judgement and assume that I will respond rudely to you. I know being a mother of 2 will prob take up most of your time and I should thank you for spending some time to reply on my post, which by the way, you made it sound like I am trying to kill the baby that I have yet conceived, or ever will conceive. And after all that you had said so critically, you put a blushing smiley emoticon? Is that supposed to make it better and make it more friendly to me, because it left me confused. By the way, if it did not come across in my words, I am still putting my tone down and saying all these words nicely. If you are reading, then I hope the next time if anyone of similar situation as me, comes into your path, I hope and pray that person is treated with kindness, or at the very least, treated cordially, instead of being criticised and judged. You never know what that is going through like depression or whatsoever. I just feel that whatever you wanted to say can be put across in a better way as how sharing posts should be in this platform as most people here are facing some kind of medical condition or unfavourable situationa. Even if you do not want to say it nicely or kindly, you can say it less authoritative. Thank you. VSG on 25 July 2017

Is there anyone who got pregnant before the recommended 12-18 mths post op? Due to my age, 36 this year i hope to start getting pregnant asap. I was sleeved on July 2017. i have consulted my dr abt this and i will see him in January 2018 to see if my weight stabilizes. I would like to check how is your experience in getting pregnant before 12 mths. Thanks! VSG on 25 July 2017

Wow.. u look very different! I can say that your hard work (and pain) paid off from the looks of it. And your hair looks fine and good! All the best to you and your family! Im 8 days post op and im not in a hurry to lose weight quickly to avoid loose skin too! Though my flesh is starting to feel soft and flabby. [emoji21] VSG on 25 July 2017

Mine was last Tues. 25 july. My incisions still feeling a bit sore when i move around but it gets better by the day. My main issue is drinking my fluids and takes me a couple of hours just to finish my 10oz protein milk..i am feeling a bit of dehydrated and hope to take in more liquids as time goes by. VSG on 25 July 2017