Only immediate family and my coworkers and boss (all very supportive) know I've had RNY. It's not a secret and if they ask, I'll tell them, but I didn't want to hear any negativity, cause it's bound to happen. My husband has been great! made all his own food or brought it home, so that I didn't have to cook food. I encouraged him to get food if we were on the road. Didn't bother me. I'm very blessed to have such a carring husband.