brandyII

Is the Sam's club fish boxed up or in the fish department?

I didn't notice Callie looked pregnant but I guess she and Rose could go through it together, maybe everyone will be pregnant in the fall except for that bitchy new surgeon, what's her face who is not Callie's baby's daddy!

So true, so true, the way he's been waiting they're probably going to have quads! I know that doesn't make sense but just go with it, lol, brandyII.

Wow BJean, You were able to express it in a way I wish I could. That was beautifully written, insightful and extremely sincere!!!! Thanks brandyII.

Northwest_Nance, That's so true, all of my doctors prior to surgery were very concerned about it too and I probably quit close to 20 years ago also. Kind of scary in a way isn't it? I always thought once you quit it reversed a lot of the bad pretty quickly but now I'm not positive if it's true or not.

He doesn't have to have sex with Rose again, she's probably already carrying their love child! And Meredith will just politely step away and let them be together and I won't watch it because I'll be really pissed again!

It's been so rough out there I was contemplating looking into some of my daughter's spell books:scared2:

BJean, Where the heck have you been! You're not allowed to take time off! LOL brandyII.:biggrin: spell check

I had quit years before my surgery but my daughter was still smoking and they wanted it stopped six weeks prior to surgery that was their rule. Good luck, I know it can't be easy, brandyII.:biggrin:

There are reasons why people change from spanking households to non-spanking households. When you're raised in a violent home and found it to be very stressful and disturbing the last thing you want to do is raise your "babies" in that same type of atmosphere. I think in some ways I'm super sensitive to it so you'll have to forgive me. I just could never spank my kids. It's not that I was beaten by any means but I just like the peacefulness that our home has. Does that make sense? I'm trying to be honest about it. brandyII.

Well as I said before, I'm not Dr. Phil's biggest fan but I knew his opinions on the matter so I used some of his wisdom. I'm not going to argue it anymore because it's futile in my opinion. We all come here from different backgrounds and types of families and when you've been raised in one of alcoholism/chaos/violence you tend to be more sensitive to it, brandyII.

I'm lucky that I've never really had to make the tough decision a lot of women have had to make and not lightly. But as far as I know abortion is still legal in the United States and I don't think anyone should take away a woman's right to her own body! brandyII

Celexa is one I'm not familiar with, I guess everyone has their own combo that works. Have they affected you at all with your weight loss? brandyII.

Part of my extensive pre-op testing was testing in the pulmonary department of the hospital and I don't know what they called that breathing test but I could never get to the point I was supposed to and then when they do the blood test to see the oxygen level in your blood mine was too low which started a whole new thing where I had to meet with a pulmonologist who said I needed a sleep study which I did and was found to have many apneas during the night. But I got the clues I needed it prior at the hospital. My daughter passed all her pulm tests and had a sleep study prior to her preop for surgery and found that she's a snorer who has disrupted sleep but not apneas. So I don't know if that would have counted toward her comorbids or not but her BMI was high enough so wasn't necessary. Some clues to having sleep apnea besides snoring can be headaches during the day and usually you're pretty darn tired because you lack a good quality of sleep.

I do remember my daughter being on ambilfy and have a bad reaction. I may say something to my nurse practitioner about xanax because I think the clonapin maybe slowing my metab down a bit and I've reduced to once a day prior to bed. I posted about a depression program I watched and a drug to counteract the weight gain on "struggling lap bandsters" under "lap band complications" and am curious to see if anything comes up there about a drug I read about called zonegran or zonisamide. thanks brandyII

Apples2, Just wondering if your son was able to get treatment for his PTSD since he's been home. I know there is a stigma associated with psychiatric disorders especially in the military but I also know that it's probably something that should be treated professionally. Also, last Thanksgiving I went with my husband to Arlington Cemetery to visit his father's grave, he had passed away in 1966. I know it's off the track a bit but it was such a beautiful place and it was so touching being there. I had gone there before about 20 years ago prior to moving from that area but just never remembered what a majestic and moving place it really was. If anyone ever gets a chance to visit Wash. D.C. make sure you go to Arlington Cemetery. We're lucky because we have a special pass to drive to his grave site but there could be a lot of walking involved. brandyII.

That was funny Fanny, brandyII.

wantsobad, I wish I was one who suffered those types of side effects but my other med, the clonapin slows down my metabolism, who knows what the combo does. I also sufferer from sexual side effects but sometimes a glass of wine helps! Normally I don't drink much, unless I have company or out socially but when it comes to sex I may need a glass of something to get things moving again even though alcohol can add to the delay also! What we do for sanity:rolleyes2: I watched a show last night, 2 hours on PBS on depression and it also dealt with manic depression (bipolar), postpartum, depression in the elderly, children, teenagers and suicide and was really informative. They've located centers in the brain and for some people they've actually put in some type of pace maker to assist in helping them with depression. I'm not a brainiac by any means but it's a relief to know that they're learning so much more and that we are all so different when it comes to treatment and how long it can sometimes take to get the right mix of drugs working. This one man was taking a cocktail of drugs you wouldn't believe but he's finally found the right mix! Also the stigma attached to anxiety and depression is still there and I've found that in my own life and have suffered for it. They say just talking about it really helps and its true. Sometimes there's shame involved and they say it's a medical condition, if we had some other brain disorder like a tumor we wouldn't be ashamed to talk of it but with anxiety and depression etc... we still are somewhat. I believe in someways it has taken a roll in my failure with the band, not just the meds but my anxiety levels and depression in general and I would be nice to be able to overcome that one day:thumbup:brandyII

Julie asked for some and I listed some info from a professional and suggested she search out some books and other materials on other methods to use other than spanking. I know spanking is a much easier solution when it comes to discipline but sometimes you have to sit back and look at the whole picture.:rolleyes2:

Wow behamgal, that's a lot for anyone to handle. I hope they're short lived too. Most people I know that have them like you do, do seem to get them under control sooner or later. It sounds like you have a great support system in place and a great attitude and just remember it's just like any other illness that needs to be treated and don't fall in the guilt trap that I always did! Take care brandyII.

Well to be truthful after 27 years together and at my age, and on my meds it was a nice break!:thumbup:

Maybe I'm wrong but I think there's something to that perpetual new dating time when you always starve yourself and if you hook up and get comfy together you can put it on. I've seen it with a lot of people including myself but it's been such a long time ago that it's hard to remember!

It's purely positional:lol:

I started watching Private Practice and really liked it in the beginning and I think Greys was annoying me then because there was too much whining going on but then Greys got much better later and I didn't like Private Practice as much. I still like Greys the best.

benhamgal, hey we're here to support you and I guess it's frustrating when you just want to know a little question and "bam" you get opinions from left and right and up and down! We get a little too passionate here about stuff. I did have the same symptoms about 19 years ago after my last baby was born and I thought I was having a heart attack so my husband called my primary, who I still see, and we went there and they hooked me up to an EKG and told me I was having a panic attack. Recommended I see a psychiatrist and put me on something that totally zombied me out, wish I still had some or knew what it was and that's when I first began treatment for anxiety and depression. I guess the crying all the time gave away the depression part and the not breathing at night and the chest pain gave away my anxiety. I get panic only during a weird situation when I'm driving and have to come to a light, I'm always afraid I'm not going to stop in time or I'll stop too soon and someone will hit either way! I'm also not too thrilled with driving on highways or in the dark but that may just be my failing eyesight! Anyway I tend to avoid situations that would cause that stress so as to not have a full blown attack I suppose. I've gotten better, there was a time when I would not even get in a car and drive myself a block so I believe I'm a lot better but I'm nowhere where I was when I was an independent teenager on my own going everywhere! I've kind of learned to accept my limitations and often that came with guilt especially because I felt like a failed human being, mother, sister, wife, daughter because there were things I just couldn't do like a normal person anymore. It was difficult for me to understand my daughter's panic attacks because I was so different from her. Hers were kind of like yours they would come on, possibly more than one a day and there didn't seem to be any rhyme or reason. At first I thought they were only at school so that was what it was then she would have them at home too. I'm a fixer type person, daughter of an alcoholic so to most psychiatrists it all makes sense. Anyway I wanted to "fix" her and it also made me feel guilty that I passed on my lovely genes to her and it was my fault she was having these horrible issues with panic disorder and was even hospitalized at one time when I took her to a doctor for very bad depression and had tried many meds that weren't working, I turn around and she's admitting her into a psych hospital.:cursing: Anywho, I just wish you well, I just watched a show on depression on PBS and it was really informative. New studies on the brain and all and anxiety. Hopefully they'll get us all straight one day so we don't have to suffer so long. They did make a comment that if someone was in pain lets say for some physical injury they wouldn't let it go weeks before they found something that relieved the pain like they do for psychological issues. You did mention that you're a very busy person and don't have time to let things fall apart. Everyone is depending on you so maybe you do need to take some time out for yourself, just a thought, take care brandyII:smile: