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I called Aetna to see if Bariartic surgery or Lap Band was covered by my employers contract and it was NO of course...but the rep suggested I appeal to Aetna for the surgery. My question is do I send in a request wait for the No and then Appeal? Because like most obese people I have not been to the doctor regularly, but I have co morbidities, 40plus BMI and my therapist said she would sign off on Lap band surgery, which surprised me because 2 years ago she was dead set against Gastric Bypass. I'm stuck now - which way do I go .......I guess I need to see my PCP duh!

How dare you .....how dare you change........how dare you take care of you.... You are changing your role in your mother-in-laws story, you are refusing to remain the person she would prefer you to be and she has to say something nasty to try to put you back in your place.....the place she needs you to be in....like another poster said.....some people need to hurt or keep others down to feel better about themselves. Be proud of yourself 50 pounds is a Big lose for crying out loud.....I'd kill for 50 less pounds......50 less pounds would make sitting in a plane seat easier, you probably needed to move your seat in the car up ...and your undies are probably feeling different......celebrate your little victories with yourself and if necessary keep them to yourself ..I know it sucks not to shout but not everyone is in your corner......so keep it to yourself until the Haters fall away and the REAL friends rise to the top!:biggrin2: and the donuts are not the enemy but they aren't your friends either!!:thumbup:

I'm new to this journey and this never occurred to me but I would think if you are obese and have large layers of abdominal fat the surgeon would take that into consideration with the placement of the port.......experience would tell him how deep he would need to go ...maybe I'm either new or to apt to suspect but this looks like a way to get more expensive redos, or flouroscopes to charge for. Which is cheaper an office fill or a fluoroscopy fill? I would contact the insurer of this doctor - if they paid for this fill and report he faked a fill just to get you out the door. Unfortunately, as overweight women and men we are to apt to not fight for ourselves and blame ourselves...as you seemed to be saying because YOU haven't reached your goal - you didn't fake the fill and you didn't implant the port in a place of fatty layers without considering depth - the SURGEON did this .....maybe you should try another surgeon ...i have no experience yet hopefully someone with more experience will be able to suggest a nother doctor who has more integrity.

You are definitely not alone......we have all eaten and afterwards felt the shame and disbelief that how could I have eaten an entire half gallon of ice cream in 24 hours....then comes the shame, blame and disgust which just makes you want to eat again. One word.......get a therapist .....find out how to think without food and to actually feel your emotions. I've spent most of my life disconnected and without someone to tell me whether I'm doing it right or n ot. Emotional eating is ironic because you aren't feeling the emotions - the food is the replacement - you will need to find new replacement - I won't tell you to take a walk (ha) - replace it with new adventures - for me it will be sitting in seats on airplanes, broadway or theater without the arms digging or getting wedged in. Post your date big and bold on the calender, get a therapist and ask God to bless you and give you the strength. I believe God placed the book Fighting Weight in my hands for a reason... to save my life. You are saving your life....:thumbup:

I read Khaliah Ali's story Fighting Weight and it was like looking into a mirror. Several years ago I considered Gastric Bypass and my therapist wouldn't give approval, my employer stopped paying for bariatric surgery and so I didn't give it much more consideration after that. The gastric surgery always scared me, a friend had the surgery over 5 years ago and she has regained weight. I've been working with my therapist and we agreed gastric bypass was too radical. But after reading Fighting Weight, I thing banding is the answer, and it helped me see that being severely obese is a medical condition along with my co-morbidities - hbp, syndrome x, pcos, depression and anxiety. I think I'm better equipped for banding than I was when I was considering gastric bypass. I haven't been able to figure out why I can't get myself to exercise everyday but in the book it was the factor of failing, failing again, not being able to face doing the work and failing, we set ourselves up to fail believing the People magazine yearly article "Losing 100 pounds without Surgery doing it with Exercise and Diet" - what chances do I have losing more than 100 pounds with just diet and exercise. Banding is a tool and I'm ready to use it

Glad you are feeling better and hope to be in your position. I'm just starting after reading Khalil Ali's Fighting Weight about her journey to lap band surgery. I face appealing to my insurance company because of course my employer doesn't have gastric surgery in our policy. I just thought I would say congrats on taking the step and feeling better ! :thumbup: