I have not had the sleeve yet. But I did go thru lap band almost 9 years ago. No body could tell that I had anything done but eventually ask about the weight loss. I openly answered all question asked. I did not receive any negative feedback. When they see how happy you are with your new good health. They should be happy for you and if not. I would let them know you see no reason to share this journey with them. I hope to have the sleeve procedure my self. The doctor will not consider doing the procedure until I lose more weight. Wants me to be down to 244. I had to have my band removed a year ago in June. It has been a long battle to get to the point I am at now. I pray that he can do it. The program worked for me before. I lost 175 pounds and did change my life in a positive way and do not want to go back to that life I had then.